Brother saying he would never date a British girl

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My brother is 27, we met up tonight for some drinks as we won’t see each other over Christmas, we aren’t especially close as there is a large age gap.
We got onto chatting about his dating life and he said “yeah I don’t know I’d just never date a British girl”, I was confused by this so pressed a bit and he expanded saying he wouldn’t date a girl who was raised in the UK or had spent most of her life in the UK. He also said he wouldn’t date Americans, Australians or Canadians. His reasoning was “accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.
This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian.

AIBU to think this is a very strange preference? Part of me can’t help but feel like there is something off about it.

Ironically he studied French and German at uni but as far as I know has never dated a native French or German speaker?

Not being funny but I have known many people of other nationalities who speak English as a second language who are a heck of a lot more proficient than some native speakers

No you havent. Native English speakers are always perfectly proficient in their particular variety of English.

These are specific facts. A short person can never be a tall person. A low earner will not be able to travel the world with me in 5* luxury (unless I pay for him).

But British men are not all bullying, misogynistic binge drinkers. I’m my experience they are a minority thankfully, but I appreciate the specific area you live in or industry you work in may skew your perspective.

But I get it, it’s a gut reaction. I don’t think all men from Liverpool are abusive pricks, of course not, but as soon as I hear that accent it takes me straight back… shudder.

@T1Dmama I hate that Asian fetish stuff, I am half Chinese and have had an extra layer of weird crap from men because of it sometimes, Submissive, well he needs to date a Hong Kong woman as they would tear him a new one as submissive they are not.

My DH has a Norwegian branch in his family, opposite of submissive.

The amount of average looking Irish Blokes who get laid just because of their accent shows this isnt something that's just limited to you men.

Income is not a specific fact at all. Someone in a high paying job could lose it all if they had an accident or became ill or were made redundant. What then?- they get dumped?

You’ve always been attracted to boys than men? I’m guessing it’s just badly written?

YABU that’s his personal preference I know a girl who will only date black men.

Haha, boys then men as I got older. To say that even when I was a young girl this was true.

If such a thing happened within weeks of meeting then yes probably. Years down the line and in a committed relationship / marriage then no of course not. I would be willing to support them. But there’s no way I’m bank-rolling a guy from the outset.

Phew 😁

We all have our preferences but I’ve never been rigid in my preferences other than when it comes to character. I’d rather date a green flag British man than a red flag Argentinian (or whatever other country) and vice versa.

British girls are a wide range of looks and personalities, values and ambitions so he's ruling out a huge amount of potential partners. That's his loss. But having cuture and different country of origin marriages in our family it is very obvious that not having a shared native language and cultural reference points generally adds to the challenges in relationships. Obviously plenty make them work but there is no doubt it brings a different layer of compromise and adaption if children and extended family are involved.

Is "foreign" a proxy for "thin" here? It is true that there is far less obesity in Asia, South America and Eastern Europe than there is here.

Totally get that. Everyone has a metric for what attracts them. For me, British male culture just isn’t it, for you, shorter, non rich guys aren’t. Same principle, different metric.

I’d also point out that I personally have insurance that would protect my income in the event of serious illness. Sudden loss of fortune can often be mitigated against, although I appreciate not in all cases.

I highly recommend everyone has critical illness insurance.

I have a brother I no longer speak to - who said he would not date a British woman. Especially with non natural hair colours, and tattoos. But in his case, its because he is a total cunt, and I told him he was. Some people are just destined to be bitter and alone. We no longer talk.

He told me, "Men with any sense avoid women with tats and weird looks, they are generally damaged people."

and when I called him out on his behaviour to his own children (he was ranting about our mother)

You have no idea about my behaviour with my children, I treated them well, I kept any promises made, their mother is the one to blame, there is a lot you do not know about her, and even if you did, due to your brain washed, feminists beliefs you would still be supporting her, there are a lot of women like you about, but fortunately a lot more who will put the blame where it belongs.

and

Most men are misogynists these days, it is a natural reaction to feminists behaviour.
I see by your foul language you are not as smart as you think you are, just a mouthy little key board warrior, say that shit to my face and you would not do it again Karen.
Andrew Tate has points, some good, some bad, he is not the problem, just a by product, if he was wrong, then why do so many agree with him?????
Men are no longer taking crap from women, we are discussing the current societal miscreants and understanding where the problem is, there are some major changes on the way, Men (I don't mean simps) have had enough.

is it expensive?

Yes I have. I’m not talking about accents, regional dialects and variations nor colloquial speech here; I’m talking about people who unfortunately have not been able to access the education system for one reason or another (specifically those with NO learning difficulties or disabilities) and cannot read and write and also cannot articulate themselves fully nor can they fully comprehend others either; I know because I used to advocate on their behalf. If it was solely about their own particular variety of English then they wouldn’t need help within their own local communities but yet they do.

I know 2 men who will 'only date asians'. It's definitely a sexual fetish thing with them and also, in one case, he's arrogant and full of himself and would never date an English woman with similar earning power as he likes to boss people around and play the big hero, rescuing the girl from poverty with his vast (not true but that's how he spins it) wealth

He's a passport bro.

It's all about rejecting Western women and dating for women with more traditional values, who are seen to also be more attractive/desirable and feminine.

I can really relate to a lot of what you’re saying, including the bit about not being able to imagine being romantic in a particular culture/ language!
As odd as that might sound, I know exactly what you mean.
I can just about imagine being with someone who was born and bred in and never left somewhere like London, because that’s still different to my own culture (“exotification fetish”, here I come!), but not really with someone from the same country as me who also never left.
Not sure why exactly, but that’s just the way it is.

I'm fairly ordinary looking. But ... On a couple of business trips to the USA I found my voice to have a mesmerising effect on American men 🤣

You’re comparing two different metrics here.

Native English speakers who have learning difficulties and non-native English speakers who have had access to learn a second langauage.

Of course you’ve met people who speak English at a higher level as a second language than English people with learning difficulties.

And NO LEARNING DIFFICULTIES just means they haven’t had access to the appropriate tests etc.

@Coffeeandbooks88 not from me either. I think responses would be much the same as you’ve got on here - mixed. There wouldn’t be a consensus on if it’s offensive or not just like in this thread. People have various views on this.

IMO it’s just a case of people saying the quiet part out loud when they voice preferences.
POC here and btw in the real word white men do regularly voice their disinterest in dating Black and other woman of colour 😂 (and vice versa to be fair) And if they don’t go out of their way to voice, it clearly shows in their choices and attitude.

Anyone Ever watch Love Island? I know it’s a reality show and attracts certain type of young people but many woman of colour have said this is their real life experience. For context for those have never watched it, it’s a reality dating show and so many stunning Black, Asian and mixed race women are basically sidelined by the men in favour of the blonde or brunette, and I know women of all races can have that hair colour but it’s usually used as code for white women. Lol.

When someone says they prefer or only date blondes and many white men do say this- they typically aren’t referring to Black or Asian women.

OP I think it’s fine your brother doesn’t want to date British women. It may be as someone suggested he gets to feel more special if they for example like “British accents” or he may just enjoy learning about those other cultures.

I typically don’t date British men and that’s ok too. I feel it would be more problematic if he said he only likes eg. Thai and Filipino women because of the whole stereotypes about those women being submissive and dependent on western men. He didn’t say anything bad about British women did he?