To not want DD to go out to a club/nightclub on Christmas Day?

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Would you be happy with this? DD (18, her birthday was last week) wants to go out to a nightclub on Christmas Day. I don’t think she should as Christmas Day is a day to spend with family and for her to spend with us and her siblings and she could go out on any other day/night. DD is still saying she wants to go out though. DH thinks I’m being unreasonable and he thinks it’s fine for her to go out on Christmas Day. AIBU?

Seems soul-less

Why don’t you check out which night clubs are open 🤷‍♀️

What an earth are you on about?
Are you suggesting that anyone who wants to go out with mates at Christmas is because they’re being sexually harassed at home, abit of a jump don’t you think?!?

All you seem to do is repeat yourself over and over. Are you actually listening to any of the responses or did you just want everyone to agree with you?

Op do you still tell your mother who you are going out with when you go out with friends or even with dh?

I doubt it because your an adult right…

This is what Google AI is saying (may or may not be right, the link is to Instagram which i don't have).

No, Rooftop 252 in Blackpool is part of the Cafe 25 family and they explicitly state they are closed on Christmas Day, along with Boxing Day, New Year's Eve, and New Year's Day, so their staff can enjoy the holidays. While many places in Blackpool close, some larger chains like Premier Inn restaurants or specific pubs (like Wetherspoons) might open for limited hours, but independent spots like Rooftop 252 typically take the full break, as confirmed by their recent social media post.

I think this all sounds a bit odd OP - she doesn't want to book taxis, won't tell you who she'd going with and says she's going to a bar that doesn't seem to be opening?

I'd be thinking there's a much older boyfriend that you won't approve of that she's really seeing or something else going on here.

Don't know why people saying it's none of your business, 2 weeks ago she was a child, was it your business then? What difference does 2 weeks really make? I'd be very concerned personally, she's obviously hiding something and is barely more than a kid.

Well she’s only 18 tbf.

She is 18 😂 Surely she can do as she pleases.

The AI on google says it’s not open.

and she’s old enough to buy a house, get married, have a baby or enrol in the army all without needing to tell her mum.

She didn't become an adult just two weeks ago though so it's really not the same.

It’s not ‘your’ day. It’s for everyone. I hate when a family member decides they own Christmas

But I bet she also didn’t when she was 18 unless she also had an overbearing mother.

Yes but it doesn't mean doing all those things would be a good idea for her right now.

She maybe 18, but if she still lives at home I would expect her to join in with the family Christmas unless she’s been invited to spend Christmas elsewhere.
It just common courtesy to tell you her rough plans.’
To be honest - I smell a rat. I reckon she’s up to no good. What are her friends like? Are they the decent sort or a bit rough round the edges?

I would be annoyed and unhappy too. Festivals are meant to bring families/ friends together and share traditions. Its alright to prioritise family on these occasions. She can go clubbing on other days in the week. Why specifically Christmas day? Unless you are not on particularly good terms with each other.

Stop being so controlling, leave the poor girl alone. She is 18. Not 8.

It looks like a hire venue.
Maybe she's going to a private party???

I was kind of on the side of majority posters here in that she's old enough, leave her make her own decisions...but having read on, I do understand your worries.

The most normal thing would be for her at least to be chatting to you about who's going or who's party it is.
One thing is being an adult and living your own life, but a flat out refusal to even give you an idea of who she's going to be with on her first Christmas away from the family is a little bit odd.

No but also means she should be allowed to think for herself and make her own mistakes without mummy hovering over like she’s still a toddler.

Ops made her point to her daughter and daughters made her point. Op now won’t let it rest till she wins.

Have you tried saying it will ruin your day because you’ll be anxious as you don’t know how she’s getting home ? And you’re worried she’ll be hanging around for ages on her own trying to get a taxi ( memories of my youth up north , but I was always with someone else;) Say you want her to have fun but you’re worrying ? I would be anxious tbf if it was me( sorry) I know she’s 18 but I’d relax more if I knew she was with good mates.

Have you got children yourself ? She’s 18
I always told them it’s better to have someone who worries about them than to have no one who cares!!!

I would be concerned that whoever she is meeting could have ill intentions. She wants to go out from 2pm til late, refuses to say who with and refuses to book a taxi in advance. It all seems very dodgy to me, especially as this was all last minute.

I agree that you don't suddenly cut the cord at 18, but you should slowly give them independence and responsibility so they are fully ready when they turn 18.

All the nightclubs in my town are open on Xmas night and most of the pubs

Let’s have a mn Xmas day Edinburgh clubathon. 3 sisters then subway then fingers. I’ll be in jeans, corset, fairy wings and glittery green eyeshadow.