Feel a bit weird about what my cleaner did.

[DeadlyDead]

My cleaner has been with me for a few years. She’s a very nice woman, but can be a bit sensitive (if I give any feedback/ask for her to change something she does etc. she doesn’t take it well). I trust her- she has her own set of keys for my house, knows the alarm code etc. Good relationship overall- if I’m home when she’s here I’ll make us both coffee and we’ll chat.

She came on Monday for her usual cleaning appointment. I put my Christmas decorations up last weekend and she was very complimentary of them, asking where I got various bits etc. To be fair, I do go a bit OTT and love Christmas and this year’s decorations turned out especially well- I make a lot of stuff myself, and also have been collecting bits for years. We had coffee and then I needed to go out so we said our goodbyes, and I left her to it.

She lives about eight miles away from me, but we’re in the same area.

Today, I went onto Facebook and a post from a local group I’m in came up. It was a photo of someone showing off their Christmas decorations- I had to do a double take because it was my house! Pictures of my living room, hallway, landing, and sitting room, all decked out for Christmas. They were posted by my cleaner (under her own name- we’re not FB friends but both members of this group). The caption is along the lines of “not bad for a tired mum of three” and there are a few thousand likes and a several hundred comments (it’s a very big group). Lots asking where she got various items from and she’s replying, based on her asking me the same thing on Monday! In one comment she didn’t know where something was from and replied “I’ve had that for years, it was originally my Nan’s” 😮 (about a candle holder I got in Next c. 2019!!)

When I first saw it, I was a bit perplexed but didn’t dwell. Now that it’s sunk in, I’m a bit pissed off. My home isn’t instantly recognisable to strangers based on those photos, it does feel like a breach of privacy.

As I said, she can be quite sensitive so even saying this to her gently will likely result in her getting upset, and likely not coming to clean for me again. I can get another cleaner, but I don’t really want things to end this way as I’ve been happy with her until now.

In my shoes, would you be annoyed?

AIBU to be annoyed?

B&M had them when I was in the other day.

Can’t she see that you commented on the candle?
She’s probably cringing!

I once saw the house we were renting out on TV, our tenants had a whole film crew in there. My old neighbour called me and said check out channel x,y,z your house is on there. I was delighted that the tenants thought it was nice enough to show off!

Crazy stalker. Are you trying to take over the OPs identity?

100% what else does she have pictures of? Definitely get admin of the group to delete the photo's. .

This ^ I'm afraid.

Although, I think I would say to her - face to face - when she comes next time, that you saw her Facebook post, and then have your screenshot ready to show her if she tries to deny it. Then depending on what she replies - and she would have to have a very good reason for being so deceitful - I might agree to give her one last chance.

Hpwever, I would have to tell her how disappointed I was in her behaviour. If you usually give her a Christmas bonus, you would need to think very hard about whether you felt she still deserved it, or really needs it, if for example she has young children, and they would suffer if she didn't get the bonus.

I wonder if she’s running her Only Fans from your bedroom (in your underwear)….

Sorry, not very helpful. This is beyond weird and I wouldn’t be happy about it.

Surely you mean Liberty, OP wouldn’t put tat in her gorgeous mansion

She’s a single mum with three kids and has already been given her Xmas gifts by the OP

They’re the Oko baubles from Nkuku in the large size. I ordered straight from the Nkuku website.

They seem to have a few colours discounted currently.

https://www.nkuku.com/products/oko-giant-bauble-matt-bordeaux

Jesus Christ where’s the compassion?? The woman is clearly living out a little fantasy of living in a situation she could only dream of and you all want to add to that inequality by firing her at Xmas without as much as a conversation. Doesn’t mean she is wearing your bloody clothes or pawning your jewellery. Only people that already know you will be any the wiser and they aren’t casing your gaff. It means she envies your life. Compassion is dead in this country, it’s really sad.

😂😂

Won't work. OP hasn't said which country she lives in, so the PP can't complete the switch 😂

In what country?

I won’t use foul language like that but back at you. It was a joke and I’ve actually been supporting you if you read my posts instead of lashing out at me like a thug

Thank god for some compassion on here.

No, twice now you’ve made horrible comments towards me. You’re rude and your “jokes” are not funny.

Where's your compassion for the OP? The cleaner deserves sacking, not publicly shaming, but yes, sacking. Or do you do this sort of thing in other people's houses?

I’ve apparently hit a nerve with my jokes. I’ll leave you to it.

I would be fucking furious!!!!! Honestly that’s horrific!!!!

there is no way I would ever have her in my house again and I’d be making sure I posted saying it wasn’t her tree!!!! That it was yours and she stole photos!!!

Your cleaner is in awe of your decorations, and I’m not surprised, £35 for a bauble!

Maybe you could find it in your heart to buy her some for Christmas 2026.

@DeadlyDead they're gorgeous! Thank you so much!

Regarding your cleaner, I'd sack her. The breach of privacy would really infuriate me, and I wouldn't trust her again. That along with her attitude anytime you've asked her to do something completely reasonable, raises red flags too. She probably has jealously/envy issues.

I do think you did make one very funny joke that made me chuckle, calling me fair and compassionate. So it wasn't a total joke fail.

I’d approach it with an understanding/empathetic manner.

What'll she do next? Give out your address and share photos of your valuables?

Sack her. No second chances after behaving like this.

@Christmaseree last I knew it was Mumsnet UK. Which I’d therefore presume are where the most of the posters are from. Any other questions?