To be fuming that DH has spent the whole day on his laptop?

[MamaOnTheCoast]

DH has spent the whole day on his laptop “working” in his home office and he hasn’t even seen me and the DC all day! He was up at 5am (the kids woke up at 6am) and he is still in his home office “working” now so we haven’t seen him all day! He even refused Christmas dinner as he said he was “too busy working”. DH does a senior office based job and he wasn’t meant to be working at all over Christmas but he is saying he apparently has to work today “because it’s urgent”! It’s Christmas Day and we haven’t seen him all day and DH can’t see the problem with this! The kids are really upset about it too! AIBU to be livid with DH over this? DH literally doesn’t see the problem but I’m fuming and the kids are upset too!

check your bank accounts urgently and mortgage payments!

Put a secret voice recorder in his office.

I’d have been furious, and would have turned off the Wi-Fi

That is mad OP!
I don’t know many businesses that something urgent would happen Xmas day. And if it would, I think he would explain the problem to you so you understand why he’s missing Xmas day.
I think it’s a bit weird though - sounds like he just wants to shut himself away and might be messaging someone he shouldn’t

Ask him how much overtime money he is getting paid for yesterday and on what date will it be paid.

This

Does he need to think all day from 5am and still thinking?He is talking to a so called colleague. OP has every right to be furious and upset. And what a shit way to treat his DC. Beggars belief.

OP we need an update.

I hope you took the door off its hinges!

@MamaOnTheCoastDid you find out what was so important that he needed to work all day Christmas day? I hope you and the kids are OK and managed to enjoy what's left of Christmas period x

I hope you have spent Boxing Day as,a family and sorted xmas day problem.

Something’s amiss here. OP’s disappeared. My guess is they started the the thread intending it as some sort of elaborate joke eg DH as Santa, which would explain why they never said what his job is, and then thought better of it.

They could be dealing with a crisis of course. Hope not.

OP? One last plea for you to come back?

Ah yes, they are foster children as he and mrs claus never had kids?

@KnowledgeableAvocado @eastegg hmm can see where you're coming from, but the original post doesn't like this? I'm thinking it's all hit the fan and she's dealing with the fall out 😢

Yes you're most probably correct 😪

You haven't been back to this thread to update, so not sure what's happening now, but the most ludicrous thing about this entire situation is that I think you do or did believe he was in fact working; even in your penultimate comment here where you say he rushed you out because he was on a Teams call. So he expects you to believe, and you expect us to believe, that there is more than him in his company, doing banal work on Christmas Day. He isn't out there saving lives so no it is not urgent.

Or they made the whole thing up as they were bored and knew it would make people mad! 🤣🤷‍♀️ either way, hope OP is ok.

If you work for a bank which has erroneously paid out all the standing orders and direct debits on Christmas Eve twice, then you'll be working flat out all Christmas day.

I know from experience that if you're working managing a water authority customer services and a sudden thaw has flooded homes all over the area with burst pipes then you'll be working Christmas Day. In our case it was New Years day, but still a Bank Holiday and would have been exactly the same a week earlier.

Of you've got hackers trying to ransom all your customer data then you'll be working flat out all day.

I could think of tons more, but he certainly could have been working.

I'm a social worker and my job involves literally saving lives. We all decide whether or not to cover EDT shifts over Xmas. I am not sitting in a room from 5am to 9/10pm on Christmas Day, panicking when my kids enter the room, or claiming to be on Teams calls. And crucially, our partners KNOW what we are doing so don't need to post about our odd behaviour on mumsnet. 🤷‍♀️

Sadly I think, in the absence of any updates, that the most probable explanation of this is that the children were fostered because the OP wanted them, and playing with children all Christmas Day wasn't part of the husband's plans. Before people say that couldn't happen, it can. For a start local authorities are desperate for foster places. For a second, my brother fooled the adoption people (he's a good actor) because his wife wanted a girl after boys and he wouldn't have any more babies. He saw her as a present for his wife. He even consulted a solicitor on whether he could exclude her from his will.

Why did you quote me? I didn't say a word about social workers!

Just by way of saying 'and another example of people who might work on Christmas....' she wasn't calling you out about anything

No, she was specifically saying how a social worker wouldn't be working on Christmas day unless rota'd on call. Her post has no connection at all with mine that she quoted. Why are you answering for her?

Ok, I misread, apologies!

Why are you answering for her?

Perhaps because you are being rather unpleasant towards @HorseyWoman
for no real reason?

I don't see why you have taken umbrage at being quoted. As far as I can see she was using your post as a lead in to talking about her own experience. I don't see why you have taken exception to this.