My house is haunted advice please

[saminamama]

Husband - 32 and an absolute scientist non believer
me also 32 and whilst a bit more open minded also a non believer

So my husband has been saying for months he thought I was on the landing and then found our no I wasn’t.. he saw a shadow on the upstairs landing and looked up to discover I was downstairs

didnt think much until both children were on my bed and then one of the picture hooks on a picture rail pinged onto the floor of its own accord the other morning now while it freaked me out.:: I didn’t think much and rationalised a mouse ./////

again didn't think much of it until the baby was crying this afternoon and I saw with my own eyes the outline of a man walk across the landing (looked like a shadow)

then this evening the lights (dimmer switch) were switching on and of and this happened about 20 times

not sure what to think

Why would the dead wives haunt the husbands who have moved on to someone new ? Maybe they are having such a fab time in the afterlife that they don't care ? Maybe their husband's weren't very nice ? Just a thought.

Well, you’d definitely call me a ‘Boomer (far end category)’, and for that kind of crap I’d just as likely consign you and all your ageist pals to my bin for those with reduced awareness, so I guess we’re even.

But for the record I think @MrsSkylerWhite is correct as usual, and you’d find a lot more free thinking Oldies than you might among your own generation.
(It’s we who grew up with psychedelia and hash, not to mention Government Orange Juice, after all! Ghosts would be nowt compared to the things we’ve witnessed 😵‍💫)

Whether or not there are ghosts, there has never been a proven incident where a ghost has harmed anyone. Typically they seem to restrict themselves to wafting around harmlessly and occasionally knocking things on the floor, with possibly some odd noises, howling and the like. Less trouble than the average labrador.
So, believe if you will, but there isn't really any need to 'do' anything, as nothing is going to happen to you.

I had very similar things happen when I moved into my home. (Which I still live in).

Thankfully for me a new lady started at work around the same time this was happening, at the end of our first shift (nothing at all was spoken about personal just the regular where did you work before blah blah) she said can I pass on a message. Explained she had been able seen spirits since she was a child and was able to communicate with them. I was sceptical but open. At this point I was still telling myself I was imaging it all.
She told me the spirit in the house was of a young boy who was trying to get my attention, listed specifics of what he had done; moving pictures, turning lights on, turning on the hot water taps and only hot never cold, tapping on the bedroom door. I could feel his presence mostly on the stairs and she also mentioned that’s where he was centred in the house. I hadn’t told anyone apart from my partner, what was going on at the time.

My partner who is a very rational person also heard running up and down the stairs when he was in the house alone and was spooked. Thank goodness I didn’t because I would have been out the window 😆

Last resort was to say ‘in the name of God you must leave’. (I am not religious but this did at a much later date save me, when I had my one and only sleep paralysis). She asked her spirit guides to ask the spirit to move on, she told me to say in the house that the spirit was scaring me and to please leave, which I did and saged the house (also got sage incense which I burned everyday). 7 years later and nothing has ever happened again.

I have gone into detail because I do feel MN is primarily people who will tell you are crazy with stuff like this. You are not. Some people are just more susceptible to be able to feel/hear/see other energies.

Ask the spirit to leave and tell it is scaring you.
Sage and open all windows.
Ask for help from a local spiritualist church.

A few years later the old owner (male in his 50s, builder) who lived here for 20 years on his own, came to pick up some post which he forgot to change the address and I used the opportunity to ask him if he ever had anything strange happen in the house. He just started laughing and knew straight away what I was talking about and told me his very similar experiences.

It’s your home now, there’s ways to sort this out 🧡

I think ‘Less trouble than the average Labrador’ should be a sticky at the top of all woo threads.

Probably built on an old indian burial. On a serious not, if you genuinely believe this, visit your local church and ask to have it blessed.

A shadow could move across the landing because of a reflection from a car passing outside, there's all sorts of explanations.

I believe you. I’ve had similar experiences

I’m a boomer. I have over the course of a long life seen many things that when I was young were thought to be supernatural explained away.Incidentally-please don’t use “boomer” as an insult. It’s tedious, infantile and shows limited life experience.

Please let me start with I 100% believe you, first please check your carbon monoxide detectors.
I lived in a haunted house and the amount of people who were just downright awful to me when I was going through something so terrifying (to me) was awful. Telling me I was attention seeking and literally not holding space.
failing the carbon monoxide test I would contact your local church at the minimum they will come out and bless the house and then you can work on your options from there if that fails and good luck ❤️

Call Danny Robins

I clean houses at reasonable prices. 😁

im definitely on the fence on this one.

