I could have written this. Dysfunctional family, parents who let us (and each other) down at almost every turn. Doesn’t lay the foundations for future healthy relationships. My eldest brother and I fought like cat and dog growing up, he was so selfish (and still is), and bullied me to watch whatever he wanted on our only tv, wouldn’t lend me his things. I was so generous and put others first, so our values haven’t aligned since we were younger. It’s civil but forced and he makes less effort than me.
my other brother has so many problems I wouldn’t know where to start, kind heart but eating problem (morbidly obese), doesn’t have a single friend and hasn’t done for decades, one gf in his lifetime but many years ago now. I feel really really really sorry for him and the guilt I have eats away at me everyday of my life. Has no social or communication skills, just talks over everyone and will raise his voice until the other person backs down, can be quite short tempered. Hard to speak to or be around and frankly, told me years ago he doesn’t want my sympathy, so I’ve tried to not get too involved but I don’t see how he can turn things around. It’s so sad.
my sister. Boy oh boy. I’ve written many threads on here about her. I wouldn’t know where to start. Endless cycle of relationships that fail, money problems, in debt, no money to rent long term so is in/out flat shares and asking to move in with me (again) is entitled and ungrateful once she does get her foot through the door. We do not speak.
our dad died and no one has a real relationship with mum. She’s an alcoholic. Believe it or not we were privately educated and went through spells of having money and then not as kids, it all starts at home. It’s a mess. Im happier without them but grieve the family I see others having. The normal family, this thread gives me comfort.