AIBU to ask what's the worst thing you've ever overheard someone say about you?

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Just that really. Luckily I haven't overheard anything about myself yet, but it occurred to me today that it must happen fairly often and I'm just curious to be honest! Also, if it happened to you, did the relationship survive afterwards or did you fall out?

I have a nose on the larger side, shall we say….im very aware of it, it’s stuck in the middle of my face for one thing. I was always very conscious of it when younger…..
i remember when out in a pub when I was early 20s there was a mixed group of about 7/8 at a table close to the bar, all approx late 30s/early 40s…obviously all pissed out of their heads. One pillock started talking loudly about the “conk on that one!” Purposely loud enough so we could hear, I was pretty shy then so just made out I couldn’t hear although a few in my group tooled over at me for any response. I just tried to shrug it off, but it really upset me that someone I didn’t even know thought it funny enough to hurt someone they didn’t know, to try and impress their friends. After the night out I balled my eyes out and promised I’d get a nose job if I ever had enough money!
anyways a few decades on I don’t give a monkeys, the conk is still there even though I’ve had enough opportunities to get it fixed. Funnily if that twat tried it now I’d have responded by trying to fake a trip just in front of him and chucking my drink all over him, whilst verbalising my sentiments, if you get my drift…..

A few times but two that stick out…..

Group of male colleagues at work discussing how I was sexy but someone only good for fucking, definitely not for marrying.

Two blokes in a pub talking about me. Nice tits, shame about the face.

These stories are heartbreaking. People really can be so cruel. It has been shocking to see the damage that words can cause. I think it generally says far more about the person who is being malicious than the recipient.

The mother of a boy I went out when I was 19 said, to my face, she thought I looked like an actress (we were both very slim and had the same pixie hair cut) then added ‘but I don’t think she’s good looking!’ I was brought up to never ‘be cheeky’ to my elders, so I sat there in front of the family and friends of hers and said nothing…now, I’d be happy to go 15 rounds with the b*h!

My main manager
I heard her slagging me off (she doesn't realise how fucking loud she is) in the office
Really telling someone how useless I am at my job and pulling me apart as a human being
So I told some of my regular customers-word for word,the ones I go above and beyond for-im damn good at my job,she just doesn't like me
They soon started singing my praises to her-telling her how good I am and what an asset I am to the company-some others joined in
She knew that I knew,but couldn't say anything without admitting to what she'd said
Best laugh is,shes useless at her job-we all know it but shes up the arse of the owner and is very good at pushing the buck onto other people
(No point going to hr as I cant prove she said anything and she'd only twist things)

I'm looking for another job in the new year

Not overheard but three years ago there were some deaths in my family and then my OH took very ill.
During this time my close friend was going through some stuff but I was still trying to support her...and she was still turning up to cry on my shoulder,I never turned her away.

Then something happened to me and I told my friend that the favour I did for her once a week would have to stop for now till I was in a better place.

Never heard from her for weeks ,not even a short text asking how I was.

A mutual friend turned up a couple of months later and showed me the messages she had been sent from my close friend slagging me off for letting her down.

I haven't seen the former friend since but god help her if I ever bump into her,absolute bitch.

@ChippingSoda @Waitfortheguinness sorry to hear you had similar comments about your noses.

I will admit I have since had a nose job but it was, shall we say, conservative and my nose is still on the larger side. I know other people who've had nose jobs and the surgeon can only work with what they've got, so their noses aren't the teeny tiny ski slopes I had pictured in my head for years either. All beautiful women though, even with (and perhaps even because of) their imperfect noses.

I think what I've learnt is that in the same way not every man appeals to me, I won't appeal to every man, and actually, that's fine. And the men who think it's OK to comment on my appearance aren't the ones worth losing any sleep over.

I totally agree, people are disgusting.

I’m so sorry so many of you have awful, abusive parents.

That’s horrendous and no reflection on you. Some of these cunts sound mentally ill or with personality disorders. I never fail to be shocked at the evil abusive stuff I read on here.

And the poster who heard girls slagging her off in the queue for the toilet - they were probably jealous or threatened by you in some way.

What upsets me most is those of you who have let these arseholes affect you for the rest of your lives - that’s a tragedy - they should have absolutely no control over anything you do today bc anyone who says nasty shit like these about someone is a very unhappy, nasty person themselves who deserves pity and revulsion. Don’t turn their issues onto yourselves.

