Feeling really let down...

[SpookyTeacup]

Just been told by DH that I have no Christmas present this year as it hasn't arrived. I've got a feeling its exactly what I told him under no circumstances is he to buy me (sexy lingerie/nightwear) due to his reaction when I asked him if it was that - '.... no... why?'. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I feel huge, disgusting and hate how much weight I've gained. I couldn't feel further from sexy if I tried. All I've asked for is a nice big pair of PJ bottoms that I can be comfortable in and will become part of my hospital bag. I'm dreading Christmas now because I feel like I'm going to end up crying the entire day, but also feel like I'm acting like a spoiled brat.

I've learned to ignore that poster. I've seen their work elsewhere on the forum...

Honestly OP, stop being such a doormat.

I hope your Christmas gets better OP and you buy yourself lots of lovely things tomorrow. next year you will have a lovely wee girl to spoil… hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well. Look after yourself. X

Or maybe I'm trying to not go completely insane screaming/arguing because I dont want to sabotage my pregnancy in any way. If I wasn't pregnant he'd be 6ft under.

So sorry, OP. There is no excuse for your dh’s behaviour. Hope you’re at your mum’s now without him. Congratulations on your successful pregnancy and now it’s time to plan for the future.

It’s not needy to want to be appreciated and expect a suitable gift at this time of year. A pair of PJs isn’t exactly asking for the world is it?

OP, if you really care about this miracle baby, get out of this toxic abusive relationship with an arsehole.
Your baby deserves better than this loser.
Such a pity you are married, because I wouldn't be giving the baby his name.
Tell your family and friends the truth.
Use this time to get your shit together.

Sorry OP but this isn’t about a gift. It’s about the way he is treating you. Honestly it’s a gift - get over it. Your constant nagging, tipping his presents out and crying are very childish. But he shouldn’t have got you nothing. He caused this and the most important point is that despite your constant nagging he hasn’t wanted to rectify it.

@SpookyTeacup hope you are now with your mum being spoilt rotten with your feet up. Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy & enjoy every moment with your baby girl.
Merry Christmas 💐

So sorry OP. Please don't listen to anyone minimising this! I get it. It's not really the lack of gift it's the total lack of care and consideration at a time when you're vulnerable and literally growing his offspring. I hope I'm wrong but I can't help but feel that things are only going to get worse once baby is born unfortunately. At the very least it sounds like all the care and attention required to keep a child happy are going to be left down to you. Hopefully he reconciles himself but I'd get your ducks in a row. Spoil yourself today however you need to and have a wonderful Christmas

I was dismayed to read that he'd not bothered to get you a single damned thing. Jeez, even a box of chocs and some fluffy socks would have been something. I'm so sorry for you. Get yourself over to your Mum's place and have a lovely time there with your family. Then treat yourself to some lovely things after Xmas x

Go to your mums as sorry but you’re an idiot for staying with him… not just today but moving forward. You would be better off being a single mum than being with such as selfish nasty lazy moronic loser. God help you when the baby arrives - and I hope you have a safe pregnancy and healthy baby - congrats on that front.

And his parents surely are allowed to piss in the house? Did they at least use the toilet?

did his behaviour change since you got pregnant?

Are you married? If so give yourself the best present this year and spend 10 mins today filing for divorce?

is it your house? Or shared? If yours kick him out

I think it’s the thoughtlessness she objects to as much as anything else and that’s absolutely fair enough, and I can imagine how galling it must feel if you’ve put real effort into someone’s gift and they’ve not even got a box of chocolates in return. As everyone has mentioned, there was plenty of time for him to grab any number of nice bits from a supermarket even, when he realised the ordered gift wouldn’t arrive in time.

What an absolute wanker

You are massively over reacting OP

Oh no, he couldn't go to the corner shop and get you a box of chocolates to unwrap in the meantime? I'm sorry OP, I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas anyway.

Really? She’s heavily pregnant and got nothing off her husband who just laughed at her at every juncture. She asked for comfy pj bottoms weeks ago and he couldn’t even be bothered to nip to M&S to get a pair.

Id say she was under reacting, as I would have walked out on him and gone back to my parents!!

I'm sorry OP. I am worried for you and your precious, much wanted baby. Could he become violent? I think others have given excellent advice. Protect yourself and your baby and leave. This is clearly about more than a Xmas present, he appears to actively despise you. I don't think it's going to get better, only worse. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel, your lovely baby, but I think you need to leave x

OP, if you really care about this miracle baby, get out of this toxic abusive relationship with an arsehole.
Your baby deserves better than this loser.

I have to say I agree with this. He has shown you that he doesn't love you.....he really doesn't give a shit about you and is treating you with utter contempt. Get out of the house and go to your mum's immediately if you haven't already.

He will not be a good dad. It's plain as day.

It wouldn't bother me but each to their own

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He’s a prick.

For now go to your mums and stay there for a few days.

Then I’d rethink your marriage

I’d be more disappointed that I’d decided to have a child with someone who doesn’t really know me.