To not want DD to go out to a club/nightclub on Christmas Day?

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Would you be happy with this? DD (18, her birthday was last week) wants to go out to a nightclub on Christmas Day. I don’t think she should as Christmas Day is a day to spend with family and for her to spend with us and her siblings and she could go out on any other day/night. DD is still saying she wants to go out though. DH thinks I’m being unreasonable and he thinks it’s fine for her to go out on Christmas Day. AIBU?

After harassing her for days demanding that she justifies her plans, provides evidence FGS etc - I’m not remotely surprised she’s escaped.

I hope she has a great day.

I hope you try to have a good day too and find the grace within you and Christmas spirit to welcome her home later.

I assume she’s spending Christmas Day with you? Let her go out and have some fun with her friends Christmas evening

The good ol' days 😁🤪😍

Let her go . If she forced to stay in she will sulk or retreat to her room . She is 18 an adult let her make her own choices.

Read the fucking thread lol she's gone out already today. The daughter has fucked off without a bye or leave to her DM and she wasn't going to go out until 2pm.... There's nothing in at the venue shes supposedly going to, not a publicly advertised gig anyway.... She has a shitty 18 year old attitude

Really?
He's offered the OP up to pick up their joint kid because she wouldn't pre-book a taxi. He won't do it himself because he won't be able to have a beverage then but it's ok because good ol' mum will traipse around 🙄 just no....

Very little is open, most pubs close at 2pm on Christmas Day. There are clubs but nothing early evening here

the days of wanting to go clubbing and spending Christmas with your friends are short. Let her go with good grace.

As I have already said, the OP is quite within her rights to refuse to be a taxi service. What is is not within her rights to do is to insist that her daughter stays at home until she is given permission to go out. And yes, I think the OP is overrreacting.

If you carry on like this, you’ll likely never spend Christmas with her again. I understand it’s hard but she’s 18. You have to let go. She’s an adult. Asking her to justify and prove that the club is open is just going to push her away.

Let her crack on - what can you do at this point. In the meantime, you can enjoy your day without a stroppy teenager/kidult around ruining the atmosphere. Pour yourself a drink and practice some radical acceptance - teens are meant to try their parents, it's the life stage they're in. She may look back on what she did today at some stage and feel a bit ashamed, but clearly at the moment she's all about her peer group and your protests are only likely to drive more of a wedge between you. Speak to her about it later when the dust has settled, calmly.

Enjoy a more peaceful, teenage strop free few hours in the meantime!

Boxing Day was the day for us, always a big rave !!

Of course she can't make her. I never said anything about that.

My point is that DH should be available for the pick up instead of preferring OP because he wants to get drunk.
Wouldn't it be better for a male to go to location at whatever o/clock?

Agree.

Try and enjoy yourself OP

I still say DH should pick her up.

ok. My response that she was overrreacting was about the whole "She can't go out, she must stay with US till after Christmas Lunch."
Of course her father shouldn't have volunteered the OP to be a taxi service. THAT's the bit the OP has control over and can refuse to do.
If you read the OP's original post though, she was definitely trying to make her daughter stay home!

I’m going to have no choice but to go and pick DD up if she can’t get a taxi unfortunately because DH has already had a drink! And he’s told DD I’ll pick her up if she needs!!

Of course you have a choice. She can get an uber home if she needs to.

You have a choice.
You may not like your choice but it exists.

yup.

You may find if she can't get a taxi but one of her friends can / does that she just goes home with that friend and you pick her up in the morning from the friend's house. or she gets a taxi then.

Yes she was and it's ok to ask the girl to stay in and go out later. But to try and force her is only going to go one way which by the sounds of it, it has.

Sorry, I don't always stay on track.

I'll tell my DP something and hours later I'll continue with what I was saying and he'll not have a clue what Im talking about because for him, that conversation was done but I have ADHD so much brain is always coming up with questions and statements and song lyrics and questions and more questions and some answers to

That end but should say, I have ADHD so my brain... Not much 🤷🏼‍♂️

I get the feeling that this is your DH all over... Thoughtless and selfish.
I hope I'm wrong

cut the apron strings. Stop forcing traditions. Let people be.

She is an adult, let her go out and enjoy herself after the boredom of being stuck with the oldies. Offer to go and collect her afterwards, it’s Xmas.