To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

[bicyclecrash]

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

Lazy selfish git, isn’t he! YANBU.

I once went on a date with someone that seemed great. They described my jumper as "N-word brown". I just got up and walked out. Sometimes a small thing, is a huge thing. This is definitely one of those times. Scummy as it gets.

I’d have slammed the breaks on and told him to go and pick it up. If he refused I’d have dropped him at the nearest bus stop!!

As it’s early days for the relationship I think you need to explain that what he did really shocked you and gave you the ick. It was not just the littering, but the ignoring you. Just say if he does anything like that ever again you won’t be able to see him anymore. Being really calm and matter of fact about it should make him realise that you’re totally serious.

6 weeks is not a relationship and this is not a ‘small thing’ it’s fully representative of what he’s actually like, and it’s gross. Bin him off (or chuck him out a car window…)

I think others have said it all but six weeks in. This is a major red flag and something the relationship wouldn't survive if I were in your shoes. Onto better things.

Oh god dump him, honestly what is going on with some men?!!

It's not a small thing. That's awful - shows he's selfish and disgusting, plus he didn't listen to you when you asked him not to. Hopefully he might learn his lesson, but perhaps not.

I wouldn’t be compatible with this person. It speaks volumes about how he treats the world around him. I’d get rid.

Sounds like a disrespectful twat.

Total scum, you are so much better off without that manky piece of shit.

Life is roo short for this explaining nonsense with scroats like that.

I had a date like this once where he threw his can out the car window in a Tesco car park. I was so shocked and then massively shamed him for it! Think that was the last time he ever did! Now 11 years and 2 kids later he tuts at the rubbish on the streets and tells people off if they do it 😊 it did give me the ick at the time and it would have been a dealbreaker…same as spitting on the floor. Yuk!

What does he do for work, fly tipping? I would dump 100% so disrespectful and minging

If a guy behaves like this in the early stage of the relationship when he is supposed to be making an effort to impress you how will it be later on? Imagine setting up home with a lazy thoughtless man child who leaves everything at his finger ends and drops his stuff on the floor - assuming that you are there to pick up after him! Massive red flag and opportunty to dodge a bullet.

I remember a man being aggressive to me in a book shop because I didnt move out of the way quickly enough. His female companion said he was being rude. I remarked to her that if he thought is acceptable to speak so disrespectfully to a stranger how was he going to treat her if she studk with him!

Your core values don't align..and he sounds a dick so move on

You deserve better. The world deserves better. He could do better, but chose not to.
#getthatboyinthebin

What an arse hole!!!!! No respect!

GET RID he sounds a right chav.

He’ll be fly tipping next!

This has shown you who he is. Dump move on. Don’t be persuaded by him, if his standards are this low you’ll have worse to come.

Some may call me dramatic but from experience, regardless of what it was, you begged him not to do something that may cause harm to you, and to others, and he ignored it. Down the line, it won’t be throwing litter it will be something else, something directly harmful to your person, and he will ignore your pleas to stop what he is doing or about to do. Run.

It’s not tiny it indicates selfishness, a lack of respect, no regard for others. FWIW I avoided a 2nd date with someone for throwing a half finished drink onto the railway tracks. I couldn’t say why at the time. Just that lack of care for others really bothered me.

What’s the point of this? He has shown her who he is.

I think it's a good indication that you will have more major values conflicts down the road. Another vote for get rid.

I'm in a minority but I wouldn't dump him for littering. I would dump him for having no regard for my feelings and just doing something stupid anyway..

I couldn’t be with someone that did that. Even if my (adult) kids did it, I’d stop the car and make them go pick it up.