New puppy...

[Doggynono]

I am not a dog person never have been...DP loves dogs all four kids love dogs. I am allergic to dogs some I can tolerate. Anyway they all went on and on DP told me for the kids childhood we should get them a dog I caved. He promised he would do everything with the dog. We got a 'hypoallergenic' breed I went and visited without taking antihistamine twice and all was fine. Anyway we're a week into having the new puppy and my allergies are flaring up. I just feel crap with them sore eyes, sneezing, a little bit wheezing thankfully no rashes. I'm trying not to be round her too much as I feel miserable have been taking 2 antihistamines a day but they aren't doing much. DP is raging at me he keeps throwing me dirty looks when I sneeze so there is no way I can say about Rehoming. He's also huffing about having to sleep downstairs with the dog while we crate train but again he was the one who wanted the dog not me. Plus I don't want to do that on the kids and dog.

any tips on what I can do here? Do hepa air purifiers work? I hoover, mop and damp wipe every day and she isn't allowed upstairs

Try getting your allergy under control. I became an involuntary dog owner. I came across a homeless man with a tiny puppy, I paid him for her, it was a shock to the system, night crying, toilet training, she’s a shedding breed and I’m house proud but I have fallen in love with her, she’s a huge part of the family, the children love her, she’s here 3 years now.

You’re right , crate training is good for them .
The crate needs to be large enough , comfortable and a safe and quiet place for them .
Initially the crate can be used so that the dog is safe and doesn’t chew anything when left unsupervised/ alone .
Then you can start to leave the door open so they can choose to come and go .
This helps as there will be occasions when they need to be in a crate at the vets or for travel .

Your husband sounds awful, he’s been guilt tripping you at every step. It’s quite cruel to see you have allergies to this dog and ask you to pay him £800. He knew you had allergies from the outset

That is so unfair on your family to get a dog when they knew you were allergic and then to be so unreasonable whenever you are showing allergy symptoms.
I have allergies to many things so I’d have to take antihistamines , nasal sprays and asthma inhalers anyway ( fexofenadine is good )
My dog doesn’t make my symptoms any worse but he’s a terrier so a non shedding breed .
Another thing you could do is get air purifiers , a robot vacuum cleaner.

I’m sure someone has said it, but I am very allergic to cats and dogs annd have bad asthma, and I have two cats and a labradoodle. You do get used to your own pets, so mine don’t set me off now. But as soon as I am around my Mum’s cats and dogs I am itching and wheezing. I still wash my hands after petting my cats.

my cousin was also crazy allergic, but again, you get used to your own pets. I would give it some time.

We have a cat and dog, husband is allergic to both. And they're his pets!
If it is any help, fexofenadine (prescription strength) work far better than other antihistamines.
Husband's allergies are so bad that he's been referred to dermatology and immunology and will be starting new medication which should re-set his immune system shortly.
Dont know about the system you mentioned.

Exactly this. Poor dog

If you can hang on a while longer you may well adjust. When I lost my childhood dog, my allergies towards dogs became worse, and when we got a new dog 18 months later, I was quite allergic to him. Over time it faded to a manageable level (I.e I’d need to rub my face on the dog to really get a bad reaction!)

Ive known the same with other people, getting a pet they’re allergic to and kind of “acclimating” to it.

You really think she should pay this arsehole back half his money when he hasn’t thought of her well being at all? Dream on springs to mind.

Wouldn’t make a jot of difference. No such thing as a hypoallergenic dog. It’s not even the fur, it’s generally dander and saliva that causes allergic reactions.

Why would the father being a poodle make it ok? It would still be a cross breed.

It can live outside in a kennel

Crates used properly aren’t cruel. My last dog was a nutcase as a puppy. He would not sleep. He fell asleep on me once through his whole puppyhood. The only way he’d sleep was if we put him in his crate for an hour, as that was his little space where he felt calm, he wouldn’t have stayed in a normal dog bed at that age as he was too hyper.

He slept in it overnight for the first few months and it made toilet training a total breeze with him. Once he was a few months old he didn’t need the crate anymore and progressed to a normal dog bed and being loose in the house all the time.

They aren’t designed for the dog to live in, they’re for overnight and very brief periods of time during the day. It wouldn’t mean they’re never taken for a walk or exercised, not sure why you’d think that.

I’m allergic to all animal hair but we have a dog and we did have 3 cats. I used to suffer terribly when they were new to the household and was having to take antihistamines twice a day. Over time though, I have built up my immunity and my own animals no longer affects me. Really hope that taking antihistamines and being careful with clothing and bedding helps you!

The partner, yea?

You’ve got 4 breeds of dog thete

the only one that doesn’t malt is the poodle.

You crossed two cross breeds. Not a good idea at all.

So you answer to that is that you say it's either me or the dog. And stick to it. He cannot expect you to live like this for at least 12 years.

You can get dander wipes that you use on the dog I believe. I’m not sure if they work but it might be something to look into.

Purely because you mentioned your holiday...I have luckily built up an immunity to my own dog - although take daily antihistamines and inhalers still, but if I spend more than a few days away from him or away from my home, that immunity starts from scratch. Be prepared to go through it after each holiday. I knew this going in, so was well aware of the commitment. FWIW, I am terribly allergic to every family and friends' poodle crosses I have met, there is no guarantee with them.

At least after you ditch your arsehole and the dog goes to his house you can fumigate the kids on handover days and your house will be allergen free 💁🏼‍♀️ not what the thread is about, but his behaviour and comments are absolutely disgusting! I hope your symptoms improve in the new year.

It's obvious, re-home.

I can't believe you need to ask.

So much to unpack here:
The decision making
The partner
The coercion
The Unethical Breeder
The Financial bullying

Main point though you are ALLERGIC
My DS (age 22) is allergic to dogs, has been since he was tiny, requires Salbutamol inhaler etc this year he also ended up on a course of STEROIDS following a bad reaction after being around a dog as he couldnt breathe properly!
The GP said he must NOT be around dogs

The problem here is your nasty, selfish husband who is treating you cruelly.
Please look into healthy vs abusive relationships and assertiveness.

What you have said about your husband is alarming. Healthy relationships don't look like that and you deserve better.

It's very sad that the dog didn't work out (not least for the innocent dog) but it needs to be rehomed.

It's because people pay it. They are mislead by "hybrid vigour" and do not realise the parents of the dogs will not be good examples of the foundation breeds, are unlikely to be health tested, may be totally incompatible conformation wise, may have serious underlying health issues and the "breeders" are actually puppy farmers focussed on money not dog welfare.

There are low allergy breeds eg pure poodle. A pure poodle would have been much more suitable in the current example. There are also non poodle breeds. It's easy to google and is what should have been done here.

@Doggynono the fact he wants you to pay him back doesn't seems to bother you suggests that your sense of what is right/wrong/fair in a normal relationship is off.

You have a bigger problem to deal and suggest not to add a puppy to the mix. Don't waste time and energy managing the allergy, rehome the dog before the kids get attached (it would also be a kind thing to do to the dog provided you find her a suitable home) and focus on how your husband treats you. You are focusing on the wrong thing at the moment.

This whole thread is so sad. People buying dogs with no thought of the impact, getting rid because it’s not the easy dream they imagined, back yard breeders charging hundreds for a crossbreed. The whole thing is a farce and the animal suffers.

You agreed to getting a dog so you have to do the responsible thing and step up. If you knew you were allergic, why did you agree? As always, it’s the poor animal that suffers.

FWIW, you will build an immunity to your dog over time. I used to be crazy allergic to dogs and horses. I own two of each.