Why do men hate women so much?

[growingsideway]

I’m on the larger side, a size 18. Walking back from work with my headphones in and on my phone and a guy leans out of his car window (passenger side) in slow moving traffic, barks at me like a dog and calls me a fat bitch. Him and his mates in the car then crack up at it and find themselves absolutely hilarious as they’re crawling along next to me.

I know it’s silly to be so upset by it because it’s such a silly thing for them to do, but they took me by surprise and gave me a fright and I just don’t get it. Why are men like this?

thinking back on my 50+ years on earth, I've had males cat call me when I was slim and pretty, scream fatass out car windows when I gained a little weight, called ugly etc etc

But NEVER has a girl or woman screamed an obscene or insulting comment at me as I was living my life in the world. Funny isn't it.

Yes some women are vile but as a rule they don't engage in this belittling behavior.

What a male apologist you are!

If you want empathy for your experience with an unpleasant woman, then perhaps start your own thread about it? This is the OPs thread about her experience with men and her trying to make sense of this behaviour. Because she is feeling bad about HERSELF because of what men have done to her. Women are trying to support her to understand that this is a pattern of male behaviour and not personal.
By bringing your experience with a woman into it, you are minimising what happened to the OP and interrupting her getting support by diverting attention to yourself and to 'bad women'.

I used to work in a pub and I’d see lots of those lovely, respectful husbands and fathers whose lovely wives, mothers and daughters would put them in the ‘not all men’ group.
If only they saw them in male company when the weren’t there.

Nobody’s minimising it. What we’re saying is she likely didn’t do it for fun, like men seem to.

I am so sorry this happened to you. Some men grow up with terrible role models, then flock together and never grow up. I absolutely promise you that my husband and his friends would never in a million years do this and if he found out the had, he would drop them immediately. I know this won’t help the way you’re feeling right now and I’m sorry about that. It’s the thing isn’t it…it’s not all men, but it’s always men.

AND IT IS MEN ATTACKING THESE MEN!

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Just to say, this does not happen in other countries

It is very particular to the UK

Some men are totally inadequate at life and resent women doing life better . A lot of women prefer to be single than settle and we earn our own money . Men aren’t needed anymore .

I always think there is a certain type of man who is just utterly infuriated that the world isn’t like it was 80 years ago. When men were ‘protectors and providers’ and worshipped at home, that was all that was expected of them. Marital rape wasn’t a thing. Domestic violence wasn’t talked about. They like the thought of that sort of power.

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it absolutely does happen in other countries

They do this type of thing to make themselves feel powerful but they probably have extremely fragile egos

There's definitely a classic cowardice/bullying element to it. These idiots will just as often shout things gay-presenting men, younger lads, alternative looking men etc because they know there's little to no risk/comeback.

They'll shout at a woman/gay couple from a moving car, but they're not walking up to a table of rugby lads and behaving that way.

You think men in other countries don't harass and insult random women?!

Something specific in her life. Nothing to do with you-and for you of course the consequences were the same, and horrible. But there is something in men that makes them single out women as targets. Any woman. I suspect your attacker would have been equally vile to you if you had been a man.

Generally, I think they hate women because we don't need them anymore. Especially those of us who don't want children.

The same men doing the same things except it’s not socially acceptable with women any more….except for the women on this thread saying not all men...

They’ve always behaved like this

Many men only love other men. They want to impress them, make them laugh, fit in. It’s very sad really. They are just little sheep. It wasn’t about you OP, it was about a little boy trying to impress his friends. They are beneath you.

It’s all about power and gratification.

Because they are full of themselves

Truly a lot of these stories are just awful, and so cruel.

I honestly think it all stems from the fact they’re more physically able than us, we are no threat to them, and without a threat they can do as they wish with no real repercussions. And as the only threat to them is from other men they will do whatever makes them the ‘alpha’ which means showing dominance over whoever they can by whatever means.

SOME men for sure are utter twats. Sorry you had that experience. I do worry for my young adult DDs. I am lucky to have been married to a really good man for 30 years and to be the daughter of a really good man and to have a really good man for my brother. There are lots of good men, they just don’t yell at you from cars.

Which is super odd when you actually think about it, because none of them actually experienced what life was like 'back then'. It's just a fantasy of how they think things were.

This isn't true. He approached most men he came in contact with, which is why so many were concentrated around the area he lived in.

Every shop owner in the village.

Unless you're saying that at least 50% of men frequent these sites. In which case my point still stands. It's still 50% of men which is grossly unacceptable.