To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

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or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

Yanbu. That would show me that we have concretely different values. I just can't imagine doing that, ever, even if no one was watching etc

30 years ago, I was in the same position as you. One evening, he picked me up in his car & once I was in, he leaned across me to dump the contents of his ashtray into the gutter outside my house. I should have got out of the car & told him & his disgusting behaviour to fuck off but, shamefully, I didn't.
Trust me, a man who does this sort of thing will be an arse through & through. Dump him.

Never give a wanker a chance.

This is a great opportunity to get rid. It’s not about littering, it’s so much more. Even reading this iv thought no mortals (not aligning with yours), no respect (when asked not to he still did it), no thought process. His actions speak a thousand words. Nah in the time it’s taken you to write this post I’d of given him a call or text already just explaining “somethings just not right” thank you but I don’t see this fulfilling my relationship needs. Throwing litter makes me think he is socially uneducated so dumb it down for him but you don’t need to explain the littering I’m sure the more time you waste on him you’d see more red flags. Don’t waste your precious time.

I have a family member who throws rubbish out of their car as they're driving. Though not formally diagnosed as they are elderly, I would describe them as having learning disabilities, and also having an anti social personal disorder.

Get rid, life's too short, he'll end up making you miserable.

No, absolute shit behaviour, I’d be so embarrassed

He is a shameful piece of shit.

Get rid.

Huge red flags.

it isn’t a tiny thing at all

This would completely put me off somebody I just started dating.

Yep, he's gotta go. How uncouth and a show of behaviours to come, especially as you had 'begged' him not to. Lose the net and throw this litter bug back. My daughter spat her chewing gum out of my window, so when it was safe, I stopped and told her to get out of my car for being disrespectful, to me, the person it may have landed on or the person getting up at 3am to clean our already filthy streets, not only that I'm sure a car owner can be fined for littering, no matter if it was a passenger. Littering is the same as spitting to me, totally vile, unnecessary and disrespectful 😒

He’s a rule breaker. Doesn’t accept boundaries.
Red flag.

My mum had Alzheimer’s - one of the earliest signs was her throwing a crisp packet out of the car window. It was so unlike her, and she looked blankly at me when I reprimanded her.

I abhor litter louts and would flog them all publicly.
I would end it with him 100%, as our values just don’t match.

Its grim and he was disrespectful to your wishes. Thin end of wedge. You'll probably end up splitting over something even more grim or disrespectful further down the line

Pushing a "small' boundary would be a red flag for me. It was your car, you asked him not to.

If he can’t see what’s wrong with that I’d end the relationship. Disgusting behaviour and shows complete lack of respect! I’d be certain things will only get worse!

Get rid of him.

This is shocking to me.

If you keep him he will do this behaviour in your home.

I absolutely would dump him, nor for throwing the can in and of itself ( though that does show something about him) but for not listening to my request that he not do this.

Doing what you asked in that instance would have cost him absolutely nothing and wpuld cause him practically no inconvenience yet he openly ignored your request.

What dies that say about how much he respects and values your opinion and about how much he wants to.please you or make you happy?

This is not a nice man and he is clearly showing you that .

Icks are there for good reason, run for the hills before you're in too deep!

He’s a dick

Unless you are really keen, and he is perfect in every other way I'd kick him to the kerb. It's not so much the litter lout thing (although, ugh) but you specifically asked him not to do it and he did it anyway- couple of years down the line you could be begging him not to hit you again, rather than not to litter.

That’s such a weird thing for an adult to do. Was he drunk?

Have you confronted him? What did he say?
Awful behaviour, not cool.
It would definitely give me the ick too...

You said it yourself: no morals. Throw him out OP!

Oh my god even kids don’t behave like this. Why should he expect other people to pick his rubbish up? Why does he want to live in an area which is a dump?

Speaks volumes to how he will treat his home honestly tbh. Gross.

Ew. I would absolutely end it over that! Huge red flags being flown in terms of his lack of respect for you, your property and the environment.

absolute gutter behaviour.

Huge red flag. What a git. Thank goodness you found out early. Easy enough to move on at this stage. Get rid.