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Mumsnet telling her friend that I was an accident. Stuck with me for so many years.

It was a work 360 review thing and someone I had worked with for years completely laid into me. Said I was arrogant, had an awful personality etc. this was an older man that I had worked closely with and managed. He was always lovely to my face. I then realised that very few work ‘friends’ are real friends and that most people just hate being there and hate their colleagues. Life lesson learned.

My mum telling my nanny (who was crying at the time) that I wasn't abused as much as social services made out and that I was often a brat. The man went to prison ffs and it was reported in the local press

my mother is a horrible woman

An older gentleman in the doctors whispered (loudly) to his wife “look at the size of her, bet she isn’t married”.

I pretended not to hear while fighting back tears ☹️

These days as I'm braver, I'd have pulled over & suggested she make her own way there

I had a really horrible experience with 2 older teachers on placement 2 as well. The rest of the dept rallied round me tho, I still kick myself for putting up with it and not letting uni know.

There’s some dreadful people in the world.

Lighthearted one: On our way to dinner before a school dance, my mother and I were chatting it up about unattractive we both thought Sarah Jessica Parker was, why would she be considered a fashion icon, etc. etc. just really laying into her.

We arrived at dinner, sat down with my friends and their parents, and one girl's dad made a comment to me along the lines of, "Has anyone ever told you that you resemble Sarah Jessica Parker?"

My mother and I just burst into uncontrollable laughter. After we could breath again, we explained ourselves and he was so shocked that his wife tried to interject and tell us, "He really fancies SJP, It's a compliment!" which only made things MORE awkward since I was underage, so ... anyways.

A good lesson to mind what you say in passing, or else it'll come back to nip you in the backside.

I had a manager tell me that she didn't believe in 'reasonable adjustments' and in her opinion if I couldn't do 'all of the job' I should be sacked.

The bit of the job that I couldn't do was to help the team carry the equipment downstairs for the monthly presentation meeting we had to put on. That's all.

maybe, I have no way of knowing, still stings though

It has made me wonder about the people who were bullies at school, I suspect that some have no idea they were bullies, for whatever reason, maybe they think the person they picked om 'deserved' it, or they don't realise what they did was that bad.
The only person I know IRL who I know for a fact was a dreadful bully at work is my ex-SIL, she used to tell tales of her bullying, convinced that she was only giving the recipient 'what they deserved' and finding their distress very amusing.

One 'story' that springs to mind is the woman who started her new job on night shift with a packed 'lunch' to eat in the middle of the night, my SIL was apparently horrified and shouted at her that is was unacceptable to eat a meal in the middle of the night, even if working a night shift. She proudly told me that she 'wouldn't let' the new employee eat her packed lunch, going as far as taking it off her so she couldn't eat it. So she eventually stopped bothering trying to bring food in to eat.

My SIL tells anyone who’ll listen that I’m mentally unstable and whacked up on meds. She’s actually referring to an episode 25 years ago when I was distressed at being tested for MS and the doctor gave me a little something for my anxiety.

Also, I’m not supposed to know that she had to go to A&E after self harming. Perhaps she should keep her gob shut about me or I might just have to bring it up.

not heard but read

i saw a bunch of emails between colleagues taking the piss out of me

it was awful and ended relationships

I got called tacky half way through my A level art exam. It put me off drawing and painting natural subjects for years.

🤣🤣 I had similar to this..

working as a Medical Secretary in a GP surgery.. I called the District Nursing team about why an elderly patient had been discharged. I had tried talking to them by email but was getting nothing that made sense back so decided to call.

I got through to the office and the lady that picked up, called across to the one I’d been emailing and I heard her saying ‘oh godddd it’s not wickerwoman is it’ then some other muttering about me.

when she came through to me I said ‘I just heard all that’ and she stuttered and said ‘oh, that wasn’t about you’ in a panic.. I said ‘yes it was’ then was really laughing because she couldn’t get herself together throughout the entire call while I was overly nice to her, great it was!

I walked into a house party where this woman (i mean woman in the sense that I was an 18 year old girl and she was mid to late 30s) telling my boyfriend he could do way better 🤣. He in fact could not do better, he was a druggie with no job and nowhere to live 🙃 I am 39 now and he has been an ex bf for 20odd years and he has been promoted to full blown junkie 🤢 (hes a year older than me)