DH going to the gym on Christmas Day!

[Wifetobe21]

For about 1.5 hours mid morning. A couple of his mates usually go and have roped him in.

He is into his fitness but surely people can give it a miss for one bloody day?!

The things you mention are special events (note the word "annual"). Going to the gym, just as you do every other day, is not a special event.

I’m going to Christmas Day parkrun. I have two kids. Before that was a thing I used to go horse riding or walking. It wouldn’t be healthy for my marriage if my husband tried to say we had to spend the day in the house with no exercise. You build your Christmas traditions around what you enjoy.

I will be exercising Xmas day. Great not to be squeezing it in on a work day. Better than sitting and eating chocolate.

I find this really strange that he would want to leave his family and young daughter to be with his friends at the gym on Christmas Day?! I would be upset that he’s even considering it.

My issue would be that afterwards he would want a leisurely bath / shower and then a sleep to recover.......

This.

My DH and 2 teen boys are playing golf (only 9 holes) on Christmas morning!

@Wifetobe21 hasnt really answered much on the thread so it’s hard to say who is being unreasonable. Did he do this pre baby?Then it’s pretty much a routine.

Does he disappear to the gym regularly and does @Wifetobe21 get get own down time?

Does he actually spend time with baby and do his fair share around th house?

Does the op feel he is trying to get out of xmas day stuff/spending time with her family/preparing the food etc, is that all left to her or will he be cooking/sharing the loa ?

Lots of people are active. No one needs to be at the gym every day (rest days!) and more research is showing we don’t need excessive amounts of exercise all the time. However i feel better when ive moved so i can understand why people do it. Is this more a catch up with mates?

I usually go for a run on Christmas day if we're at home.
Get up, stockings, run, get on with rest of day.

Both my BIL and my dad had 'I just have to pop here on Christmas morning' excuses (not the gym), and both of them were covers for seeing OW. I'm not saying OP's DH is cheating, but just saying it's not necessarily a ridiculous suggestion.

I usually go out for an hour (longer if my in-laws are staying with us!) on Christmas morning. I meet up with friends for a dog walk but really it's a stroll round the local park with bucks fizz/bailey hot chocolates in our flasks while the dogs entertain each other.

We go in the lull after breakfast when the kids are playing with their toys or crashed on the sofa after the morning adrenaline rush. It's my Christmas as well and the walk is something I really look forward to.

I think, unless the OP comes back to say her DH does nothing to help prep or organise the rest of Christmas day, there's nothing wrong with him taking a short time out on the day. Especially since he has said it's something he wants to do in advance so you can plan the timings of the day around it together.

I could have chosen my words better alright ..

I’m sure OPS husband’s friends are not more important to him than her On Christmas Day though 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't see it as any different from the amiable nutters who like to dash into the sea on Christmas Day, often with friends, so I think this is a tiny bit unreasonable, OP unless you have really young kids you need help with, or a child with SEN who will be awkward, etc. I'd treat it as an hour and a half's peace and quiet, put the children in front of the Christmas tv offerings/new toys and enjoy it!

All of The Gym Group gyms are closed on Christmas Day. I believe PureGym are too. I was responding to a PP who said the 2 biggest chains (The Gym Group and Pure Gym) are open 24/7. They usually are, but not at Christmas. They are closed so the people who provide remote supervision during periods where individual sites are unstaffed don't have to work. I didn't say ALL gyms are closed, I corrected a previous post that implied the 2 main chains in the UK would all be open, allowing their many members to access the gym.

My gym is a coded gym and will be open Christmas Day - and I will be going! I went last year too and it was busy.

I will go in the morning after opening presents when not much else is going on (I am not cooking, but I will help with the clean up after).

I don't get the problem. It's 1.5 hour out of a whole day.
I'd rather have a healthy DH than one sitting at home eating chocolate and drinking too much all day.
I admire his dedication to be honest. We'll be out getting our 10k steps in before we head out for lunch although I will skip the gym on Xmas day.

I can understand you POV OP but I don't think its a bad thing for him to exercise on Christmas day at all.
Sometimes people being stuck in a house all day isn't a great thing especially when it's big day like Christmas Day and can sometimes make people feel trapped, fresh air or exercise can make you feel so much better about yourself. We normally go for a walk so I think they gym or a run is pretty similar to that. I'm going to be in my exercise class tomorrow, it helps keep the anxiety down and helps me regulate myself. I will strongly be encouraging my 14hyr old he needs to go to the gym tomorrow and my daughter will be riding her horse at some point.

My DH is going to a gym class on Christmas Day! I’m surprised a class is running but apparently it booked up super fast! The rest of us are going to do parkrun at the same time. We’ll all get home about 10 and shower and be ready for guests to arrive late morning - perfect. I’m just not quite sure when we will do stockings!

I can tell all the weekend Mumsnetters are off for the holidays! Useless DP running away from 19 month olds duties for 2 hours on Christmas Day and apparently this is a great opportunity for op to spend quality time hosting Christmas alone. Lol

Yeah it’s weird and I’d be pissed off!

He has a 19 month old DD .
So even if spending time on Christmas Day with his friends in preference to his wife might be seen as acceptable to some pp I don't see how any one with a young child going to the gym on Christmas Day in preference to watching his dc enjoy the day can be seen as someone who actually cares about his family.

Totally on his side here! I go to the gym just twice a week on average but I particularly enjoy a little Christmas session. I think it’s the cabin fever / constant eating and drinking, a little break from it does you the power of good.

Can't believe it is open Christmas day. I'm in Ireland and gyms would not be open but there are many charity events such as sea swims and fun runs that people get involved in but they are more family/community events, maybe something like that would be better because you could all get involved. Gym Christmas day does sound a bit grim tbh.
I live near the mountains so a brisk walk is something I try to fit in Christmas afternoon

I think it’s ok with only one dc and your parents there - as long as he is engaged the rest of the day and your dd gets plenty of attention. I would enjoy the time with your parents. We find we all benefit from some time to do something for ourselves in Xmas day eg a walk. This usually a few of us but if not I go alone. Dh like to disappear to his study for an hour or two. It works for us but every family is different.

And?

I'll be running 10k Christmas morning while my (adult) children sleep in.

Boyfriend is off to the council run gym for an hour while his teenage son sleeps in.

Before I started running, this would have been crazy behaviour to me, particularly early on Christmas Day. Now I understand.