DH going to the gym on Christmas Day!

[Wifetobe21]

For about 1.5 hours mid morning. A couple of his mates usually go and have roped him in.

He is into his fitness but surely people can give it a miss for one bloody day?!

Yes they are but some are staffed on Christmas and new years day too

Whereas you wouldn't catch me getting up at 6am to go to the gym in a million years

Nip it in the bud now. He will think he can do it in a few years time when you may have more children and your parents will be older and may need more help. And his gym trip may get longer so it disrupts your timetable for lunch

Exactly, do none of the posters on here take themselves off for a nap, or a bath, or to maybe ring a distant relative? Do none of them go out to walk the dog or want a bit of peace and quiet for half an hour?

I have autism and so does my DC.
We’re more than aware of the need for space.

I would never say spending 15hours a day with my child is claustrophobic.
Its just a standard weekend or sick day for most parents.

You’re the one who insulted the PP because they do things differently to you by saying they were joined at the hip if they choose to spend 1 entire day with their kids.
So I’m not sure why you’re trying to play the victim now.

Saying people are "joined at the hip" is hardly on the same level as telling someone they "must have something wrong with them", is it?

What you said to me was downright offensive, and as someone with autism yourself, you should know better than to use language like that towards other people.

Have a good Christmas!

I do realise not everyone keeps Christmas (and I don't want to be insensitive here, I also know circumstances prevent many from doing so, but that's a different topic), but I'd be very surprised if many families with children actively choose to treat it as just another day.

Your poor kids if the only full day a year you spend with them is Christmas Day. Most of us regulary spend full days with them. Not that they need us to unless they are ill.

Honestly, many people do. Yes, there are presents and a nice roast dinner, but otherwise it's just another day where we do normal things - including hobbies, reading, having some quiet time, doing exercise, walking the dog etc.

I’m actually surprised there’s so many people in support of the gym trip.

If the gym time is 90 minutes, then it could be well over two hours if you include travel etc. The timing is mid- morning, so in the midst of post-stocking fun, plus meal preparation etc. Ops husband will be clock watching to go out, rather than going with the flow of the day. He’s also putting his mates before his family.

i wonder what op’s dp would have said if op said she wanted to go out for a two hour walk in the morning, without anyone else, leaving him to sort everything out, including looking after their child. I guessed he wouldn’t be best pleased.

But she's not being left on her own - she'll have her parents there. I think if she was going to be totally by herself with a toddler while trying to cook Christmas dinner, it would be a bit different.

This is one of those threads so full of people keen to disagree that they come out with all sorts statements you won’t have heard before and never will again. My favourite so far is you think Catholics don’t enjoy going to the gym on Christmas Day when it’s open? Oh come on!!.

If you can’t step back and see the humour in the trying-so-hard-to-disagree earnestness of that then I sympathise.

And claiming that it’s important to avoid burn out to do things like go to the gym on Christmas Day, when the DH does it everyday and is so obviously the least likely to be burnt out in this relationship…. oh the irony is too much.

I’ll keep reading, it’s comedy gold.

projecting much?

I am the wife, and the mum, and I am taking an hour on christmas day to go for a run. No need to play martyr because you are a parent who has to spend an entire hour with their own children 😂

You are free to be lazy, you don't have to enjoy exercising but no need to insult everyone else who is different.

Timetable for lunch? Do women have to work to a timetable for lunch? Have I stepped back to 1955? Seriously give me strength. He's going out for 90 minutes. Are folk supposed to be chained to one another all festive season just because they live together and have kids?

I think it's poor parenting to show a lazy example of adults staying home doing nothing an entire day, so there you go 😂

Most sensible people don't train every day. There's such a thing as over training. Many people will train four or five days a week. We don't know how often he trains.

@MandemChickenShop

aw, you deserve a lie in too! It’s ok to go when your family are up! I’m sure they’ll be happy you’re doing something for yourself that you enjoy

You know what really annoys me? On these threads always about the MAN going out to exercise and be active while MUM just wants to stay home in her kitchen all day.

Meanwhile in the real world, people (men and women) meet to go for their traditional Christmas wild swimming, their Christmas day run, they meet at the gym, they just have a normal life.

But MN is straight from the 50s apparently, where wifey expects her husband to stay meekly on the sofa and cheer her impressive gravy-from-scratch skills. It's very depressing.

Toddlers have to have a routine for eating and sleeping (mine got into meltdown because DH had something more important to do Christmas day ) Plus you have other family members there.

Assuming he's working full time like most people, surely it makes MORE sense to grab a couple of hours when you are on annual leave than trying to squeeze everything around work/ kids/ life on a normal working day?

Why would you not make the most of Christmas day when you are off work?

It is a special day. I would be annoyed if my husband chose to go to the gym instead of putting the family first.

Why does taking 90 minutes for yourself mean you're not putting family first? Do the other 14 hours he'll be spending at home with his family suddenly become irrelevant because he's popped to the gym?

It just boggles my mind that so many people can't imagine spending any time to themselves just because it happens to be December 25th!

and how would you feel if YOU wanted to go to the gym and your husband was annoyed with you? Controlling or claustrophobic much?

Do you honestly believe that after doing whatever preparations and Christmas activities with the kids you've chosen to do, spending 1 hour outside means you don't put your family first? -and that women belong in the kitchen apparently-

really?

The OP said that he was going reluctantly. I personally don't understand why it has to be so black and white? Going to the gym means you are putting your family second?

Do people have to spend every minute of the festive season together if they are married and have kids