Would you help adult DC to go on holiday for friend's 30th?

[needtowashthefloor]

My DD is 26, works full time and bought her first house earlier this year. I know money is tight for her but she is fully financially independent from me. I actually think it's good for her to not have much (and have told her as much) at least once in her life so I don't bail her out, although I do occasionally take her out for lunch etc.
One of her friends from uni turns 30 next year and the friend has invited their uni friend group (about six girls) to go on a holiday abroad to celebrate. DD wants to go but is worried about how she is going to afford it. If you had the means, would you help to allow her to go? She has never been on holiday with the whole group, only a couple of holidays with one or two of her friends at a time.

Bought my first home at 20, no regrets about lost time living carefree.. I'd do it all again.

I'm not sure what harm doing this for her can possibly do? She's not going to suddenly become terrible with money and reliant on handouts because you've done a nice thing as a one off.

I imagine you were keen for your daughter to be a hard worker, financially responsible and able to provide for herself. So I would say congratulations...you/she has achieved that. There's no reason to hold back on treating her now if you can afford to. To be honest I'd probably say you could do it a bit more!

If i could afford to, I would. Sounds like shes sensible with money. Managed to buy her own place which is no mean feat these days and must have taken a lot of saving a sacrifice.

If I had the money to allow her to let her hair down and have some fun with her mates amongst all the bills and daily grind, I absolutely would.

Yes, Christmas, birthday or pay back over time if not able to give entirely.

Yes

Yes I would.

Good friends are worth their weight in gold !

Ensure that she buys travel insurance

I would give her some money towards the holiday for her birthday / Christmas

She has time to save up too

Yes. I have.

Yes for sure

If I had the means, YES! Happily.

Generosity is as an important example to set as thrift. She has done very well to be able to buy a house at 26 so is obviously hard working and conscientious.

No. I wouldn't.

She made her choice.

Sorry you are going through this OP.