Will be reported to SS for teddy in cot if I go ahead

[Simplydressed]

My baby is 6 months and teething. It's horrible for her and she's clearly in pain. She's on calpol etc. but I've found that she seems comforted by having a stuffed bear in her cot with her.

Now I know advice is 12 months and while she is pretty good and moving things away from her face she still isn't able to take a blanket off her face fully unaided and can't roll over (only side to back)

My friend says I am insane to risk it. Im a bad parent if I do and she feels she'd need to 'tell someone' as clearly I am unable to consider risk appropriately.

While I get where shes coming from I just feel awful taking the soft yoy away when it brings baby comfort.

So I suppose,

Aibu to consider letting my 6 month old have a teddy in their cot?

She can do what she wants with her own kids. But your baby your rules.

Put a stop to this bs about second mummy and taking her out of sight too.

I know its hard when it is your first but honestly you need to put hernin her place now or it is going to get so much worse.

Personally inwouls be cutting her out of my life, but you need tondecide what is right for you!

OP I would seriously consider taking a step back from this friendship. I don’t blame your husband one bit for not being happy because that kind of behaviour goes beyond odd - it’s an indication that something is clearly amiss.

your friend is insane. Wait until baby is asleep and remove the teddy. Most likely she won’t even notice, that I what myself and lots of friends have done.

What the hell?
Stop seeing this person now.

She is not a friend. Get her out of your life. I’m not joking when I say that if someone I thought was a friend walked off with my baby and refused to give her back I would have firmly taken my baby off her, put her down safely and then booted this person out of my house.

Why on earth is she still in your life?

I think I waited til mine were around a year before I let them have teddies in bed, I just wasn't willing to take the risk.

Your friend is batshit though.

Also I have used a very soft very thin muslin and tied a little knot of each corner, both my babies have loved it and one who is 7 still sleeps with his

Your friend is out of order, but as a friend, I would tell you I am not comfortable with the risk of a teddy with such a young baby.

It wouldn't make any difference if you were both in the same room, and you fast asleep.

Does your baby sleep in your room still?

Thank you so much everyone, that's amazing I now have a plan!
Amazon for Calprofen, hopefully it might be here by tomorrow, and pharmacy for Anbesol.

Also ditch the friend, my Husband will be relieved!

Your friend sounds unhinged and completely overstepping normal boundaries. I’d distance myself from her.

she has mental issues. Genuinely, that's not normal behaviour.

Keep away from the crazy, for your sake and your baby's sake.

Thanks for the heads up! No Ashton's powders 😂

I’m sorry what?! This is mental! Any “friend” who did that with my baby would never be holding them again. And if they pushed I would stop seeing them.

I really hope you tell her to do one she sounds awful!

No advice on the teddy I'm afraid, I was quite anxious when my DS was that age so probably wouldn’t have done it but would not have thought badly AT ALL about any friends that did.

edited to add: the teething granules you can buy are excellent and might help, Waitrose sell them or Amazon.

Why on earth would she be with her child while she falls asleep ?

good sleeping habits mean a child can fall asleep unaided

safety wise , you are better with nothing in cot this young age and firm flat mattress

but I get comforters / tho not sure a teddy really helps and if give her one I would suggest using an angel as well

I wouldn’t personally, it’s not worth the risk, but I suspect social services have more than enough on their plate to give two shits about this.

As an aside, perhaps dump your friend.

They work for some kids. But those and the Nelson ones were like kiddy crack for dd. Dont get me wrong rhe child never slept through the night until she was well over 6 byt that was partly due to a completely unrelated medical issue.

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if you have 1 or 21 kids, we are all winging it and just doing what we think is best with the best advice/gut instinct we have at the time.

Good luck @Simplydressed

Honestly, she has full outfits for her too that she changes her into and special food/toys for her. She has a corner of one of her rooms as a play corner for her with toys and stuff. It's nice she cares but it' a lot.

I don't know, its odd but she was such a support. I'm not sure when it all changed.

Re the teddy I wouldn’t. Teething pain comes and goes and she’ll just get into the habit of wanting it all the time.

Re the “friend” tell her to wind her neck in and fuck off.

Please distance yourself from this person. None of what you describe is normal behaviour.

Ditch your friend she is a weirdo and who knows what she might do.

As for the teddy, I think that a healthy baby at six months would not be at risk from the small teddy you describe. Advice on this stuff comes from very generalised statistics which may or may not make sense in your situation.

What sort of friend threatens to report a friend to social services? She is a nosey interfering old cow. Second Mummy my arse. Your husband is right to not be happy about it.
Get this stupid woman out of your life with immediate effect. There is nothing she can do about this situation, your child, your rules.
I would let her have this small comfort then take it away from her when she us asleep.

Wow keep your friends close and your enemies closer! I wouldn't be talking to this friend about child rearing again any time soon nor tbh anything else. What a nutter.

@Simplydressed the problem with parenting now is there is so much guidance / information overload (often which is conflicting or constantly changing ) that it’s hard to ever feel
like you’re getting anything right.

Agree your friend sounds batshit - and ditch.
lots of good advice already. I personally found Ashton and parsons worked really well with my dc - everything is trial and error.

Re Teddy - I couldn’t get worked up about it if it’s at the opposite end of the cot and your child can’t roll yet. But then again if it’s not even within arms length of your dc then as others have said it’s likely the sound rather than the toy that’s soothing them. Everyone has differing levels of what they feel comfortable with and at some point you will do something that’s not strictly guidance and trust your instinct as a parent. don’t forget less than 20 years ago the guidance was to put babies down on their front ! If it makes you feel better maybe just try the white noise machine without the Teddy at all. Good luck and sorry your friend is mad

Quite. She sounds mad. Just stop seeing her.

Wtf have I just read.

This person is insane and I can't believe you have allowed her to do all of these batshit things until now.