DH going to the gym on Christmas Day!

[Wifetobe21]

For about 1.5 hours mid morning. A couple of his mates usually go and have roped him in.

He is into his fitness but surely people can give it a miss for one bloody day?!

So what's the problem then?

you forgot prostitution, drug dealing and I am sure there are a few more I can't remember just now

But why should it always be the woman who gets stuck in the kitchen? It's not the 1950s.

Are you also surprised when people treat Eid, Diwali or Hanukkah as just another day?

Wow I didn’t expect so many replies! I must confess I haven’t had time to read them all.

I’ve accepted him going (need to pick my battles!), he will join us for a walk after dinner too so we will all get out as a family.

Myself and DM will be sorting all the prep/cooking, so that won’t be impacted by him nipping out.

Because he’s choosing to spend time with his friends instead of his kids.

So what if it’s ’only 90mins’.
Surely you can just see your friends when the kids in bed or the day before/after.

Yay OP’s back. And look, everything’s fine because the women were going to do all the womenwork anyway. So all those saying it was fine for him to go out are proved right! Er, hang on….

Just make sure you get the equivalent time to yourself or with your friends, or you and your mum, at some other time in the day or on Boxing Day OP. These men won't offer it to us, so we have to give them no option. This is what equality looks like, fellas.

I get plenty of ‘me time’ in general, so no issues there.

Assuming we're talking about people in the corresponding religions, it would probably strike me as slightly unusual, yes.

Will he be helping you at all with the meals, OP?

Not the prep/cooking, but I don’t need him to/haven’t asked.

Where did I say it should always be the women stuck at home? Can you enlighten me?

OPs husband isnt duty bound to no go to the gym because actually OP might want to go out instead but she's not decided.

You sound an utter joy to live with can I just say.

I doubt many people even know when they all are. Especially if they don’t live in a town.

That would include me.

No, as in your post you said not everyone keeps christmas.

I do parkrun most Christmas Days. It's nice to get out - Christmas can feel very claustrophobic.

She says she hasn't asked him to help with the prep or cooking. I'm certainly not someone who thinks women should do all the cooking. The absolute opposite

I do in my house because I live alone.

He has one child. 19 months as I said earlier

What gym is open on Christmas day?!

Lots of them.

The OP has already said that it's a gym attached to a hotel chain. I used to work in gyms and I worked Christmas and new year when I worked in pure gym

Complete non-issue...you have your parents to keep you company and help with childcare if needed.

I would find it controlling if someone was to make a fuss in that situation.

I personally wouldn't find it controlling tbh. But some of the responses on this thread are completely wild. He's a bad father because he's leaving home for 90 minutes on Christmas day to go to the gym

You can accept that he is going , and still not be too happy about it. Someone can understand the desire for alone time on a busy day , and think someone should be present for guests. It is understandable that people are dedicated to the gym , but still think that a missed session won't hurt, especially when there are other things going on that day .