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Sister is angry over a car

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Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:35

Hi
My sister has cut me out of her life because my husband bought the same model car as her! (Different colour). My sister is ten years older than me (she’s 50). I don’t drive, I had no input into his choice of new car. We had a car accident and he needed a new one. We only seen her once a year, live totally different areas, I really didn’t see it being a problem. I heard through family she was furious so my husband contacted her to apologise and tell her it had nothing to do with me! Several weeks later I hadn’t heard anything from her so I sent her a scan picture of my 2nd ivf baby and she totally blanked me. Fast forward a year and she still hasn’t spoken to me. I met her 25 year old daughter for dinner last week and she clarified her mum is still raging and is demanding an apology off me! This is the thing I don’t understand, she is ignoring the fact I’m a non driver, it’s not like I bought the car for my use. She is trying to pin this whole thing on me. For me though this runs deeper on my part now. She has missed out on the birth of my son, ignored my 2 year old daughter, has not acknowledged the baby’s birth and she stopped her husband joining us for dinner last week, told him he’s not allowed to speak to us! I don’t even know what to think, I think the situation is as mad as a box of frogs! Advice would be appreciated thanks

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grandolddukeofyork10000 · 31/12/2025 13:18

Ignore the silly bitch

RedToothBrush · 31/12/2025 13:20

Let her get on with it.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 31/12/2025 13:23

OhcantthInkofaname · 30/12/2025 01:25

Has anyone mentioned menopause?

You mean the new version of accusing women of being inherently psychologically unbalanced because of the condition of their uterus and ovaries? With a side order of ageism to go with the historical misogyny?

Only you at this point in the thread.

HandmadeNanna · 31/12/2025 18:33

Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:35

Hi
My sister has cut me out of her life because my husband bought the same model car as her! (Different colour). My sister is ten years older than me (she’s 50). I don’t drive, I had no input into his choice of new car. We had a car accident and he needed a new one. We only seen her once a year, live totally different areas, I really didn’t see it being a problem. I heard through family she was furious so my husband contacted her to apologise and tell her it had nothing to do with me! Several weeks later I hadn’t heard anything from her so I sent her a scan picture of my 2nd ivf baby and she totally blanked me. Fast forward a year and she still hasn’t spoken to me. I met her 25 year old daughter for dinner last week and she clarified her mum is still raging and is demanding an apology off me! This is the thing I don’t understand, she is ignoring the fact I’m a non driver, it’s not like I bought the car for my use. She is trying to pin this whole thing on me. For me though this runs deeper on my part now. She has missed out on the birth of my son, ignored my 2 year old daughter, has not acknowledged the baby’s birth and she stopped her husband joining us for dinner last week, told him he’s not allowed to speak to us! I don’t even know what to think, I think the situation is as mad as a box of frogs! Advice would be appreciated thanks

I can't see your sister's logic. Surely it's a compliment if someone copies you, although, in this instance all your dh was doing was replacing his car. Perhaps your sister has other issues which she needs to address.

Hopingtobeaparent · 31/12/2025 18:47

Joolsin · 30/12/2025 12:07

I see two options for you, op: 1 is to continue as you are, confused, with certain family members urging you to apologise for nothing. The second option, which will resolve everything one way or the other, is to go round to your sister and confront her with her batshittyness. Tell her she doesn't have a veto on Range Rovers, you didn't even buy the stupid car, and you're sick of her behaviour. Either the air will be cleared or she'll sulk for ever. Either way, you'll have taken some control back and can move on.

@Mon85

This.

I suspect you are past the point of return with her and the hurt now, even if she did apologise, but I think telling her so may be cathartic - she’s been a proper petty stuck up princess!!

Mum23plusC · 31/12/2025 18:56

What an utterly ridiculous situation. Sorry that YOUR SISTER is missing out on all the good things happening to you. You've already said sorry, it wasn't your choice. She sounds very bitter and twisted over nothing!

Nantescalling · 31/12/2025 19:19

I wouldn't bother about her any more. She sounds like a pathetic waste of space. You have built the bridges but she preferred to walk away. Let her!

croydon15 · 31/12/2025 19:28

Ellie56 · 30/12/2025 12:19

She is a complete batshit fruit loop. Life is far too short to be worrying about such unhinged nonsense.

Just get on with your own life and ignore her and the other crazy relatives who are pandering to her.

You can't reason with stupid, so there is no point in trying.

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This - she's mad.

Wildefish · 31/12/2025 19:44

Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:35

Hi
My sister has cut me out of her life because my husband bought the same model car as her! (Different colour). My sister is ten years older than me (she’s 50). I don’t drive, I had no input into his choice of new car. We had a car accident and he needed a new one. We only seen her once a year, live totally different areas, I really didn’t see it being a problem. I heard through family she was furious so my husband contacted her to apologise and tell her it had nothing to do with me! Several weeks later I hadn’t heard anything from her so I sent her a scan picture of my 2nd ivf baby and she totally blanked me. Fast forward a year and she still hasn’t spoken to me. I met her 25 year old daughter for dinner last week and she clarified her mum is still raging and is demanding an apology off me! This is the thing I don’t understand, she is ignoring the fact I’m a non driver, it’s not like I bought the car for my use. She is trying to pin this whole thing on me. For me though this runs deeper on my part now. She has missed out on the birth of my son, ignored my 2 year old daughter, has not acknowledged the baby’s birth and she stopped her husband joining us for dinner last week, told him he’s not allowed to speak to us! I don’t even know what to think, I think the situation is as mad as a box of frogs! Advice would be appreciated thanks

Shes bonkers. I fear that no matter what you’ll do she’ll find something to be annoyed about. Accept and move on. Not your fault.

fetchacloth · 31/12/2025 20:18

Personally I wouldn't make your sister's problem your own and leave her to it.
She sounds very insecure and you have enough going on in your own life without taking on her issues. She needs to grow up or go home.

