AIBU to ask what's the worst thing you've ever overheard someone say about you?

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Just that really. Luckily I haven't overheard anything about myself yet, but it occurred to me today that it must happen fairly often and I'm just curious to be honest! Also, if it happened to you, did the relationship survive afterwards or did you fall out?

Oh, im sorry, I get this too. I am partially sighted. I’ve even had comments on here saying “how are you typing this then?”

My then manager saying I walked like a drunken sailor and having a good old giggle. I have a chronic hip condition and was on crutches at the time.
I confronted her, the nasty witch.

It does stick with you for life doesn't it.
Being called 'up myself' still makes me paranoid others think that and it's on my mind every time I speak to new people. I'm 44 now so it's been with me for 24 years. It changed the way I talk to people forever.

At boarding school one of the boys scratched STELLAMARY IS A SLAG into a door and the school left it up for two years.

When I was at uni I walked through the doors into the lecture theatre and I heard a girl turn to her friend and say “everyone’s so ugly, aren’t they?”.

It amused me because I actually loosely knew her older sister who was absolutely lovely and absolutely gorgeous. But the younger sister had always had hard features and looked like she’d spent her childhood smoking 20 a day whilst working down the mines. Not helped by a hairstyle that aged her by about 25 years. But who am I to judge?

Also, when I was at school I somehow ended up briefly speaking to a girl I hadn’t spoken to before but who I had been to school with for a few years.

She was a bit clingy and I suddenly couldn’t get away from her. It was a bit awkward but she was tolerable. I didn’t understand why she was always attaching herself to me at breaks and lunchtimes.

Anyway after a few weeks of this she said to her friend that I was very annoying and that she was sick of me! I ignored her after that and essentially hid from her. Funnily enough she spent a few breaks and lunchtimes desperately looking for me because she had no one else to talk to.

My DH’s “lovely” step mother - she’s said a selection of things over the years, commented that I was fat, needed my hair trimming and that she doesnt like the Christmas presents I buy (which she’d guessed were down to me, as she’s a stereotyping cow).

More recently I was overheard her say “ooh, does like her biscuits!”. In other words, was bitching over how fat I am.

Thankfully we have little to do with her!

When I was working as a teacher in a local school we had an awful boss. She was leaving and wrote ppl cards. In mine it said....

You'll make a great teacher...one day.

I had been qualified for 5 years and always had excellent results.

My friends mum saying I would be a ‘high class hooker’ when I was 14 because I had danced with a minor celebrity at a party 🤷🏻‍♀️

Being essentially called boring.

I was working at a part time job in retail while at uni, it was mind numbing and I used to turn up, do my job and count down the minutes until my shift was over. I knew I'd only be there for a few months as I was graduating soon so didn't really bother chatting to other colleagues much, just hi bye etc. But I once overheard two colleagues say something along the lines of 'it could be worse, you could be stuck with Thesummer bored shitless all day' and giggle like idiots.

I tried not to let it get to me, these people meant nothing to me, they didn't know me at all, but it's stuck with me ever since and every time I meet new people I'm desperate for them not to think I'm boring. I agree with a pp, there are some comments that just alter your brain chemistry no matter how off the cuff or seemingly innocuous the comment is.

I was in a queue at my local shop, having just registered the death of my son, and overheard the assistant and a customer talking about a murder.

A teenage girl got drunk and murdered her baby in my city, she was blazing drunk and she killed him, and had been charged with murder and assault and battery. I remember thinking in passing how awful it was.

However they carried on and it was the same night as my sons death, and then it was the same street that my soon took ill on.

They were talking about me.

I've never felt rage like it, and two very shamed looking women issued two shameful apologies by the time I had done with them.

And that's the story of how I never listen to gossip anymore.

When I was 14, we had a day at school where we all had to do various sporting activities including a 800m run. I did my run and when I sat back down, I heard a guy behind me saying ‘blankcanvas3 is the fattest person to ever run an 800m’. I was already incredibly self conscious about doing the run in front of everybody and it hurt so much. I developed an eating disorder not long afterwards and ended up being sectioned when I was 19 and got fed through an NG tube.

Whaaat????? 😡😡😡😡😡

This is so sad.

Gosh, so many things from family. They’re not very discreet! Standout ones were about my acne, my eating disorder and my selfishness. Although they said the same things to my face. Unsurprisingly we’re not so close now. 😅

I was in the loo at work (single room with a door onto the entrance hall. Overheard my colleague point out to my boss that “everything I said was negative”. I had been trying so hard to be positive but I was having a desperately difficult time on all directions and all she cared about was throwing me under the bus to further her own end. Lovely.

Overheard a man in a bar say to his friend that I had a huge nose whilst I was waiting for my drink to be served. That was about 15 years ago and I still remember it like it was yesterday.

A couple:

A boy at school ‘fancied’ me and my ‘friend’ said ‘don’t bother with her she’s completely flat chested’. I mean it was obvious to anyone who looked at me but it made me feel like shit to hear someone say it.

At work when I was 18 an older man and woman a few years my senior were sat a few feet away from me, the woman said ‘god if it weren’t for her blue eyes she’d have nothing going for her, so thick!’ The man agreed ‘thick as shit! And plain!’. If it happened now I’d not stay silent!

That I was too intellectual and had no common sense - I was 10/11 FFS and had some anyway
Now I think I have loads

Smirking when I asked a question that had already been asked and answered in a meeting.

I am deaf. Then there was the colleague who made a snide comment about me behind her hand in my presence. I don't know what she said but my manager roared with laughter. They refused to tell me what had been said.

Had moved schools, was quite lonely and finding it hard to fit in. The girls my form tutor had tasked with helping me settle in would run away from me at lunchtime. So I would spend lunchtimes by myself in the toilet. Form teacher was a bit useless, as I remember. I think I spoke to her and she suggested sitting somewhere else, with some other girls, to try and make different friends. So I did. I remember thinking the girl I had sat next to and her friends were nice. I remember feeling proud of myself for being brave and trying it. I look over at point and I see her trying to hide what she’d written, in a note to her friend—that she didn’t know why the new girl had “plonked herself next to me”. I don’t remember the rest of what she’d written but I do remember feeling pretty deflated.

I was a plain teenager. And shy and awkward. My mother had been a beauty and set great store on appearance .

My cousin was getting married and I was very excited to be going and was also asked to sing at the service ( went on to be my career so I was good). Far from being pleased, my mother could only think of the embarassment I was going to be be to be seen with.

Heard mother on phone to her sister ( they used to moan about me in lenthy phone calls) saying about the wedding " I mean how are we even going to make her even look human"

So that was nice.

Some people are quite vile and hurtful about others.

Oh yeah. I remember the first set of girls trying to “set me up” with one of the boys. I don’t know if it was serious or in a teasing way.

the boy said something like “I never said I liked her, I just said she had nice eyelashes and it’s probably just mascara anyway”

🤣 totally random, not really that bad but it just popped into my mind.

This was around 20 years ago but I will never forget. Every morning before high school I used to meet a girl who got off the opposite bus to me and we used to walk to school. I genuinely thought we were really good mates. One day I got off and shouted her name as usual and I caught her doing the ‘🙄’ face at the other girls she was with. Really hurt and I never forgot it.