Mum annoyed that my husband fell asleep at 8:30pm on boxing day after over-indulging

[Angelcake1991]

Hi,

Just wanted to get people's thoughts on this please.

My mum came over on Boxing day and stayed the night. My husband spent most of the afternoon preparing a meal for us all and drank a little too much whilst doing so.
This meant he missed out on the games we played with the children and he was fast asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm snoring extremelty loudly. I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

When i spoke to mum the following day after she had gone home she said she felt very embarrased and uncomfortable about the situation. She was the guest and he shouldnt have drunk so much that he fell asleep in that state. She said she will not be texting my husband to thank him for the meal he cooked.

What are peoples thoughts?

Your mum sounds really rude, OK it's not great sitting listening to someone snoring but its pathetically childish to refuse to say thank you. Does she usually act like that?

Your mum is being a right drama queen.

So maybe he just had a nap, and not a booze-induced nap!

Your mother IBU.

Your Mum is very rude.

I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

Why didn't you wake him up, and tell him to nap elsewhere - presumably he has at least a bed in the house?

Or just relocate elsewhere and ignore him while he was sleeping

I couldn’t agree more. This is what families do when they are comfortable with each other. Personally I would have gently poked DH awake and asked him to set the Cluedo up. But your mum is taking offence at nothing.

jeesus talk about ott hes only snoring-shes rude not to say thanks for the meal

you always thank your host

i am with your mum i am afraid..i would be mortified if my husband did that when we had a guest,family or not.

Exactly, how dare he 😁
Edited to say you could have at least tried playing a game of Human Buckaroo by balancing things on him to try and stop him from bloody snoring 😁

Yeah it's embarrassing to just let him snore away in front of guests. You should've woken him.

He's fine to need a nap or just go to bed early, but you should've gently woken him so he could say his goodbyes and politely then go upstairs to bed.

There's nothing wrong with falling asleep after you've been busy all day though. Your mum was a bit mean really not to just have laughed it off.

What harm was really done? Someone fell asleep during a close family gathering on the sofa of their own house. Nobody died.

Oh, FFS, people are allowed to collapse in their own homes by 8.30 on Boxing Day. Your Mum is family, not a visiting Ambassador.

I would tell her to relax and not be so judgemental.

It might have been better had you been able to get him upstairs instead of in the sofa. But half our family, of all generations, were asleep on Boxing Day afternoon.

Also: he’s allowed to have a drink at Christmas in his own homes. Your Mum should have just laughed and minded her own business.

He cooked her dinner then he fell asleep she mentioned it as she knew she wasn’t interesting enough for him to stay awake, really a non issue.

I don’t make a habit of criticising people’s mums but yours really needs to unclench. It’s Christmas! Lighten up a bit 🥂🤣

So he’d been on the go lunch and dinner? Catering for your Mum and you all?

If an in-law of mine ever gets similarly snotty about me on a Boxing Day eve after a Christmas with small kids they will not be catered for again!

Having a full on day, playing with kids, cooking a meal, being a good host - it’s fine to feel tired at the end of the day and have a doze while everyone watches TV.
But making what sounds like a fairly straightforward meal, and drinking so much that you fall asleep when everyone else is playing games - that’s rude.

Oh lighten up fgs! You sound exhausting

He's snoring and missed out on games because he was drunk.

That's not fun for anyone, let alone a visiting guest.

I’d have woken him up but I also would have played the games earlier. At 8.30 I want nothing more than a cheesy film then bed on Boxing Day. Your mom is being entitled. Who else had offered to cook her a meal on Boxing Day?

Falling asleep is no problem. But why the hell was he snoring on the sofa? I'd wake him up and sent him to bed and then the evening wouldn't he spoilt for others.

Your mum needs an urgent operation to remove the stick from up her arse.

Is your mum always this uptight and entitled?

Now I hate grown up not sick adults napping on the sofa. If you are tired go to bed.

However I feel the Christmas over indulgence means you either need a midday walk or lots of people will nap so I forgive Christmas / Boxing Day / new years nappers.

Im sure he probably fell asleep due to the tiredness of christmas and cooking all day... not exactly passed out drunk incapable.

Your mum sounds like a complete pain! Shes with family not at a corporate work function!?

So he did all the preparation/cooking for lunch and dinner on his own? I think your mum is ungrateful and rude if she refuses to thank him.

If you can’t have a nap on the sofa on Boxing Day there’s something wrong! Your mum needs to chill out, she’s family not a guest