Hopingtobeaparent · 31/12/2025 20:30

IridiumSky · 30/12/2025 14:08

But the husband didn’t buy a ‘a good reliable car’. He bought a Range Rover. 😂

This is obviously in the UK. My analysis is that the story is all about relative status signalling. It’s part of our culture, despite how much we pretend to believe otherwise, which is also part of the culture. 🙄

Range Rovers (although we don’t in this case know which model) are mid-range to high-end cars, which whilst not usually attaining Veblen status, do have an air of ‘success in life’ about them. They are also widely known to be unreliable and expensive to maintain - it needs money not only to buy, but also to maintain and to repair these cars.

Assuming this is about status, the sister is aggrieved that she has been matched by the OP. It’s poker. The sister will probably raise next year by buying a more expensive model. I hope none of the players in this dangerous game are doing it on expensive credit: that way madness lies.

But here’s the cultural kicker: to be openly aggrieved by this plants the sister firmly in a working class category, someone who is (ridiculously) using possessions to pretend to be of a higher status than she really is. I believe the term for such people (in pre-decimalisation days 😉) was ‘two bob snobs’.

Genuinely rich people would find the perceived ‘copying’ funny, or more likely not even notice: Range Rovers? Pah! Everyone has one.

Aren’t anonymous forums fun? This could never be discussed in real life. 😄

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Also this! 😂

I’ve worked in the motor trade and wouldn’t touch JLR!

OneDaringLurker · 31/12/2025 20:34

Huge congrats on your ivf babies. That road is emotionally and financially draining. There is nothing left to figure out car wars!
Give those babies a hug and know you are right and let the rest get on with it!

Alconleigh · 31/12/2025 20:46

Somehow her having a white Range Rover was predictable from the beginning of this thread. It’s a clear marker of certain sort.

Pessismistic · 31/12/2025 21:26

Hi op this is about your baby not the car. Just leave her to it. She’s jealous of you.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 31/12/2025 22:57

If she cares about what car you have, at all, we'll ... she's a twait. Ignore her, get on with your life

Brefugee · 31/12/2025 22:59

she is being utterly pathetic and ridiculous, and so is everyone in your family, including her DH, who are pandering to this batshittery.

I am petty and vindictive. I would most definitely be copying her hairdo (wig?) clothing etc etc and turning up places i know she would be. Just for the shits and giggles.

Just laugh at her.

CameltoeParkerBowles · 31/12/2025 23:02

Notmyreality · 30/12/2025 12:02

Oh you’ve done it now. MN hates RR’s. All the votes will change to YABU!

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True. Range Rover drivers are often awful people. But that doesn't explain why your DSis resents your joining her club. She's clearly a nutcase.

GrooveArmada · 31/12/2025 23:04

This has to be one of the most bonkers things I've read on MN. Sorry, OP. Leave her to it, I can't even find the words to describe how ridiculous this is if it really is over a car!

Even if she has a different reason it's totally unreasonable not to discuss it for such a long time.

Zerosleep · 31/12/2025 23:37

Is she angry at everyone else on the planet who has bought the same car? She is a stupid bitch and you are better off without her. Never heard anything so ridiculous.

Mamabearandcubs · 01/01/2026 07:56

That is totally bonkers! I ‘copied’ my step dad’s car got the exact same model just different colours and his reaction was the total opposite came with me to pick one and showed me how everything worked in that model car. Your sisters reaction is very strange.

LlynTegid · 01/01/2026 08:19

I still maintain a mental health issue that means unfitness to drive. Doubt the DVLA would act if they were advised though.

Jonnybigwallet · 01/01/2026 11:07

What make and model of car is this please? Is it very special? EG High end Mercedes Jaguar etc?

MyHardySwan · 01/01/2026 11:09

Sounds like she is trying to exert control over you OP, hoping youll chase contact especially as the reason is so bizarre! I'd leave her to it she does't sound like she will bring much joy into your life. Sometimes just no contact is best even if it is family. You have done nothing wrong this is a her problem!

Mimzy26 · 01/01/2026 11:10

Cut the idiot off theres always one nutter in the family you dont need her

miss79guided · 01/01/2026 11:14

Mon85 · 30/12/2025 00:35

Hi
My sister has cut me out of her life because my husband bought the same model car as her! (Different colour). My sister is ten years older than me (she’s 50). I don’t drive, I had no input into his choice of new car. We had a car accident and he needed a new one. We only seen her once a year, live totally different areas, I really didn’t see it being a problem. I heard through family she was furious so my husband contacted her to apologise and tell her it had nothing to do with me! Several weeks later I hadn’t heard anything from her so I sent her a scan picture of my 2nd ivf baby and she totally blanked me. Fast forward a year and she still hasn’t spoken to me. I met her 25 year old daughter for dinner last week and she clarified her mum is still raging and is demanding an apology off me! This is the thing I don’t understand, she is ignoring the fact I’m a non driver, it’s not like I bought the car for my use. She is trying to pin this whole thing on me. For me though this runs deeper on my part now. She has missed out on the birth of my son, ignored my 2 year old daughter, has not acknowledged the baby’s birth and she stopped her husband joining us for dinner last week, told him he’s not allowed to speak to us! I don’t even know what to think, I think the situation is as mad as a box of frogs! Advice would be appreciated thanks

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