To be upset about Christmas?

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I have a 1.5 year old and it’s DP’s year to work, me and DD are going to my parents. I was going to get a taxi but they insisted on giving us a lift, now another family member will be passing us around 1 so they have asked her to pick us up along the way. DD goes to bed at 7 and we live 30-40 minutes away so would have to leave around 6. I feel upset by this as we will be spending majority of the day alone now, aibu to just not even bother going?

Just get a taxi as planned but at a time to suit you.

can the family member do the return leg?

Surely that’s just cutting your nose off to spite your face? Just get a taxi so you can go when you want.

Assuming it fits with your parents can you get a taxi earlier?

That said I think a morning for your little one to enjoy his presents without being rushed out of the house sounds ideal!

So get a taxi instead. And your dc doesn’t have to go to bed at 7pm. Make an exception. Can DP collect you? Saves both ways taxi. It’ll sort.

Say, “1 is a bit late for us, as we’ll have to leave at 6, so I’ll get a taxi. Thanks anyway!”

If they start to insist, insist right back.

Just say no and get a taxi. You want to spend the day there so it doesn’t suit. The can’t insist anything.

It's Christmas and your DD doesn't have to go to bed at 7, but yes if it bothers you just get a taxi instead, assuming you are unable to drive yourself?

Just book the taxi to suit the times you want. Just because a lift has been offered you don’t need to accept it. Just tell your parents you want to be there for longer.

I know it sounds quite mean but we are g doing presents until Boxing Day when DP will be home as DD is young so doesn’t know and we can have our own Christmas Boxing Day so the presents she would get would be when we get to my parents house

Get a taxi when it suits YOU. No arguments. You’re a strong independent woman who goes where she wants, when she wants.

Oh, and DC can stay up a bit! It’s Christmas, all bets are off 😀

This has all been arranged without my knowledge, my parents haven’t said anything to me only my family member called yesterday to tell me they have arranged this between themselves

So you then call back and say no!

Unless your DM fancies a quiet morning before the storm?

Ring and ask before booking the taxi!

Other option - could you stay at your mum’s on Christmas Eve?

Can't dd go to bed there for a bit before you have to leave, then you can enjoy some of the evening with your parents? Or could you stay the night and dp pick you up in the morning? I'd probably give her an 'early' gift to keep her busy for the morning and take it slow.

Tell family member you want to get there earlier so you're not alone all morning and get the taxi. As others have said, DD can stay up or if particularly young can fall asleep on the sofa and you can carry her to the car on the way back.

Your daughter will be fine...

How would they react if you said you wanted to come earlier and have more time there? Are they perhaps wanting to limit your visiting time because of DC being so young and it being a lot for them to handle a small child for the whole day?

Lots of people have to work on Christmas, it doesn't look like a Hallmark card scene for everyone. Your parents probably think you are used to it if DP has worked previous years, if you want company you need to tell them you'd like to come round earlier in a taxi.

A) unarrange it
B) keep your child up later
C) allow child to nap at GP

I would just book a taxi and tell your parents you’ll be there earlier than 1pm. Thank the person offering the lift but say, I’d like to go earlier.

Do some communicating op. Phone parents and tell them you’ll just get a taxi. Is there a backstory here or something?

Just take DDs jammies and put her to bed there, pick her up in a blanket and take her home later. Many's the time we did this with ours, often they slept straight through the move!!!

What time do your parents want you? Maybe 1pm suits them better. Have you discussed it with your parents? Also kids are able to stay up later on occasions.

Op what time were you thinking of going to your parents?

1pm sounds early enough to me. Giving your parents time for a lazy morning, open gifts and get showered and dressed.
Along side last minute Christmas dinner preparations.

Why do let other people tell you want to do?

Tell them no that it doesn't work for you and that you will get a taxi