If your partner has a football season ticket…

[HomeAloneBoxingDay]

Would they go on Boxing Day and leave you home alone all day?
Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable because football bores me rigid and I can’t imagine leaving my partner of 6 years alone on Boxing Day.

What would you have said if he said that's what he wanted to do yesterday, just you two?

But on Boxing day I would have liked to stay home with my partner, go for a hike and get the fire going, cook nice food, listen to music and chill together, rather than on my own.

This sounds absolutely lovely, but can happen any day. Rather than arbitrarily deciding that Boxing Day is the best time for it, maybe discuss with OH when would be a good time to make this happen? And next year, plan to spend the day with friends?

At least he's not fox hunting with the toffs.

Yes, I'm happily back home alone while OH spends an extra night away at the in-laws / to go to a match. I'm enjoying the peace and quiet, cats on my lap, fire going and about to have dinner with some nice wine. Perfect 👌

It’s happened a couple of times before yes x

YABU. The Boxing Day match is one of the highlights of the football season. If he has a season ticket, you must have known about this fixture since June, so plenty of time to have found things to occupy yourself for the day.

Are you always so dramatic?
There is no universal norm.

But you can do that on any day of the year - why do you need to do it on Boxing Day?

Haha many many years ago when I was a child I was from a sport free family. I in no way held onto that as some kind of value I live the rest of my life by (because I'm not that wierd).
Now I am sitting in the bath whilst my husband is at his friends watching the football. Istill couldn't give 2.hoots about football but I know fine well that boxing day football is an amazing day for anyone who does like football.
My life is unaffected by his trip out for the footie...actually it is affected, I'm having a peaceful, spouse free afternoon of bliss!
Seriously get out of your mood!

I agree, but the partner travelled a couple of hours from where they live into England and there could conceivably be a few within two hours north if she is somewhere in the Borders.

There were very few northern teams playing at home today that would have been remotely accessible using OP's criteria. And let's be clear, I do not know Gateshead (or Middlesbrough) and am definitely not casting any opinion on either location in the shithole stakes!

Where the fuck do you live that a takeaway is 40 miles away 😵‍💫

Yep, but we live 20 minutes walk from the ground, so the whole thing is done within three hours.

That's so glib. No one is saying your family is or is not the norm.

What we are saying is that for a footy fan to go to the match on Boxing Day is not at all unusual. I think supporting your partner to enjoy what they love is putting people (that beloved person anyway) first, actually.

Oh god OP quit the pathetic moral superiority martyr routine.
Its very tedious

And we are still none the wiser where this apparent shit hole is...

Also I think you're confusing what people are saying
This isn't about football. Your partner could have any kind of hobbies that has certain days special to it.
Think huge fights for boxing fans, sell out concerts for favourite bands, the orient express making a trip to the UK for train fans!
The fact is that he's doing something today because is has a timeline attached to it, it happens and then it's gone. You want to listen to music at home and go for a walk.
A fixed activity that he is excited about trumps that today. You need to plan a walk and music at any other time and let your partner have these moments in his life, just like he should do for you.

Think about it, if there's something you would like to do and it's a fixed event (concert, sewing convention, Chelsea flower show, ascot...whatever floats.your boat) do you think it's reasonable for him to be annoyed at.you because he wanted to listen to music and go for a walk that day? No it wouldn't and you know it isn't reasonable.

This. Sometimes things happen ‘once’ and that makes them more worthy of consideration. It doesn’t actually matter if it’s football or knitting or anything - he wants to spend one day doing whatever with his extended family and friends and there’s no real reason he can’t. You had months to come up with a plan for how to spend the 12 hours alone.

Same here, I’m the one with the season ticket and I’m sitting in the warm car before going to queue to get into the stadium. We’ve got the only PL Boxing Day game today and it’s an 8pm kick off so I’ve had most of the day at home.

My husband is happily at home in the warm with a tub of Roses and some beer.

I'm still confused about where this scary town is, but this has been an entertaining read, thanks OP.

Yes my partner would not miss a game - Boxing Day or otherwise. Sadly there isn't a match for his team today, I wish there was so I could happily chill out in peace!

Cant you just do that every weekend, if that’s what you like to do?

Really intrigued to know where this absolute scary shithole is!

Good job you have a whole year to move to a less rural location and find a new partner to enforce your traditions on

As well as the place that has no takeaways, pubs or shops within 40 mile radius

Absolutely love football and would respect my DH and 3 DS wanting to use a gold dust season ticket on Boxing Day, but we support LFC
Am now hugely over invested in searching today’s fixtures to work out where this shithole is 😂😂