To be fuming that DH has spent the whole day on his laptop?

[MamaOnTheCoast]

DH has spent the whole day on his laptop “working” in his home office and he hasn’t even seen me and the DC all day! He was up at 5am (the kids woke up at 6am) and he is still in his home office “working” now so we haven’t seen him all day! He even refused Christmas dinner as he said he was “too busy working”. DH does a senior office based job and he wasn’t meant to be working at all over Christmas but he is saying he apparently has to work today “because it’s urgent”! It’s Christmas Day and we haven’t seen him all day and DH can’t see the problem with this! The kids are really upset about it too! AIBU to be livid with DH over this? DH literally doesn’t see the problem but I’m fuming and the kids are upset too!

It may have been said previously but it just surprises me the OP doesn't know enough about her husband's work to know what he might have been doing.

I know. While I agree with what pps have said about certain crises in certain types of job requiring unexpected work on Xmas day which could go on for hours, what’s really weird is op not saying anything about how possible that might be in his particular job, or anything about what the DH has said about the reason. If it was totally unheard of for him, she’d mention that. Equally, if she could think of an explanation of how his job might require it, she’d mention that.

If shit hit the fan and my DH had to do this, he’d bloody well say something about why. Because it’s so unusual. But there’s absolutely nothing from the op about any of this. That’s what makes me think it’s some sort of wind up.

Yeah @eastegg@grumpygrapethe more I think about it the more i think it was a wind up. 🙄

My father pulled this stunt one Christmas too, shortly after I'd found my presents, stupidly told him and was told they were for someone else. I never saw them again. He didn't have a computer (only the Man From Uncle did in those days) but he "had to work" that Christmas, on a business trip to New York. Obviously he didn't go to New York. According to his company he was on 2 weeks holiday and was in fact getting married to someone else on the Isle of Wight. It turned out not to be the first bigamous marriage he'd been involved in. Nobody "has to" work at Christmas working from home. It's choice. It is deliberate. And it means "I'm not in this family any more."

Tbh half of the threads on here are quite obviously fake. It's really frustrating when you've invested your time into helping someone and they don't return or their responses get increasingly more weird/goading and you realise you've been duped. It's all very well MN saying don't accuse people of trolling (and blocking them when they do) but imo they need to put more energy into getting rid of the windup merchants than the people who genuinely want to help otherwise people are really going to get bored of engaging

I always take the view that even if it is a troll, there are probably other people on the thread - lurking, feeling unable to post, but taking in the advice of those posting. Or even someone coming to the thread months later finding some nugget of help.

Trolls are a pain, but sometimes (not all times, but sometimes) their trolling attempts may still help someone.

Hmm now I'm suspicious about my uncle, they adopted a girl of 3 years old after having a son, it was my aunt who didn't want to go through pregnancy again though.

Was he able to exclude her from his will?

No, he was furious. His solicitor told him that as an adopted child she would have every right to challenge his will if he left her out of it simply because she was not genetically his.

Is this normal behaviour for him?

Definitely having an affair

Did Op ever come back??

Obviously a made up thread, but if you take every thread on Mumsnet as 'hypothetical ', they still have value as someone's partner/DH will have 'checked out' on Christmas Day, so the advice and opinions here are still valid.

Long time lurker on MN and first time poster.

I know that MN can have a reputation for going OTT at times but this thread has been off the scale in places. I’ve seen responses suggesting the OP leaving DH and getting a divorce, he’s having an affair (affairs are discreet and this is anything but – even the OW wouldn’t spend 5am-9pm online on Christmas Day!), addictions and ‘he’s checked out’ without so much as asking about the context of DH’s job.

What kind of job is it? Is working weekends, holidays, Christmas, unsociable hours typical? Does it involve working with regions of the world that do not celebrate Christmas?
Was this sprung on the OP on the day or was there some discussion that working on or over Christmas was brought up prior?
Does DH have an end of year target to hit to make a bonus/get a promotion/keep his job? Is the OP banking he he gets said bonus if this is the case?
Has DH said why he needed to work? Even if he is being a bit of a shit about working, he can offer the OP a reason why.

The fact that the OP hasn’t come back to it after the first page of responses suggests that the ‘fuming’ either settled down or that the whole thing wasn’t such a big deal anyway and they wanted to vent that it was occurring rather than it being a problem (or it was made up which seems like a reasonable theory too).

As it is, the wild reactions on here kept me entertained over the festive period!

Anyone can exclude anyone from their will.