To not let children have Xmas lunch with grandparents when parents are divorcing

[Iris10000]

Just that really. We are getting divorced, which is DH decision. He needs more time to himself and for his job so in essence is asking to be a Saturday dad with one additional school pick up and drop off. He is very very close to his parents and wants to take kids (10 months and 4 years) to his parents for Xmas lunch for few hours. I will stay at home on my own. My relationship with his parents broken down after they barged into our house and said they always had a problem with me and what a bad person I am. I said he can go there for couple of hours but I would like to have lunch here with them. I am beyond angry and he doesn’t want any to change his plans.

You need to re read the post, I said the children’s needs should be put first, not that they needed to see their grandparents. You missed the word if.

That’s not for me to decide.

Have you read tge thread? Do you have children?

You do need to get a cast iron contact arrangement worked out via the courts with the diary worked out years, if possible, in advance. This is very usual. I'm sorry for how much pain you are going thru I know it is agonising. But it does get better in time as long as you don't have to ping pong about this sort of nonsense. Take care.

Of course and I’m also a grandparent.

So you noticed the age of the children and still think it might be better for them to go to their grandparents house on Christmas day?

What did you do in the end? I hope you got your first Christmas with your baby and 4 yr old x