My house is haunted advice please

[saminamama]

Husband - 32 and an absolute scientist non believer
me also 32 and whilst a bit more open minded also a non believer

So my husband has been saying for months he thought I was on the landing and then found our no I wasn’t.. he saw a shadow on the upstairs landing and looked up to discover I was downstairs

didnt think much until both children were on my bed and then one of the picture hooks on a picture rail pinged onto the floor of its own accord the other morning now while it freaked me out.:: I didn’t think much and rationalised a mouse ./////

again didn't think much of it until the baby was crying this afternoon and I saw with my own eyes the outline of a man walk across the landing (looked like a shadow)

then this evening the lights (dimmer switch) were switching on and of and this happened about 20 times

not sure what to think

But you do have conscious thoughts when it happens. I once woke, and saw my boyfriend come into our bedroom, walk around the side of the bed, kneel down and take his contacts out and then get up and walk out of the room. Half way through this, I remembered he was away for the weekend…. So I was having thoughts all the way through. And I was calm. The first I had, I was a child and very calm, and thinking. It was a calm, peaceful scene being acted out.

The only advice you need OP. Grounded and logical 💪🏻

Yes, a select number of Catholic priests are appointed as exorcists and can visit a haunted property to say particular prayers in the rite of exorcism. This can happen regardless of faith, but I imagine an atheist wouldn't bother asking unless they were not as committed to atheism as they thought!

Our dimmer switch lights used to do that, the electrican advised us to use different bulbs.

Seeing 'shadow people' is common when you're sleep deprived. I used to see shadow mice running along our skirting boards.

The problem is, the more you believe in it, the more it will happen. Don't read other people's spooky stories and convice yourself you have ghosts or it will get worse. Human brains are so suggestible, especially when they are tired and on high alert.

Absolute scientist non believer poppycock. If you didn’t believe something you wouldn’t have posted this.

Ghosts don’t exist. Hope that helps.

I've heard that if ghosts exist they stay in the place where they died

Great post, yes.
I think the husbands move quickly because mostly they are useless and need someone at home around them.
The wives, on another hand, wouldn't MOSTLY touch anyone with a bargepole, let alone plant them in their homes again. 😊

Your houses isn’t haunted. Ghosts don’t exist. Hope that helps.

There really is no such thing as ghosts. Your hook wasn't fixed properly, your electrics need to be checked (and dimmer switches are notorious for going wrong), and the shadow was something like a cloud going past the moon or you being tired and sleep-deprived.

If that was true after multiple millennia of I don’t even know how many of trillions of human deaths on this planet we would be constantly tripping over millions of ghosts everywhere we went so that’s complete crap.

I dont know whether all this spirit stuff really happens, none of us do really. Things can happen that nobody can explain.
Many people think its bunkum but is it really?
I would be unnerved if this was happening in my home and I would be thinking of asking a psychic medium to come around and have a look.
Laugh as much as you want but some things cant be explained away

My very first house 17 years ago - immediately after moving in our new next door neighbours informed us that they were built on an old graveyard. I was pregnant at the time. We had things go missing, then turn up in really obvious places. Think things like TV remote, then we would come home and it would literally be on the centre of the sofa. At the time it was just 2 adults living in the house. Drops of water randomly fell on my head and face from nowhere. Our cat used to howl randomly. TV was often on when we came home then turn off before we had entered the living room. Whatever it was it went away eventually - but I did wonder if I had moved into the Poltergeist house!!!

Then we moved (in with a friend inbetween houses) and the house we moved into had something that felt a little stronger in the loft. The house owner said they had experienced it too. We used to hear a music box randomly in the loft but there was no music box in the loft. Worst was when I was downstairs with my daughter and we heard what sounded like my voice calling her upstairs…. We both heard it. She just turned and looked at me in horror. She was 4 at the time. We thankfully moved out again a month or so later.

Prior to all of this I’d been a total non believer - and thankfully our house now is definitely not haunted

I don't believe in that nonsense either. But....

I used to live in a very old house that had been sectioned off to create three separate houses. My part had the very grand old staircase in it. We often saw shadows on the staircase. The dog categorically refused to go onto the little half landing, we had to carry her over it. One time all the candles in the room went out, one after the other, then an hour later flickered back on in the exact reverse order. I worked opposite and regularly would look across to see the blinds in my bedroom had closed themselves when no one was in, once it happened literally in front of my eyes as I was telling a friend about it and pointed across to my room window just in time to see them close. I ran over but there was no one in.

After I moved out there was a post on the local facebook page from the new occupant saying did anyone know anything about this house as he was interested in its history, cue several previous residents from all three of the houses wading in with similar stories.

That’s interesting and thanks for sharing your experiences… when you realised it wasn’t a dream, did you then ‘wake up’ in your bed as you normally would, or did you realise you were imagining things and stay awake and get on with your day? I’ve had experiences of thinking I’m awake and getting up and going to the loo etc, sometimes it goes on in a loop over and again and it’s horrible because I realise I’m dreaming and it’s part of sleep paralysis.
I’ve always had ‘interesting’ sleep experiences including what felt like out of body experiences… all of these I can attribute to my mind playing tricks.
The ‘ghost’ experience just felt different to these. I was fully cognisant and there was no ‘reawakening up’ if you know what I mean!

