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Mum annoyed that my husband fell asleep at 8:30pm on boxing day after over-indulging

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Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 18:59

Hi,

Just wanted to get people's thoughts on this please.

My mum came over on Boxing day and stayed the night. My husband spent most of the afternoon preparing a meal for us all and drank a little too much whilst doing so.
This meant he missed out on the games we played with the children and he was fast asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm snoring extremelty loudly. I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

When i spoke to mum the following day after she had gone home she said she felt very embarrased and uncomfortable about the situation. She was the guest and he shouldnt have drunk so much that he fell asleep in that state. She said she will not be texting my husband to thank him for the meal he cooked.

What are peoples thoughts?

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Heyhelga · 28/12/2025 19:06

Hardly crime of the century. I think your mum is being pedantic not to text thank you for the meal.

SillyOP · 28/12/2025 19:06

Arrange The Fowl asap

GreyCloudsLooming · 28/12/2025 19:07

Your mum is very rude and ungrateful. But your DH should have gone to bed for a quick nap, not snore on the sofa.

ForMyNextTrickIWillMakeThisVodkaDisappear · 28/12/2025 19:07

I don’t think your husband did anything that bad? It wasn’t like he didn’t do anything all day. I would have woken him once he started snoring. Maybe. Depends how annoying it was.

Your mother is being very rude and if I was your husband, I wouldn’t be in a hurry to host her again. She’s invited into your home, he makes her a very nice dinner and falls asleep in his own bloody house and she’s acting all offended. Ridiculous.

phoenixrosehere · 28/12/2025 19:07

She’s rude.

He cooked the meal, she ate it, she should say thank you.

There’s no reason not to say thank you.

Sure, it would have been better to wake him, and tell him to go to bed considering it was 8:30pm but to be so offended not to say thank you for the meal someone made and you consumed is insane to me.

Eenameenadeeka · 28/12/2025 19:08

I think she's being rediculous, id have gently woken him so he could go to bed because he'd be more comfortable (and no snoring downstairs) but it's nothing to be mad over.

Original poster
Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 19:08

I did try to wake him several times but he was so gone that he just kept falling back asleep again.
It was embarassing.

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Ponderingwindow · 28/12/2025 19:08

My alcoholic father had a habit of falling asleep inappropriately, so this concept is triggering for me.

however, it’s also possible for a parent that has worked hard all day making Christmas magic to just be tired and fall asleep on the sofa even without alcohol.

of it’s truly an isolated event, then don’t worry about it. However, if you are making excuses for his bad habits, please consider what that does to children living in that environment.

no way to tell which kind of home it is from this one post.

Anywherebuthere · 28/12/2025 19:09

Nothing wrong with him falling asleep at that time but listening to a host snoring away isn't fun. Should have asked him to off to bed.

Anywherebuthere · 28/12/2025 19:09

Nothing wrong with him falling asleep at that time but listening to a host snoring away isn't fun. Should have asked him to off to bed.

purplecorkheart · 28/12/2025 19:10

You say he had a bit to drink while cooking? Does that mean he was drunk at dinner?

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 28/12/2025 19:10

Your mum is being an idiot and needs to stop Pearl clutching.

Its his house, he cooked all day. If he wants to snooze on his own sofa, he can!! If your mum didn't like it, she can fuck off elsewhere.

Xmas day my husband did all the cooking, and by the afternoon him and my dad were both snoring on the sofa in unison. Its like a Christmas tradition for the exhausted adults to catch a quick 40 winks.

Your Mum is rude and ungrateful.

ThirdStorm · 28/12/2025 19:10

Seriously? I think all of us fell asleep at some point on Christmas Day and Boxing Day! It’s the best bit!

Tigger18 · 28/12/2025 19:10

Your mum sounds awful tbh. My mum I consider family not a guest and the person who does all the cooking in my family always bows out early as it's so exhausting. He did nothing wrong, if he was snoring you should have woken him and steered him in the direction of bed. If I was your DH I wouldn't be inviting your DM over the Christmas holiday again 🤷‍♀️ if you can't relax with family after a good meal what's the point. If I were you I'd make clear there will be no invite in future without a heartfelt thank you.

phoenixrosehere · 28/12/2025 19:11

Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 19:08

I did try to wake him several times but he was so gone that he just kept falling back asleep again.
It was embarassing.

Why is it embarrassing? It’s your husband falling asleep in his own house in front of his MIL or were their other guests?

thatsthatsaidthemayor · 28/12/2025 19:12

He cooked a lovely meal and she won’t thank him for it because he fell asleep???

Gingerwarthog · 28/12/2025 19:12

What did he cook?
Was it a good meal?

PistachioTiramisu · 28/12/2025 19:12

Apart from the snoring, I sympathise with him. I am usually asleep by 8.30 after dinner anyway!

Nucleus · 28/12/2025 19:12

Is your mum always so uptight?
He spent all afternoon prepping for her and she won't thank him because he had a snooze on his own sofa. She is rude.

Lovelanza · 28/12/2025 19:13

i would’ve woke him up and made him wash the pots. Cheeky fucker for daring to sleep after cooking a meal and having a slurp. Line them ducks up luv

(lighthearted for those without a sense of humour)

Septemberstar6 · 28/12/2025 19:13

dynamiccactus · 28/12/2025 19:01

I think your mum needs to chill.

And you should have woken him up and told him to go to bed rather than letting him sit there snoring.

Exactly this, your mum was over the top but it's a bit of a mood killer to have someone drunk and snoring on the corner whilst your still having your evening. I would have woken him and walked him up to bed.

WallyHilloughby · 28/12/2025 19:13

I’m sorry but can anyone imagine this being a problem if a women fell asleep after cooking all day and having a couple of Prosecco’s?

BatchCookBabe · 28/12/2025 19:13

Sighohbarn · 28/12/2025 19:01

Meh - it's hardly the end of the world. Your mum is being uptight, and rude not to thank him for the meal.

This. ^ Your mum sounds rude and entitled. Did she even thank him for the food/cooking the meal, and letting her stay? So your DH fell asleep at 8.30pm. After a busy hectic Boxing Day, eating, drinking, and entertaining a seemingly critical, and hard to please mother-in-law. Big deal. It's his home. It's YOUR mother.

Sounds like he probably went to sleep for a bit of a rest from her if she had been there for 2 days. She felt uncomfortable and embarrassed because he dropped off to sleep? Is she normally so dramatic, and triggered by so little?

MatchaTea1 · 28/12/2025 19:14

Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 19:08

I did try to wake him several times but he was so gone that he just kept falling back asleep again.
It was embarassing.

So your mum is right then? My husband often falls asleep snoring after a meal, and I keep poking him until he either wakes up, or goes upstairs for a snooze. There is no way I would make anyone else have to listen to that! Also if your mum knows he fell asleep and missed out on the evening with the kids as he was daytime drinking, I don't blame her for being annoyed!

Original poster
Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 19:14

He did a prawn cocktail at lunchtime with bits then a homemade beef lasagne for dinner and saugages and mash for the children

He wasnt drunk during the meal that i noticed.

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