New puppy...

[Doggynono]

I am not a dog person never have been...DP loves dogs all four kids love dogs. I am allergic to dogs some I can tolerate. Anyway they all went on and on DP told me for the kids childhood we should get them a dog I caved. He promised he would do everything with the dog. We got a 'hypoallergenic' breed I went and visited without taking antihistamine twice and all was fine. Anyway we're a week into having the new puppy and my allergies are flaring up. I just feel crap with them sore eyes, sneezing, a little bit wheezing thankfully no rashes. I'm trying not to be round her too much as I feel miserable have been taking 2 antihistamines a day but they aren't doing much. DP is raging at me he keeps throwing me dirty looks when I sneeze so there is no way I can say about Rehoming. He's also huffing about having to sleep downstairs with the dog while we crate train but again he was the one who wanted the dog not me. Plus I don't want to do that on the kids and dog.

any tips on what I can do here? Do hepa air purifiers work? I hoover, mop and damp wipe every day and she isn't allowed upstairs

Completely agree. I despise the whole designer dog breeding thing. Could moan about it for hours.

Your DH is treating you like an unwanted housemate.
Stop looking after his dog at least until you know if your allergy will subside.

There is no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog. I’m allergic to dogs, can tolerate about an hour or two in the same house before I start sneezing, wheezing eyes puff up, it’s actually on my medical notes as slow anaphylaxis because the reaction is so severe.

There is absolutely no way we could ever have one. Despite the pressure from my kids and DH. Being able to tolerate one a couple of times is completely different to having one in your house! If you knew you were allergic to them why agree?

If anything you are unlikely to build immunity to any dog

I honestly can’t believe you were so stupid as to cave in the first place. You now need to remind EVERYONE that this is not your dog, you made it clear from the beginning that you would have nothing to do with her, therefore THEY need to do full 100% care. End of. None of this, well just have her for a morning lark. YOU need to be as hard as they are.

I believe it’s possible to have a vaccine made up.
Put air purifiers in each room and keep them on.
Keep the fur short and have her bathed weekly. (Nowadays shampoos for dogs are very good) Talk to the Groomer who clips and bathes the dog,she should be able to recommend sprays etc.
Find a herbalist/ homeopathic vet/ homeopathic doctor to talk to.
Your partner sounds as if he’s feeling very guilty. Could you involve him in your search for an answer?
At a push….would you consider asking a neighbour/ friend/ local person to house her. The children could visit to feed, groom , exercise They could change and wash before coming home.

Best wishes for sorting this problem.

https://www.humaneworld.org/en/resources/how-live-allergies-and-pets

To the poster telling you crate training is cruel. Oh do behave. Crate training is perfectly fine. Doesn't cause bone deficiency or stop a dog from growing what absolute nonsense, carry on as you are with crate training. A pup needs it's space that it can be put away from busy family life and have down time. They need to learn space from humans otherwise you create a very very big issue for yourself. Hope you get your allergies sorted so that it's more manageable.

That's similar to what happened with DD and her cat allergy. A friend moved in with her and he came with a very large fluffy cat (she did know about this beforehand). She struggled at first and had to take lots of antihistamines, but after a while it didn't seem to bother her too much. She obviously avoids the cat where possible, but it's Sod's Law that he has really taken to her!

So it has 2 non shedding breeds in it and 1 shedding breed.

it depends on what you’re allergic to in regards to the dog.

i know people can overcome pet allergies but if you don’t, this dog would’ve got attached to everyone by then and will be harder for the dog and the family members to rehome.

i think with a known dog allergy, you were very stupid to get a dog and your partner was an idiot to push the idea.

you have two choices, rehome the dog or persevere with the dog and see if the allergy improves.

Crating is cruel. It is illegal in Finland, Sweden and Austria, with good reason. It can cause muscle atrophy in larger breeds as well as having an impact psychologically.
Dogs can have a safe space within your home without being locked in a cage all night.

So another poor pup will end up in kennels because of a human. If you didn't know you had allergies fair enough but, as you did know.....
I can't believe you caved.

@Doggynono you are highly likely to stop reacting soon, both myself and DH did after a bit, can react still to other dogs though

So my older dog is never in a crate, my 9 week old puppy is in a crate at night only. My older dog sleeps on a bed at the top of the stairs which is the same size as a crate.

She doesn’t get off her bed, she wears a pitpat so I know she doesn’t move all night. She doesn’t have muscle atrophy so I don’t see why a crate (overnight) would either.

