AIBU to ask what's the worst thing you've ever overheard someone say about you?

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Just that really. Luckily I haven't overheard anything about myself yet, but it occurred to me today that it must happen fairly often and I'm just curious to be honest! Also, if it happened to you, did the relationship survive afterwards or did you fall out?

Not overheard, but when I was 16, in my first real (ie: sexual) boyfriends house I saw a postcard his Mum's friend had written. "

"I understand your worry, your "ex husband" did spend a lot of time in that pub,. She was very pretty and young:"

They were referring to my, at the time, very happily married mum!

It continued:
"Giving X (their son) lots of condoms is a good idea"

WTF!? If you seriously thought we were half siblings, don't condone us having sex under your roof!!

A few more questions about my parentage would have been fine. The idea you were ok with half siblings having sex without knowing and you said nothing is more repulsive that you assuming my mum would have been interested in your philandering ex!

Spoiler - we were not related! And readers, I married....someone else years later. 😂

”People are generally good at heart.”
—Anne Frank

I don’t know, Anne. After reading this thread, I’m not quite sure about that.
People can be real assholes, if you ask me.
And heartless on top of it.

I have never overheard people I know talk about me but the worst is when I go to the public toilets in the likes of Marks and Spencers in a City and there are long queues and the disabled toilets are usually on the left and womens on the right. I have Crohn's and sometimes need a quick toilet so go past the q and get out my Radar key and Crohns card and say excuse me can I go here please.
Honestly the looks I get you would think I was asking to shit in their pockets and the comments are awful - nothing wrong with her just jumping the q. You can buy those keys off the internet - no you can't I want to take my baby in there, the end of the q is up there. Restaurants and cafes are lovely, just people in public toilets.
Yes I am a size 12 and dress well (not a brag) and don't look like I am ill but I need a toilet quicker than you do.
Not every disability is visible is something I might have tattood on my forehead anytime soon.
This is when I am shopping in Marks or don't know the area I am in as I know they have toilets. Wetherspoons is my next go to. I usually google all available toilets. 😁

I had similar with a customer on a zoom call. It was recording and although I'd hung up, he didn't for another hour. Once he did I was sent the whole recording. Even though the issue was entirely his fault and I was going to fix it for him he was slagging me off saying I was thick and had made the mistake. I guess he was talking to his boss and trying to pass the blame but he was incredibly rude about me so I took my time fixing his mistake.

It is not an acceptable word now, as you clearly know, so why would you use it to describe a girl you were at school with?

I was about 14/15 walking out of the school gates and some girls walking behind me were saying “Look at the state of her! She’s got a right fat face. She looks like a man” and spat all down the back of my blazer.

I pretended I didn’t hear them as I was terrified they’d beat me up if I looked at them. I ran home in tears covered in spit, and was too scared to go back to school for the rest of the week.

Someone once said I was an arsehole! I was utterly stunned.

Wow that’s heartbreaking.

Someone crashed into my car while it was stationary. First car, first time dealing with something like this. I phoned my Dad for advice and he told me what to do, I was worried I’d forget the process so said “Thank you Dad! Bye!” and hung up to call the insurance company, except the line stayed open & I heard my Mum say “that was quick” and my Dad said “well that’s Sequins isn’t it? Gets what she wants out of us and then we don’t exist”. He wasn’t joking either, it was cold and mean, how he said it. The two of them went on to pull almost every aspect of my character to pieces and I heard it all. I was breathless with shock. I’d left home at 18 and never asked for a penny from them or help with anything since apart from this car situation. They were a very co-dependent couple “us against the world” types, and loved falling out with and moaning about family members so I shouldn’t have been surprised really.

I think Anne Frank may have seen things worse than the experiences on this thread.

When I was 18 and first year at university I was in the loo at the pub and overheard two people from my halls laughing that I'd made an effort to look nice. One of them said "I think she actually thinks she looks good".

I didn't think that I was (as ever) utterly aware of being ugly but I had put on some nice clothes and some makeup. It took me literally years to get over it and I'm still quite sad now thinking about it 30 odd years later. It tapped in precisely to what I'd always thought which was that it was humiliating to dress up in any way as it looked like I was somehow acting above my station or something.

I don't give a fuck now and dress as I please but I just wanted to disappear into the background for years of life.

It did sting, but I have much more to lose than she does due to me being significantly more senior. I have to keep reminding myself she’s not worth it and the messages are driven by her own insecurity. Why on earth people think teams is an appropriated forum for mean thoughts is just beyond me though, 🤦‍♀️.

Mine wasn't as dreadful as these but when I was at college, I got a book in class where someone had written his notes about the whole class. I thought we got on well as i was nice and we had chatted loads about music yet he put that I was boring. My friend who was always quite aloof was called beautiful. Changed my brain dynamic really and I still think I must be boring even though he was a complete loser!

Sadly, most of the things that are negative were said to my face…

I didn't have a good relationship.with my mother and one of her things was to lie about me and make.me out to be a 'problem child'.

I once overheard her telling her friend on the phone that she was having so much trouble with me going to the local park in the evening, getting drunk and having sex with boys.

I wasn't. I didn't even go into this park in the daytime because of its reputation as somewhere that teens went to get drunk and have sex. I knew who the kids were who went in but I had nothing to do with them either.

I also overheard her telling my dad there was "something wrong" with me when I was 10 and that she was going to take me to see a 'child psychiatrist'. My dad told her that she should just do it if she wanted to rather than just talk about it.

This was a fairly common thing - there's something wrong with you, the men in white coats will take you away etc but this was the first time I'd overheard her having a conversation with someone else.about it and not just throwing it to me as an insult.

She said she couldn't because, if she did, it would go on my permanent record, none of the decent local secondary schools would want me, I'd never get a job and then she'd be stuck with me forever.

I overheard my mum saying that they’d only resuscitated me when I was born because they thought she couldn’t have other kids. She said “If I’d known I would have had “Golden Child” I would have told them not to bother and just leave her in the bucket.”

I found out I was saved in a friend’s phone as “Big Fat Chris”. Friendship ended immediately.

I'm so sorry, that's truly dreadful.
I hope you have lovely people in your life now.

My dad used to say lots of things to me and in front of other people (most of which were untrue and not very nice). I can think of a time though (I hadn’t thought about it for ages). Standing in the school playground in the first or second year of high school in the morning waiting for friends to arrive. A group of 3 or 4 older girls standing a metre or so away from me. One girl turns to look at me and says “if i looked like her I’d wear a bag in my head.” I can’t really remember the rest of it and I don’t think the other girls said anything but I remember standing trying very hard not to cry but also look like I knew that anyway so it didn’t really bother me to hear it. You have to wonder why people say such things.

@Figcherry Thank you so much. I have amazing people in my life! I’m very, very grateful!

Christ that's horrific. I hope you don't waste your time on these awful people!

These flapjacks are SHIT

When I was 14 I’d had a school photo taken (so had my brother,2 years younger). I heard my mum saying to my Aunt that mine was awful and “I suppose they all go through a funny looking stage”. She kept my brother’s picture and not mine. Felt mortified

My mother saying that I was after my dad’s money when he died. I was 26 and heartbroken and in no way after his money ❤️‍🩹

My 20 Yr old room mate died in a tragic car accident. I sat on a plane with a total stranger girl months after and she was talking about me and my late friend in the most horrible way. It was a defining moment: I do not and would never care about what anyone thinks or say about me !