Would you help adult DC to go on holiday for friend's 30th?

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My DD is 26, works full time and bought her first house earlier this year. I know money is tight for her but she is fully financially independent from me. I actually think it's good for her to not have much (and have told her as much) at least once in her life so I don't bail her out, although I do occasionally take her out for lunch etc.
One of her friends from uni turns 30 next year and the friend has invited their uni friend group (about six girls) to go on a holiday abroad to celebrate. DD wants to go but is worried about how she is going to afford it. If you had the means, would you help to allow her to go? She has never been on holiday with the whole group, only a couple of holidays with one or two of her friends at a time.

I would 😁

Yes!

I would, yes.

In a heartbeat.

Yes, if I could afford it and they were genuinely a lovely person who worked hard etc.

Yes I would. She has done well to buy her own property at 26. I think it's good for young people to have a good group of friends around them.

How long until the holiday? I would help, but I would encourage her to also save some money towards it, if there is time.

Yes I would. She can either pay you back over time or just give it as a nice gift. Could say its christmas and bday present too. But you say shes sensible so a treat may be nice. Whether she'll accept is a different matter. But yes If i had the means I may well contribute.

without a moments hesitation

Absolutely.

yes if I could afford it , I help my kids as much as possible while I can. I won’t always be here to do it .

Another vote for yes. She’s prioritised the right things in life and owning her own home at her young age is admirable.

Definitely!

As a gift yes

you could give money towards it for Christmas and birthdays. My dm does this sometimes for us which is really lovely.

Probably not.

She's an adult who has been able to buy a house.

She can save up. Or take out a loan. Or not go.

Yeah of course

Absolutely

Yes

I would. She’s saved up for a house so evidently isn’t frivolous with cash. I certainly wouldn’t want her to take out a loan for it and I would make it clear it’s a one off. Also ask if she wants to go enough - she may be somewhat keen but it’s not hugely high on her priorities. Also how much are we talking??

If I could afford it, absolutely. I’d love to be able to do things like this for my adult DC.

Absolutely. You don't give her handouts and she sounds like she is doing well. She is very sensibly wondering if she can afford to go rather than just putting it on her credit card. I think it would be a lovely thing to do.

Definitely. Wouldn’t need to think twice

As a christmas and birthday gifts i would! I'd make it clear this is a one off and she can choose that. If they're the sort of group who once they've been away for ones birthday they'll all follow with trips of their own, you aren't going to bankroll anymore.

Depends, is she used to being helped out? Did she have to save and work hard for the house she has bought? I would not want to hand everything to my DC but if she was a genuine hard worker, not spoilt and I had the money then yes without hesitation.