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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

OP posts:
MoonChild111 · 22/12/2025 02:14

Nearly50omg · 19/12/2025 17:11

I’d have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick that can up and then driven off when he got out and left him 🤬

This!!!!!

LemograssLollipop · 22/12/2025 02:38

I can understand why you are wondering whether to get rid for this one thing especially if you think things are going great otherwise. It's a red flag certainly. Is there anything else he does that makes you uncomfortable? If you consider all together do you still want to continue the relationship?

You've started a thread about it so if it's validation for your decision to end it, you have that in spades.

Don't put up with it, you are worth more.

MungoforPresident · 22/12/2025 02:42

I would end it as well. He's a total moron to do that. Then there's the big issue of his disrespect for what you asked him to do. I would ditch this idiot asap.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 22/12/2025 07:34

Men like this are misogynists, that’s a sign he won’t listen to you and will find your requests amusing and he’ll know best. I’d end that too. It’s the tip of the iceberg. Checkout the burned haystack method, helps with these kind of signs.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 22/12/2025 07:36

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:14

What gets me is that he didn't even need to throw the rubbish immediately. It seemed like he just done it for the thrill of it. No morals

no one needs to do this ever, and he clearly doesn’t care about the environment. Real ick!

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 22/12/2025 07:38

I just had a thought, when ‘men’ do these things, they’re literally doing you a favour as showing you who they are early on. Don’t doubt yourself for a second.

JG24 · 22/12/2025 07:40

Yep I started dating someone who did this with a mars bar wrapper and that was the end for me
It's awful

Ooodelally · 22/12/2025 07:45

What a tramp. Absolutely bin him off immediately (pun intended)

SoulSearchBeHonest · 22/12/2025 08:23

MissMay95 · 19/12/2025 17:08

Massive red flag IMO

I would end the relationship over this personally!

Me too.

What a that. The countryside is beautiful and twats like this spoil it. 💯 dump.

pineapplesundae · 24/12/2025 00:02

He’s probably got some other bad habits you don’t know about yet. Dump him!

4forksache · 24/12/2025 00:06

That’s not a tiny thing. Instant finish territory.

Radiosn · 24/12/2025 00:38

MostlyHappyMummy · 19/12/2025 17:17

You call it a tiny thing - is that what you think too? That throwing rubbish out of car windows is no big deal?

This.
Thats a really huge thing.
He's scum.

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