I certainly wouldn’t use a crate for longer than overnight. Dogs should be settled and sleeping then anyway. I won’t use it for the puppy once I can trust him not to get himself in danger and that I know he’ll feel secure enough to be settled all night which I do believe the crate helps with. He’s slept 7.5 hrs plus without waking since the first night. I have to wake him up at 6am when I get up.

Not in the UK it's not. Please supply all documentation and proof of this nonsense. I'm guessing you believe it's cruel to have a dog in a kennel or give it a hard plastic bed. Or give it dog food. What dog breed do you have? Does it live longer because as a puppy it was given a house to roam chew electric cables, get into that bottle of bleach that's under the cupboard. Eat something that's poisonous. I have had labs all my life. They have all been crate trained. I don't put them in a crate that's the same size of them, the crate is rather large, takes up lots of space but means they have a place to wind down from the family life, have somewhere safe to go when no one is in the house. Just because that certain lifestyle for a dog doesn't work for you don't tell or try and scare someone to think that they are wrong. People just do things differently and that's ok. If you want to have your dog in a kennel by all means go for it. If you have a husky live in Iceland and tie them with a chain to the coller and a bar in the floor. Go go it. Not my lifestyle not my decision. But I dnt for one second think I have the right to try and scare someone into doing something differently just because my country does it different.

Some air purifiers are poisonous to dogs

Also asking for a friend how do you travel in a vehicle with a dog in Finland, Austria, Sweden? How does the police travel with their police cars and police dogs doing a shift is it in a crate by any chance? Is that police dog in their for like 8 hours and just brought out when needed and let out to exercise. It's also a adult dog right???? not a puppy?????

Not really sure why you didnt get a cat/rabbit/something else

But now you have you do need to talk to DH. Go.to GP see if you can stronger antihistamines. Tell DH if that doesnt work rehousing may need to be considered but also remind him if he wants this he needs to get over his moods. He cant ask you to make yourself ill for a dog hes whinging about caring for

Not necessarily. Dogs, unlike cats, can breed at any time of year and the pups may have been an accident. They still need homes even if it's Christmas.

Bloody hell, your dp sounds like a right charmer

Cats can breed all year round too. It’s very unlikely these puppies were an accident.

The only victim in this is the dog.

Why not a straight poodle?!
Can't stand the cross bred mixed mutts they charge a bomb for and promise all sorts of things it will and won't have. But the thing is they can't pick which genes the crossed mutt gets. You have a dog with a while lot going on there and you could have got a straight poodle and been guaranteed what you're going to get.
There is also no such thing as a legitimate registered breeder of a cross breed because they aren't a breed. The only registration they can get is a made up one by dodgy breeders to sound legit.

Sorry but your second mistake after agreeing to get a dog is the mess that breed sounds. A poodle would probably have been ok but you could have the dominant gene being the other breed meaning it will shed etc...

What a mess..but I never feel sorry for people who support the ridiculous dodgy breeders selling their cross bred mutts....

Sorry but accidents like this happen to irresponsible owners.
I get irrationally angry at irresponsible owners and breeders. Those who purchase and support these mixed mutt "breeders" that promise everything the idiot buyer wants to hear are just as irresponsible.
There needs to be tougher breeding laws and harsher penalties for doing it. Plus the buyers of these genetic nightmares should be penalised too..

Can't understand why people still support it. Often see these atrocities selling for thousands more than a pure bred dog where you can be guaranteed the characteristics. It's like people enjoy being ripped off to see what surprise they get. Like a blind bag toy forgetting it's an actual little life involved.

People deserve what they get when they support dodgy breeders. There are animals lives at stake here but the breeders only see money and idiots are gullible. Sad state of affairs.

Zero sympathy for any outcome where people buy these things. Kinda knew it was c going to be a poodle cross something (though I'd didn't expect that many breeds involved (crossing cross breeds are a whole new set of genetic problem) any time someone uses the word hypo-allergenic when referring to a dog they bought you can always put money on the fact they're gullible and have bought into the dodgy marketing of a dodgy breeder.

We put our dog in a crate only at bedtime as a puppy. I switched the living room light off and he walked to his crate. Cockerpoo dude of a dog. He's an old man now, pretty much deaf and eye sight not good. He sleeps on our bedroom floor.

Yeah. Your husband sounds like a nasty pos. Isnt he worried about you at all?