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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

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MatriarchCaz · 19/12/2025 19:37

Bushmillsbabe · 19/12/2025 17:13

Yep, he would be gone. You asked him not to do a disrespectful thing, and he still did it, so double disrespectful.

This - get rid.

Picklelily99 · 19/12/2025 19:38

Litter louts are the scum of the earth!!! Did he think he was being big and clever? He wasn't!

deeahgwitch · 19/12/2025 19:39

CasperGutman · 19/12/2025 17:11

I'd end it over that, no question. Someone who would do this just doesn't have the level of consideration for others and for society that I'd be looking for in a partner.

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MrsVBS · 19/12/2025 19:40

Would be a deal breaker for me, absolutely no excuse.

Elsvieta · 19/12/2025 19:41

Bloody hell, he'd have been out of my car ten seconds after the can. Let him walk home. (He certainly wouldn't be setting foot in my home ever again). Filthy yob.

Zanatdy · 19/12/2025 19:42

You’re not being unreasonable and i’d also get the ick and would be dumping him.

Whatsthatsheila · 19/12/2025 19:43

🚮

honestly these threads would be much more compact if there was just a bin react emoji.

NotMyKidsThough · 19/12/2025 19:43

Where to even start..... you wnet out for dinner and like a sugared-up ten year old he 'needed' a can of drink on the way home. You knew he was going to act like a spoiled attention-seeking yob. You asked him not to and he did it anyway.

This is a test. It's "How Far Can I Go"? If I were you, I'd tell him "Go a long way away, starting now." This is about him ignoring your boundaries. The test will be tougher next time. And there will be a next time.

justpassmethemouse · 19/12/2025 19:43

Zebedee999 · 19/12/2025 19:34

Some of us don't want to live in a sh1thole. Raise your standards.

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1 can does not a shithole make. Seems incredibly minor to end a decent relationship over in this dating climate.

UncannyFanny · 19/12/2025 19:44

I guess it’s not so much the actual act itself, but what it says about him as a person that he’d behave that way. Not entirely sure I’d end a relationship over this as a single incident but I’d certainly be having serious thoughts about what it says about who he is and letting him know that I found it off putting.

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 19/12/2025 19:45

It’s up at the top of my top ten most disgusting things to do. Littering 😡. It makes me shudder. I’d have pulled the car to a breaking stop and kicked his arse out. Ta ra to him.

Funnywonder · 19/12/2025 19:49

Okey doke. Try harder.

(Thread number 3,697 designed to trigger peak outrage.)

Cherrysoup · 19/12/2025 19:49

Nearly50omg · 19/12/2025 17:11

I’d have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick that can up and then driven off when he got out and left him 🤬

Same. I’m appalled that a) he littered does he know how long it takes to break down an aluminium tin?!) and b) he disregarded your request not to throw his rubbish out of the car. I don’t understand why people can’t wait til they get home to put something in the bin/recycling. I’m a fiend for ensuring the kids at school put items in the right bin.

MySilentLions · 19/12/2025 19:51

Nearly50omg · 19/12/2025 17:11

I’d have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick that can up and then driven off when he got out and left him 🤬

Love this!

MissFancyDay · 19/12/2025 19:54

I would have instantly gone off him.

Happyjoe · 19/12/2025 19:55

Another no from me. That's horrible, esp as you asked him not to. No respect for you, or the planet.

MagpieCastle · 19/12/2025 19:55

Yep, in a single action he's managed to show you exactly who he is. Someone who has no regard for the environment, community responsibility or for listening to your opinion.
It's a pain and he's a knob but at least you don't have to waste any more time on this person. The ick will only get ickier.

HisNotHes · 19/12/2025 19:58
  1. Littering (and even worse out of a car window)
  2. ignoring your request not to do that

Both a massive ick and a complete dealbreaker. I would not be seeing him again.

ImALargeAbsentMindedSpirit · 19/12/2025 20:01

I would have pulled over for him to get out and get the can (as long as it wasn’t dual carriageway/motorway. I hate people that drop litter.

RoamingToaster · 19/12/2025 20:01

I find quite often people on MN are bothered by things that I don’t care about but this would bother me. I think it says a lot about a person. They don’t care about the environment and others.

Delphiniumandlupins · 19/12/2025 20:02

It does sound OTT but I feel not littering is a very basic standard. You can have different religious or political viewpoints on some things and still maintain a friendship or relationship but this is too far.

Imdunfer · 19/12/2025 20:03

I would have stopped the car, got out and picked up the can, asked him to get out of the car and driven home alone.

Isometimeswonder · 19/12/2025 20:05

Nearly50omg · 19/12/2025 17:11

I’d have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick that can up and then driven off when he got out and left him 🤬

Me too

figud · 19/12/2025 20:06

I’d typically lean to maybe forgiving one mistake BUT I dated a guy who left the fast food wrappers on the table when the etiquette is always to take tray to the bin and dispose - even after my objections he wouldn’t. Overlooked it, and he turned out to be a controlling dickhead. Run.

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 19/12/2025 20:09

You asked him not to do it, but he ignored you and carried on.

Biggest red flag ever.