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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

OP posts:
katseyes7 · 19/12/2025 18:55

This will be the tip of an iceberg. Trust me.

Busybeemumm · 19/12/2025 18:55

You both have wildly different values. Save yourself time and future heart ache and end it now.

Clychaugog · 19/12/2025 18:56

Get rid!

Busybeemumm · 19/12/2025 18:56

He is telling you exactly who he is. Trust your instincts here. He isn't your person.

Newsenmum · 19/12/2025 18:57
  1. thought about littering
  2. you asked him not to and he still did it

ICK

BogRollBOGOF · 19/12/2025 18:57

He doesn't respect the environment.
He doesn't respect you having very basic expectations of civilised behaviour.

Dump him like a used drinks can.

EasternStandard · 19/12/2025 18:57

Not a small thing. Get rid and move on.

EarthAndInstinct · 19/12/2025 18:59

That’s not a ‘tiny thing’, it would be over immediately for me. He’s shown you he’s a complete moron, so he’s done you a favour at this early stage.

AngelicKaty · 19/12/2025 19:00

@bicyclecrash Yup, I'd show him how things should be binned by starting with him. It's bad enough that he would do this at all, let alone after you'd explicitly asked him not to.
Sorry OP, but I'm old and remember the "Keep Britain Tidy" campaign on black and white telly back in the day, so I'm pathologically incapable of throwing even a receipt on the ground. It's literally no hardship to either look for a bin or take your rubbish home with you. I just don't get it when people are this careless. Imagine if we all just threw our rubbish out the window or dropped it on the ground?! Nope, just nope. YANBU and he's got to go.

Icecreamisthebest · 19/12/2025 19:02

Yes I’d end it.

How disrespectful both to you and the community. Agree with those saying this is just the tip of the iceberg.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/12/2025 19:03

I’d dump him. I used to hike a lot in the London area and all the main roads were littered with stuff from cars, particularly near Heathrow. Nobody ever picks bit up. It stays forever, and accumulates.

u3ername · 19/12/2025 19:03

It’s not a tiny thing.
You're not overreacting.
You’re not being dramatic.

Throwing it out sneakily, hoping you won’t see, would be bad enough but you actually asking him not to, and him going ahead, is an absolute red flag.

Pricelessadvice · 19/12/2025 19:04

Yuk. Littering is abhorrent.
I’d have dumped him on the spot.

sidebirds · 19/12/2025 19:04

Nearly50omg · 19/12/2025 17:11

I’d have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick that can up and then driven off when he got out and left him 🤬

⬆️ Correct response. Bin this revolting low-toner 🤢

notacooldad · 19/12/2025 19:06

Thats not a small thi g yo be upset about though.
I'd let him go. Even little kids know not to do that.

Unforgettablefire · 19/12/2025 19:08

Get rid. He’s a selfish slob and now you’ve seen the first of shitty behaviour. I’d have drop kicked him out the car what an arsehole.

SqB · 19/12/2025 19:09

Definitely easier to end after 6 weeks than 6 years! I wouldn’t let this drag on… he’s meant to be on his very best behaviour still. Really grim and childish.

Beeloux · 19/12/2025 19:13

Chuck the skip rat straight in the bin where the can should be.

Imagine years to come being stuck with this slob. He’d make your home a pigsty.

JoyeuxNarwhal · 19/12/2025 19:15

I'd have stopped the car and told him to get out to pick it up. Then driven off.

Mind you, you shouldn't dump trash at the side of the road Wink

Charlize43 · 19/12/2025 19:20

Get rid. There's no future in fly tipping fines.

justpassmethemouse · 19/12/2025 19:21

Wow these responses are so dramatic 🤣

How did you beg him during an incident that must have only taken a few seconds?

You’re not obligated to stay in a relationship for any reason, but I’d think twice about the “massive red flag” that other posters are describing. It’s an amber flag at best.

Iamnotalemming · 19/12/2025 19:24

Into the bin he goes! Because you know how to dispose of things you dont need or want anymore.

PInkyStarfish · 19/12/2025 19:27

I would have pulled over and asked him to get out.

Don’t waste your time on this absolute cretin.

Zebedee999 · 19/12/2025 19:32

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

He's an utter scumbag. The verges are full of rubbish due to twats like him. Bin him and tell him why.

Zebedee999 · 19/12/2025 19:34

justpassmethemouse · 19/12/2025 19:21

Wow these responses are so dramatic 🤣

How did you beg him during an incident that must have only taken a few seconds?

You’re not obligated to stay in a relationship for any reason, but I’d think twice about the “massive red flag” that other posters are describing. It’s an amber flag at best.

Some of us don't want to live in a sh1thole. Raise your standards.