AIBU to ask what's the worst thing you've ever overheard someone say about you?

[Buttercup212]

Just that really. Luckily I haven't overheard anything about myself yet, but it occurred to me today that it must happen fairly often and I'm just curious to be honest! Also, if it happened to you, did the relationship survive afterwards or did you fall out?

I overheard some people at a social event call me a nasty little uneducated gold digger. They’d never met me, clearly did not know who I was as they were right next to me. The ‘reason’ was that is met and married dh. Their friend the first wife had been with him for 18 months, they separated on their honeymoon and divorced 2 years before we even met. But because I’m a couple of decades younger apparently that made me the disgusting trophy wife. We have been married 22 years and the ex is on her 5 th husband. DH was her third husband and they never even lived together. I still have people in our village who will but acknowledge me at all. Fucking ridiculous.

Omg

When I was in my early 20s I had quite a high flying job for a huge company. I’d worked really hard, earned a good wage and fancy job title. I also worked a few evenings a week in a gym that my friend owned as I was single, had time and enjoyed it. Over time, you’d get to know the regulars in there.

One day I was cleaning the loos in the changing rooms when 2 members who didn’t know I was there, were talking about their children at uni. One said ‘well I hope she knuckles down and gets her degree else she’ll end up a loser mopping floors like DrJackDaniels’.

I came out of the toilet to see the horror on their faces. She immediately said ‘oh I didn’t mean it that way!’

I said ‘well for your information, I’m not a loser, I’m actually a (job title) for X company and work here for a few hours a week because I enjoy it and my friend is the owner’.

She spluttered some more apologies but I hated the way she looked down on someone she thought was lower than her because I was cleaning toilets and mopping floors.

She did more than that. She said she had only heard nice things about herself. I think THAT was uncalled for, given the other posts on this thread.

Nobody believes that they haven't been bitched about, ever. We all know it happens but are generally lucky to be shielded from the specifics. I think that's what she's saying - she's lucky that she's only stumbled across conversations about herself that were more positive to date. I don't think she's trying to imply that no one has ever said something nasty about her, just that she's been fortunate enough to not overhear it.

I was at an engagement party of my new fiancé's work colleague. We'd got engaged a month or so earlier. I didnt really know anyone but they were all quite friendly and i was having a nice time.
I went to the loo, and I hear these voices talking. One of the ladies was telling the story of her new romance, but that she didnt really like.him that much, he was just a wealthy widower, but don't tell Dave in finance, he's just got engaged to weathly widowers neice. I then sit listening further about how he'd wanted to take her to Austria, but she only agreed to go if they could go to new York. Then she said have you seen the state of Dave from finances girl, she's huge and ugly. At this point I flushed and went out to wash my hands. Her face was hilarious. For reference I was around a size 14, and my mam never spoke to her eventhough she did end up married to my uncle for 12 years before he died!

I’m a teacher and a TA at my school decided to send me a voice note of another TA slagging me off 😵‍💫

I’d recently separated from my husband, have 2 kids with SEN and was getting a few days away (my mum was coming to look after the kids)

TA thought this was dreadful behaviour on my part. I was a shocking mother and I’d already had a holiday (last year).

Irony is, I work with said TA this year and I don’t think she realises I was sent her rant.

Such a fine example of women building each other up!

My parents divorced when I was 5. My dad dropped out of uni in his first year of Law. My mum didn't go to uni until I was 9, owing to having me when she was 19. Both parents were fairly successful in the longrun. (Just for context).

I had 6 offers of uni places. I overheard my dad on the phone to my mum, about 3 months before I was due to finish my A Levels, saying I would end up dropping out and would never make anything of my life. He'd always been a feckless father, but this was the first time I realised that I'd been a threat to his own self-esteem. I'd always been cleverer and more successful at everything I did. It did knock me at the time. It also probably contributed to my addiction to study (although always been studious) as I have 2 degrees, a PGCE, MEd, and a PGDip. I more than passed every single one of those.