Will be reported to SS for teddy in cot if I go ahead

[Simplydressed]

My baby is 6 months and teething. It's horrible for her and she's clearly in pain. She's on calpol etc. but I've found that she seems comforted by having a stuffed bear in her cot with her.

Now I know advice is 12 months and while she is pretty good and moving things away from her face she still isn't able to take a blanket off her face fully unaided and can't roll over (only side to back)

My friend says I am insane to risk it. Im a bad parent if I do and she feels she'd need to 'tell someone' as clearly I am unable to consider risk appropriately.

While I get where shes coming from I just feel awful taking the soft yoy away when it brings baby comfort.

So I suppose,

Aibu to consider letting my 6 month old have a teddy in their cot?

Your “Friend” has some serious issues. I’d keep well away from her.

Oh, and Ss would think she was a nutter.

Social services wouldn't give a shit and your friend is a dick for suggesting she would report anything.

Teddies in cots aren't recommended and personally i wouldn't have felt comfortable with it because of the suffocation risk, but at six months you can take a view. The increased risk is very small; you will know what your own limits for comfort are.

I hope your baby is feeling better soon.

It's an otter, you can't breathe through it, its pretty solid for a soft toy. It's tummy rises and makes a breathing noise. I'm sorry I'm not sure what they are called.

Thank you 😊

Omg why are you friends with this person?!

Ah, yeah sounds like a white noise machine then. Could this be more likely what is soothing her, rather than physically seeing / touching the toy? Maybe just put the teddy near her cot with the breathing noise on, see if that helps?

I'm not sure now. We used to get along really well but it changed when I had my baby.
She is quite territorial over her too. She'll take her off me and not give her back. Walks away with her where I can't see them, tells her she is her second mummy. It's a bit odd.
My Husband isn't particularly happy about it all.

Just pitching in to say: ibuprofen in her tummy and anbesol liquid on her gums will help teething pain significantly more than a teddy.

Your "friend" needs to wind her neck in. I couldn't wait to get each of my babies into their own rooms, and they all slept far better once they were.

Stop telling her anything.

I may sound dramatic, but this gave me chills OP. Please distance yourself from her asap. She’s clearly trying to assert dominance over you and using your baby to do it!

On a separate note, does your baby respond well to the teething gels? My youngest is now five so I’m not sure if it’s still a thing now. Things change so quickly with all the advice.

I've tried Bonjela and also some teething powder. She's on Calpol and also (sanitised) cold muslins and those dummys you can put frozen soft foods in. Tbh nothing is really helping, not even Calpol.

Ibuprofen - does this come in a baby safe form?
Is ambesol worth a go over Bonjela teething gel?
Ill give anything a go right now! It's awful when she's in pain.

Gosh. I'm glad I had my kids 17 years ago. They both slept with a soft toy from at least six months which they both seemed to benefit from. My DD used to hold the tail of her "Cowie" when she fell asleep (and all night) from about 3 months. What exactly is the risk here? I struggle to believe a baby would be suffocated by a soft toy next to their face unless it was (forgive me) held there. And ditch this not "friend".

I found Ibuprofen helped more with teething as its an anti-inflammatory. You can give both.

She's not your friend..she's a judgemental twot.

You friend is not a friend @Simplydressed , she is vile.

The best thing you can do for you and your baby is step away from this toxicity.

But out of curiosity why does she hate the fact you have partitioned off partition of your room? Or is it te fact your baby is in their own room she hates?

Thanks 😊
Kids Nurofen do the job? Or any other brands that are better?

Lots of things wrong about your friend, having read your replies. With the teddy, I have a 15MO but still wouldn’t risk it personally - that’s your choice. Nurofen might be better than calpol for teething! We’ve been teething for a solid year now and nurofen works better as its anti-inflammatory

When it comes to health & safety, some things need to be non-negotiable regardless.It just isn't worth the risk.
However social services wouldn't entertain a referral for such a thing so your friend is weird for saying that.

That's no friend. Block her. Re the teddy stay with your baby until she's asleep then slip teddy out or don't give Teddy. Empty cot is a safe cot and you know that as you mentioned it. You sound amazing mum. Don't let your son to be ex friend berate you.

This person is not your friend, I would be very concerned about her behaviour and I’d start reducing contact and cutting her off. She is not your child‘s “second mummy”, what a cheeky cow. I wouldn’t put a teddy in overnight but you can definitely do it to settle her and then remove when she’s asleep. You can get ibuprofen liquid from 3 months and that may work better than Calpol because it helps reduced inflammation. It’ll pass but it’s rotten for both of you.

Ibuprofen is safe from 3 months and will help with swelling. It's more effective as pain relief than paracetamol, which is better for temperatures. It comes in a bottle with a syringe like Calpol, sold under Calprofen. Have a look in boots or something.

Anbesol you need to get from a pharmacy. It's safe from 6 months. Anbesol contains lidocaine, which is a local anaesthetic like you get at the dentist.

Get the liquid specifically and apply it with your finger. Gels are useless on babies because they're dribbling everywhere, won't stay still etc.

Wow. That is not something you should stand for. No one should be allowed to take your baby.

I’d end the friendship. It sounds stressful.

You can get child ibuprofen yes.

Ambersol was pretty useless for my dd, in fact nothing worked for her and she isnallergic to ibuprofen...my cousin recommend ashtons powders...theybwere like giving her crack. She was upnforn26 hours straight and absolutely hyper. We were on holiday in a touring caravan at the time...it was absolutely hell 🤣🤣

If you cam get them. Toothipegs wrre kinda helpful as they were hard and she could "bite down" hard and it helped ease the discomfort but honestly, if you have found that the teddy works and you are confident there is a low to no risk then crack on

Baby in their own room. She doesn't agree till they are over 12 months. I get it, and if that is what the babies parents think is best then they should absolutely do that! But we were unsettling each other so tried her in their and she was happy.

I can't put everything my friend has done as it's really outing and she uses MN. She likes to give advice to others on here and uses it as evidence when people agree with her.

I have probably already completely outed myself anyway.

Ambesol liquid is amazing we call it liquid gold 🤣. My baby is a calpol/vitamin/drops/spoon/everything refuser lol but she opens wide as soon as she sees the bottle or ambesol! Just put on finger and rub on gums and it numbs them