To refuse to let DD vape?

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DD (16) wants to vape in her room. We have tried everything for 2 years to get her to stop vaping and she won’t so the rule so far has been no vaping in the house or garden.

DD has asked recently if she can vape in her room. DH thinks it’s fine as long as she has her window open but I don’t agree with him. AIBU? I’m not happy with DD vaping at all, let alone inside the house! What would you do?

https://www.bath.ac.uk/announcements/up-to-1-in-4-vapes-confiscated-in-schools-contains-spice-and-these-are-pushed-on-social-media/

So you would allow your daughter to significantly damage her health? Read the latest research on vaping and see if you feel the same.

If all of the objectors to her vaping in the house plan to be completely teetotal all over Christmas and New Year then fine. If not, its total hypocrisy.

How is vaping worse than smoking cigarettes?

What an educated answer.

And another.......

I think people who drink alcohol are pathetic too, I mean why do something that is bad for your body just because you enjoy it?

Amen! Have just said the same above - the hypocrisy is so engrained in drinking it is unreal.

I wouldn’t. It’s incredibly bad for her health so I wouldn’t encourage it. I wouldn’t let her down a bottle of vodka in her room either (specially for the “oooo but you’re having a drink” brigade)

I’d agree to the garden but not in the house…

At the moment she’s not allowed to vape in the garden either.

She’s 16. You’re allowed to say no.

Drinking at Christmas or letting a teenager hole up in their room with booze everyday? Because the first is no real analogy for facilitating a daily habit.

I wouldnt even let a vape in the house. No chance and it would be a deal breaker for anyone including family. Disgusting.

Big no to vaping anywhere at home. Allowing it ti happen normalises it, and there’s nothing normal or healthy about vaping.

No to the house. Believe me as a teenage smoker, having to get up go out and smoke outside meant I did it a lot less. I often smoked (and vaped) out of boredom so she will 100% vape more if allowed in her room.

The 'she will do it anyway' applies to sex and alcohol because you could argue that they will do it anyway so best to be somewhere safe when they do. That doesn't work with smoking or vaping.

So because adults use a less harmful and addictive substance, they should allow their children to use harmful and addictive substances. In the house ? (Or at all)

I don’t understand the logic.

I’d bin the vapes and I’d stop any pocket money. Then I’d try to find out which shops sold they to underage children and report them.

What latest English research on legal vapes is this they are very strongly regulated in this country

Also get her help to quit? Patches?

But shes 16 and already been doing it for 2 years if that's the worst my 16 year old did I'd high five myself for a job well done

Your husband is saying it’s fine because he’s weak and doesn’t want to have to parent a difficult teen. Parenting isn’t easy. He’s opting out of the hard stuff.

We no longer have 16 y o dss stay overnights as he was vaping (and on occasion smoking) in his room. Also leaving cigarette packs/vapes lighters everywhere so we said enough is enough to protect younger dc (one has asthma too) and he now only comes here in daytimes and has no room here to take advantage of

Such low standards!

Was just about to post this , it’s really interesting. No wonder kids are sneaking off to toilets in schools to vape. It’s an absolute scandal that this industry is allowed.

Yep but problem is not all teens are buying those vapes. Often they’re buying illegal ones via snap chat.