DH going to the gym on Christmas Day!

[Wifetobe21]

For about 1.5 hours mid morning. A couple of his mates usually go and have roped him in.

He is into his fitness but surely people can give it a miss for one bloody day?!

Fine, if every one else can do the same. Perhaps Mum can do the same while DH gets on with cooking the dinner.

The fact that he is going to the gym isn't the problem. Op being told ( not asked) he is going with friends and leaving her as the default parent and she does not have the same opportunity is. This just all leads to resentment and contempt. Do these gym friends have small children?

No most don't as its a very unhealthy, co dependent way of living.

Loads of us will be on MN on Christmas day reading about other people's problems while our kids watch crap tv. That is the reality of faaamily time.

Where does it say she won't have the same opportunity?

It's 90 mins, it's not long, can you not just accept that's what he wants to do? Perhaps he can take over for you to have a 90 min break too! A stroll is lovely on Xmas day.

I used to take the family dog out for a 3hr walk in the morning, then a drive in the afternoon to the Pier in B'ton then go for another walk on the pier if weather was ok.

Sounds great to me. Why would that be an issue?

Why is it always assumed that women do all of the cooking?

Oh jeez 🙄

Just stop.

You’re being intentionally obtuse and now playing the victim.

Of course there’s something wrong with someone who calls spending 1 day with their kids claustrophobic.
As I said you were raised thinking that’s normal and so it’s not all your fault.

Most parents would not choose to spend time with their friends on xmas day over their kids.
You obviously do which I think is a bit sad but as you say we’re all different.

Exactly this!

I go to the gym 4 times a week.
On the days I don’t go I do some other form of exercise.

But I would never choose to see friends over my kids on Xmas day.

Why can’t the kids go out for some fresh air and exercise too.

The OP is going out for 90 minutes. He's not going out all day. How is this spending time with friends over their kids?

They have one child

Do tell us what's on your mind.
Bingo card ready, affair, controlling, [hates] inlaws or relaxing [from the pile on of christmas].🤔

90 minutes, she's going to be a 'lone' parent for 90 minutes with HER parents on christmas day. Ffs what planet are some people even on?
There'll be millions of peeps on their phones for the majority of christmas day and boxing day while with their family who will be doing the same thing.
Sadly for most peeps, christmas isn't like the movies or bloody tv ads where eveyone is happy and engaged with each other. It's not real life.
No wonder the divorce rate picks up in january, a lot of people are forced into the 'got to be jolly and have fun' with people they don't spend a lot of time with and might not even like.
So glad I don't celebrate this fake fun.

Is it an independent gym?

The chains are shut for sure

Is it an independent gym?

The chains are shut for sure

I think it’s fine unless you have kids who will want dad around on Xmas day

In Scotland some of the chains open. The OPs husband is going to a gym in a hotel chain

Lots of chain gyms are open on Christmas Day.

When i was a kid all the blokes used to go the pub before xmas dinner. Usually for longer than 90 mins!

No one batted an eyelid, in fact i remenber my mum almost insisting so he'd be out of her hair for a bit 😂

The kid is 19 months and he's going out for 90 minutes

She made a thread about it . She isn't going out to the gym on Christmas day . I suppose , im theory op could leave the dc in the house with the gp and go to the gym too.

Exactly, so she does have the opportunity. Just because she's choosing to stay in, doesn't mean her DH has to do the same.

It's crazy isn't it - you'd think he was going out for 14 hours and would only be home for 90 minutes the way some people are carrying on!

Yes, loads, especially the ones that aren’t manned 24/7 like the gym group and pure gyms.

my PT always used to laugh that the gyms were packed on Christmas Day but totally empty whenever there was an important football match…….. priorities, I guess!

who's stopping her?