I really hate the ‘first post nails it’ expression used on here all the time. But, ya know, first post nails it😅

If you’re scared of anything, it should be because of a potential house fire due to dodgy wiring. Not a ghost.

One of our bedroom lights randomly turns on and off. We’ve had an electrician check the wiring and he couldn’t find anything wrong. Do I think it’s a ghost? Nope.

As a few pp’s have said, the brain can definitely play tricks. And once you’ve decided that something strange is there, your brain will keep reaching for it and you’ll make connections between events that have no reason to be connected.

When I was in my early twenties, I woke up early one morning when it was just getting light to see four or five children playing ring-a-roses in my bedroom. They were so real and so solid looking. I blinked and stared and stared and watched as they evaporated. I didn’t assume they were ghosts because I don’t believe in ghosts. I believed they were the remnants of a dream. That I had wakened in the middle of a dream and my brain just hadn’t caught up with the fact that my body was awake. I suddenly remembered other instances of this happening, like waking up from a dream where I was chasing a rabbit (wonder what I’d been reading🤔😃) I chased the rabbit up a lamppost and started to fall, then woke up to see a rabbit in my room, plain as day. Except there wasn’t. Obviously I understand that these are different scenarios from the OP, but the brain really is utterly fascinating.

I completely understand what you’re saying. If you need help or advice about this I can help - promise I’m not a crank just a Christian with experience of this. It’s easily dealt with

I’m not laughing- but as you can see from this thread, things can be explained. For example-when I was a young woman people were always seeing “orbs” in photographs. Sometimes they were spectacularly spooky, hanging in the air over people’s heads. Then it turned out they were the result of dust on the camera lens. All the old ghost photographs people like Conan Doyle were impressed by were the result of double exposures or reusing plates. It’s not a long time since we discovered sleep paralysis and lucid dreaming- which explained another lot of phenomena. So it goes on.

I am a complete sceptic and always try and find a rational explanation when weird things happen, but some things are just not reasonably explainable. For example, staying at a friend’s new house and as I was getting dressed one morning I heard a knock at the bedroom door and a child say “hello”. My boyfriend and I both said hello back and I opened the door within seconds expecting to see my friend’s 3 year old but no one was there. I went downstairs and mentioned to my friend that her son must have been keen for us to come downstairs as he’d knocked on our door, and she looked at me strangely and said he wasn’t there. His dad had taken him out earlier that morning and he wasn’t back yet. I cannot explain this at all as two of us heard it and reacted to the knock and hello. There was no tv or radio in the bedroom that could have confused us, and we had been awake and chatting for quite a while so it wasn’t some dreamlike event.

At my old house, which was a new build so no creepy history, we went through a period of time when weird things kept happening- twice I heard what i can only describe as an electronic voice taking to me. I can’t tell you what it said because it didn’t sound clear- it was like two electronic voices saying the same thing but there being a slight delay with one of them so it muffled the clarity of the words but it was in the pattern of speech. If you remember the “Speak and spell” kids toy from the 80s it sounded like that but with the lack of clarity. I had heard of people being frozen in fear before but never understood it until that point, but in this instance I was completely frozen in fear and couldn’t move for around 5 minutes even though my dh was downstairs. For days after I searched the bedroom for anything that could have made that voice but the only electronic device I could fine was the tv and it had been off during the incident.

Over a series of months I could feel my hair being pulled whilst I sat watching tv in the evening. It didn’t seem scary, just annoying.

I heard a loud bang as something fell to the floor in the next room. My dp heard it too. I went into the room expecting to see a huge mess or damage, but there was nothing to be seen- everything was exactly how it should be.

TBH there was a lot of incidents like this over a period of 18 months and then it stopped and nothing has happened since (this was back in 2015/2016) Some of the incidents I could easily find explanations for but others I can’t explain no matter how I try. Both my sister and brother, who are also sceptics, have experienced odd unexplainable events. My sister went out one evening with her dh, when they came home they discovered the lightbulb in their bedroom had blown. Because it was dark and late they decided to change the bulb in the morning. The following day, when her dh went to change the bulb he realised the old one had smashed as the glass was almost completely gone. The light fitting was over their bed so it should have covered the bed in the glass when it blew but he couldn’t find any glass on the bed. He was confused as to where the glass had gone and started searching around before seeing a neat little pile of glass on my sister’s dressing table. Neither her dh or my sister have any idea how the glass ended up like that. This happened in an apartment they rented in London. They only stayed there for a year because a number of uncomfortable incidents occurred there.

I had a similar experience after waking up once, I've often wondered if I was still dreaming, but I know I wasnt. I was very much awake and it was definitely real.

Not likely to be infrasound unless earthquakes, explosions etc are common where OP lives.

Infrasound can be created in a lab so not beyond the realms of possibility that something in the house or surrounding environment could be causing it. More likely than ghosts anyway.

https://www.myscience.org/news/2024/infrasound_sound_waves_that_nothing_can_stop-2024-cnrs

Oh I love Uncanny, thanks for the heads up! I'd love to believe in ghosts but unfortunately, I have come to the conclusion they don't exist.

For years I slept in the room that my mother died in - and sadly it was not a peaceful death - and believe me, if she could've haunted me, she would! But not so much as a whisper for the five years I stayed there.

Sorry OP, but it's all going to have a very dull.explanation.