If your partner has a football season ticket…

[HomeAloneBoxingDay]

Would they go on Boxing Day and leave you home alone all day?
Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable because football bores me rigid and I can’t imagine leaving my partner of 6 years alone on Boxing Day.

Well having just had a quick glance through the fixtures whilst I don't know how deprived most of the areas are , I don't believe any of them are so deprived you would find nothing open and nothing at all to do , and I imagine you would have been easily able to find somewhere nice to eat on the way back. You are just being difficult

Who has he gone with, in this full car?
Did you express a wish to go to?

If you had PLANNED together to do something on Boxing Day and he just grabbed his keys and shouted "bye" without warning, YANBU to be pissed off.

If he's just making the most of his season ticket and you can't complaining that you can't entertain yourself for one day, you are ridiculous. If you are in a mood when he comes back, poor guy.

I assumed to start with he was leaving you with young children in which case you might have an argument or had been working yesterday and this was supposed to be your Christmas Day. Without that I’m afraid your being very unreasonable

But it seems to me that @HomeAloneBoxingDay this is a
conversation.

as I’ve said, my DH has a season ticket to a premier league team. I am not a football fan. I don’t like it. I facilitate any match he likes. I expect him not to go on Boxing Day. But, you know what? We’ve had this conversation like the adult partnership that we are. I don’t expect him to second guess me. He knows he gets shed loads of leyway during the season where I sort the kids so he can go to the match.

it’s ok not to like it! It’s not ok to be a martyr to the whole thing and not have an adult conversation.

Agree. Or OP is one of those hard work wankers who puts a barrier in the way of every good suggestion one might make for them to better their circumstances.

Horrible decision which shows how little match going fans matter anymore 🙁

Curious which match he has gone to see . Assuming OP is in Scotland , I am not aware of any professional matches being played today !

Performance has improved and the crowd increased, he is one of them.
He had lost interest before we met.
I am in the arse end of nowhere, if I wanted a Chinese takeaway it’s almost 40 miles drive, each way.
I grew up in a family where the men were not football match goers, so to leave your family for a day on Boxing Day is very alien.
The car was full, he has a couple of hours solo drive and he collects people en route.
The city where he goes is an absolute scary shit hole.
My kids have each gone to their in-laws, they live miles away. My siblings are with their in-laws laws. One parent is dead, the other is with a sibling and their adult children and families.
Genuine.

Partner has driven a few hours and is in England.

It sounds like you need to be adding more colour to your daily life rather than trying to subtract it from your partner’s. Are you seriously suggesting you rely on these 2 days for your fill of social interaction for the year? Definitely a you problem, not a him problem.

I had the same conversation.
He wanted to go and was expected to collect family en route.

Boxing Day football has been the highlight of the football calendar since time immortal.
I assume he had a ST when you met him? They are so bloody expensive now I wouldn't want to miss a single match unless my leg was hanging off.
So yes YABU, very! You're not joined at the hip

So he is spending today with family!! You absolute hypocrite. You got to spend yesterday with your family.

No it’s just how it was.

There is no city in England that is "an absolute scary shit hole", FFS.
You could have hitched a lift and enjoyed a nice day out, but you were determined to be a pathetic martyr talking about "abandonment".

And even if your partner had stayed home, would you have spent the whole day together making sparkling conversation? I think not.....

No he is a supporter when they're doing well. When we met they were not.

if I was living with someone so stroppy and so needy, I'd have been to football too, and I really do not like football!

So he is spending the day with family then? It sounds like this is a second marriage for both of you, and you both have other families - just because you have no one to see today, why should he miss out on seeing his family?

lol ok then
I have said several times there was no room in the car.
But I can confirm it absolutely is a scary shit hole.

There is no city in England that is "an absolute scary shit hole", FFS.

some cities are full of football fans, the horror 😂

Very extended, I wouldn’t choose cousins twice removed over my partner.

Dh and ds went out to the football day leaving me pretty much home alone! They left at 11 and are on their way back, it was an away match.
Our older dc were in bed but they had plans today so were up and out by midday.
oh my god how I’ve absolutely adored the peace and quiet today after a few very full on days of entertaining and cleaning and hosting! And he did all the cooking for my family and most of the cleaning up too.

Home alone for me is such a treat! I’ve had a walk and then a bath, we both cleaned up the last few bits together this morning before they left.

DH has been home alone and I have been to the football.
He enjoys the peace and I enjoy the football.

You still haven't told us what PLANS you had made and how you expected to spend the day? If you had an exciting day ahead for the 2 of you, what is he actually missing?

and why can't you do these plans another day?