Our first house was a Victorian terraced house, and from day one the right hand bedroom window would be open when we got in, even though we had closed it when we left. We spent nearly £60 changing the locks, it happened still and I drive past now and that window is always open.

i often used to smell cigarettes in the front bedroom, sane room as the window. We didn’t smoke. nor did my neighbours.

We both saw a nurse one night, and we told one of the neighbours about a strange dream we both had, she had lived in the street as a child, and moved back when her mother was ill, and she told us that Annie was a district nurse, smoked like a train in the big front bedroom that’s why the dingos was always open - and that maybe she is looking after the house - we were never cold, never hungry, or skint.

We sold up because it was a small two up, two down, we outgrew it, but strange things happened in that house that there was no answer for

She saw the outline of a man!

😂😂😂😂

Our house is also haunted - a child by our bed and someone running up and downstairs - not scared just wary of being on my own on the house

@saminamama can you smell anything unusual?

One for Danny Robbins I think!

Years ago my dad was home alone, at that time our lounge door had windows in it looking to the hallway, my mum was out dad heard her come home open the front door, my mum put a little chime thing above the front door no idea why! The tinkle went door closed and dad saw mum walk past the lounge door down the hallway, he shouted hello but she didn’t respond. He waited and after a few minutes the front door opened the tinkle went and my mum walked in. She went into the lounge and my dad asked what she was doing going in and out mum replied she hadn’t she had only just walked in. Dad told her not to play silly buggers and explained but she was adamant that she had only just walked in. Dad a total non believer couldn’t work it out he knew he could’ve imagined it but he says he definitely saw mum walk down the hall. Mum wasn’t the type to play tricks like that so no idea what that was. Lots of odd things happened in that house.

Many years ago I lived in a flat which had some extremely odd goings on. DH would hear children giggling then tugs at his T-shirt, I would hear footsteps in the kitchen and get the distinct feeling of someone coming up behind me and placing their hands on my shoulders. Both DH and I saw a man in the kitchen at different times. It was when our then four year old son came to tell us that the man in the kitchen disappeared that we thought ok this is really happening. DS described the man’s clothing and it was what both DH and I had seen. As there was no bad feeling in the flat we concluded that nothing was going to harm us, and we just coexisted. I know most people don’t believe in ghosts etc, but how can any of us say we know for sure what phenomena actually exist?

Our first jointly owned marital home was a converted Norman church in rural Essex, on the Stour Estuary, surrounded by graveyard with commemorative stones in the basement floor, plus font. The occupants had been moved to other resting places when it was deconsecrated (though our cats did bring up a human jaw bone complete with several teeth one evening).
Some friends were freaked out by the very idea. It must be haunted!
Why on earth would you haunt the place where you were buried, rather than the places that you’d spent your life?
It was the most peaceful, lovely place. Our very young daughter and I often put little bouquets on the graves.
Three things slightly bothered me: a couple of cans of food seemed to jump off of the kitchen shelves when we were packing the shopping away one evening, soon after moving in, no apparent reason. I went in early next morning and said out loud, “you’re welcome to stay here, but please don’t do anything like that again, it’s not nice.” (Never told my husband I’d done that, nothing else happened). On another occasion, the police turned up banging on the door, insisting that there’d been a series of 999 calls from our then landline, with the caller hanging up each time. They insisted on coming in and looking round (embarrassing, 3 month old baby, house was a tip!)

Finally, hoovering and singing along to loud music one afternoon, a funeral cortège appeared and drove up to the graveyard. We hadn’t been notified, I had no idea what to do so turned off the hoover and the music and stood quietly whilst the ceremony went ahead. My husband rang round the next day and complained that we hadn’t been informed. It was a lady whose husband had been buried some 20 years earlier and they had bought a double plot. That there was a new grave outside did unnerve me for a while.

The most frightening thing that happened was very much human activity, though. We’d bought new bikes for us all, left them in the (imagine traditional) church porch. The very next day, they were gone. That was scary as hell. We were a good 1/2 mile off the road, up a track, in farmland. Suggested someone was watching.

As my Cornish father in law always said, “‘‘tis not the dead you need to fear, but the living”.

If anyone wants to look at it, Was St. Mary’s House, Little Oakley.

I’m not sure a casserole is going to help the OP through this terrifying ordeal, however well seasoned.

How long have you actually lived in the house?

Contact lan, Barry and Jayne from Help, my house is haunted, love that programme.