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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

OP posts:
SixSevenX · 19/12/2025 20:10

It’s a sign of what’s to come!!
(if you stay together)

JJWT · 19/12/2025 20:16

I'm so annoyed by this behaviour. The number of times we've had to wrestle discarded bottles, cans etc from our dog's mouth!! Cans can cut them. Wild animals are attracted by the smell/sugar. What a tramp. Doesn't seem to have any awareness of how he comes across to you or does but isn't bothered. Throw this one back.

VaderX · 19/12/2025 20:19

I would have stopped the car; told him to get out there and then; and driven off.

At least he would have learned a lesson!

No morals whatsoever!

otherlineeyes · 19/12/2025 20:21

It’s not tiny

EstoyRobandoSuCasa · 19/12/2025 20:21

Sadly, it isn't uncommon for small creatures to get trapped in discarded cans, bottles etc and die because they are unable to get out again. They are attracted by the smell or food or drink and slide in, only to find the surface is too slippery to climb back out. It must be terrifying for them.

I would dump this moron without a second thought.

Strawberry53 · 19/12/2025 20:22

Absolutely not cool and would massively give me the ick. Who does he think he is?! And who does he think is gonna pick that up?! I can’t stand when people just drop rubbish like that. Would be a dealbreaker for me honestly.

Mama2many73 · 19/12/2025 20:22

I reported a royal mail driver for doing the same in our street. Threw a can into a horses field as he drove past.
Told his bosses the van reg, a detailed description of the driver and the exact time. He was given a warning of unacceptable behaviour.
There's NO way I'd accept it from my car, and as a pp said id have stopped the car if it was safe to do so!

ForeverHopeful3 · 19/12/2025 20:24

Yeah I would be done with him. 6 weeks is nothing and he's shown you he is an imbecile. I am so over men though so take this with a grain of salt lol

Lunchtimehelp · 19/12/2025 20:25

I couldn't be with someone with no respect to the planet.

Dita73 · 19/12/2025 20:27

He’s a disrespectful wanker

Apparentlyitschristmas · 19/12/2025 20:30

He’s shown you who he is - I’m sorry OP but this is not a tiny thing - get rid

ChristieMcVie · 19/12/2025 20:32

Trust your gut. Men who do these casual, shitty acts are rarely good ones.

Newyearawaits · 19/12/2025 20:40

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:14

What gets me is that he didn't even need to throw the rubbish immediately. It seemed like he just done it for the thrill of it. No morals

Have you spoken to him about how you feel?

shuggles · 19/12/2025 20:48

@bicyclecrash When I clicked the thread, I was ready to roll my eyes at something silly and trivial, and was surprised to find a completely legitimate reason for ending a relationship.

The best judgement of a man's character is how he treats those who can do nothing for him (in this case, the environment). He disregards the environment, so he likely also disregards wildlife, and he probably disregards you as well.

Please note also that you explcitly asked him not to do it, and he did it anyway. This is not reasonable behaviour and it is cause for concern.

Why did you select this person to begin with?

MyChristmasCheerHasBuggeredOff · 19/12/2025 20:49

Oh no. Thats a big no no...

What did he actually say when you asked him not to? He just did it anyway?

ThatBlackCat · 19/12/2025 21:02

You're not overreacting. Ignored what you said and littered. That is a major turnoff and I'd let him know. Only 6 weeks? The universe is giving you a message, and really early. Get rid. Because he won't stop, and there will be more things if he is so lazy and careless and doesn't respect the environment.

Clangershome · 19/12/2025 21:05

Awful. Shop him in for a littering fine.

Wowwhataworld · 19/12/2025 21:16

Nah I’d have pulled over and made him get it and if he didn’t told hit to get to. Still probably would have broke up with him it’s just really off putting behaviour.

Terrytheweasel · 19/12/2025 21:20

in the bin with his coffee cup

Winter2020 · 19/12/2025 21:22

Get rid. Sometimes actions speak louder than words and you will never be on the same page as someone that chooses to behave this way.

Snugglemonkey · 19/12/2025 21:22

This is not tiny. Run!!!!!!

Mumofmarauders · 19/12/2025 21:23

That’s a huge thing! He's an inconsiderate selfish child or he’d never dream of doing this. Come on OP, surely you couldn’t live with this long term?

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 19/12/2025 21:23

What did he say when you begged him not to throw the can?

Fiftyandme · 19/12/2025 21:28

Not unreasonable at all

Thepossibility · 19/12/2025 21:33

That's not a tiny thing, he's showing you who he is. Once while out driving, my DH and I saw someone who lived not too far from us dump a bunch of take away rubbish out of their car window. DH stopped the car and I collected it, we followed to gross idiot home and I deposited the rubbish back into his open car window. That's compatibility as a couple IMO.