Mum annoyed that my husband fell asleep at 8:30pm on boxing day after over-indulging

[Angelcake1991]

Hi,

Just wanted to get people's thoughts on this please.

My mum came over on Boxing day and stayed the night. My husband spent most of the afternoon preparing a meal for us all and drank a little too much whilst doing so.
This meant he missed out on the games we played with the children and he was fast asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm snoring extremelty loudly. I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

When i spoke to mum the following day after she had gone home she said she felt very embarrased and uncomfortable about the situation. She was the guest and he shouldnt have drunk so much that he fell asleep in that state. She said she will not be texting my husband to thank him for the meal he cooked.

What are peoples thoughts?

Why didn’t you wake him? How embarrassing.

Meh - it's hardly the end of the world. Your mum is being uptight, and rude not to thank him for the meal.

Very dramatic! I would have probs told him to shut up snoring or maybe tried to wake him but why was she uncomfortable and embarrassed!

He cooked you a meal and had snooze on Boxing Day. LTB. Nothing else for it.

I think your mum needs to chill.

And you should have woken him up and told him to go to bed rather than letting him sit there snoring.

I wouldn’t have enjoyed listening to someone snoring at all. I’d have sent him to bed.

It's not fun for everyone else if someone is in the room snoring - surely you woke him up and told him to go upstairs?

It probably would have been a good idea to wake him and send him up to bed, but she is also rude to refuse to thank him for the meal he spent most of the day making.

She's not a "guest" she's family. Why can't he fall asleep if he wants to in his own home and, come to that, why didn't you wake him if he was snoring?

YABU.

If you were embarrassed, why didn’t you wake him? It’s poor form when you have guests.

I wouldn’t be uncomfortable about that within the family, but I would have repositioned him to stop the snoring.
Cooking is quite tiring in itself.

I’d say half of our house had a nap at some point on the sofa on Boxing Day!

I would be annoyed by the snoring- can not stand the sound of snoring. But your Mum should still thank him for cooking the meal.

I don't think this is worth this much drama but I do think if you're hosting its pretty rude to drink so much you fall asleep so early in the night in front of guests...

I probably would have woken him up and suggested a quick power nap so he could return to festivities. Your mum is being ott not thanking him for all the work he's put in to hosting her up to that point though.

Oh it's Christmas.... he had a snooze.

Is he a frequent boozer or was this just Christmas excess?

Someone falling asleep on Christmas Day from too much food or booze is a pretty common thing.

He wasn’t up dancing on the dining table in his pants and a Christmas hat, your mum needs to unclench.

If you can’t relax around family during limited time off over Xmas when can you.

Blimey, unless he was shouting obscenities in his sleep and/or farting dreadfully, I can't condemn someone for having a Christmas nap after a few drinks and cooking.

Good grief, the things people get stressed about. This is not a LTB situation, lol. Your mum should still thank him for cooking. Everyone should chill out a bit.

Main thought, why are you so passive / feeble? Why is your mother so petty?

I would of woken him to send him to bed but also I don't think this is the end of the world. He's cooked a meal, had a drink and at some point it's got to much. I would rather he fell asleep than turn in to some abusive drunk. My parents routinely fall asleep on the sofa when I stay with them.

Depends whether he's got form for it - if he drinks too much generally and embarrasses you then yes be annoyed. But if it's just a one off I'd be inclined to stick up for him and tell your mum not to be ridiculous. In a few years you'll all just be like oh remember that Christmas where Dave drank too much and missed monopoly

Wasn’t the obvious thing to do to wake him up?

Your mum needs to chill the fuck out.

Is your mum either a nightmare matriarch or an attention seeking prima Donna who is horrified that someone dare not be wowed and amazed at her presence?

I would have been annoyed at my husband if he’d done this when we had family or guests over. It’s rude.

I think your mum not thanking him is also rude however.