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To feel deflated after ChatGPT told me I was undesirable?

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Pepsiandcowhide · 15/12/2025 17:27

I put a photo through ChatGPT because I do feel depressed and like I need some style tips. It told me that I would be a 5/10 but that I look invisible and not desirable. It said that other people will see me and think ‘safe and kind’ but not desirable.

AIBU to feel utterly deflated by this? How does one go about looking desirable?

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RoamingToaster · 15/12/2025 19:44

I just tried a few photos of myself and got the eager to please answers I’d expect and much higher scores than anyone would give me 😂 Not to put myself down. I really think there’s something it’s reading in your responses and questions -it has picked up that the negative answer is what you wanted to hear as part of it being agreeable.

Climbingrosexx · 15/12/2025 19:48

Pepsiandcowhide · 15/12/2025 17:27

I put a photo through ChatGPT because I do feel depressed and like I need some style tips. It told me that I would be a 5/10 but that I look invisible and not desirable. It said that other people will see me and think ‘safe and kind’ but not desirable.

AIBU to feel utterly deflated by this? How does one go about looking desirable?

Not making light of how you feel but I didn't even know this was a thing I am dying to try it now. Interested to know what it would say about me. I wont be holding my breath for any compliments anytime soon.

Sounds like an app designed for a bit of fun (people correct me if I'm wrong I am not very technical) and not to be taken seriously

JustMyView13 · 15/12/2025 19:50

If you were expecting a compliment, you should’ve entered a more positive command. You must’ve asked it to critique you.

KnewYearKnewMe · 15/12/2025 19:55

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Well I am cos I’ve just done it now because of this!

and I’m very happy with the answer!!!
(so I’m not asking it anything else in case it changes its mind 🤣)

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 15/12/2025 20:00

Who gives a shit what ChatGTP says? It told me a football player who is male was female and scored a hat trick (he didn’t). Haven’t used it since.

Jasnah · 15/12/2025 20:05

Look, ChatGPT told me that there was a less than 0.1% chance I'd ever meet someone who could love me just as I am. A week later I joined a dating website, 3 weeks after that I met with someone interesting and 6 months later we're talking about buying a house, getting married and all the rest of it.

Even if you were undesirable, it wouldn't mean a thing. Real life is just that - out here, in this world. If you want to meet people, put yourself out there.

readingmakesmehappy · 15/12/2025 20:06

DO NOT USE CHATGPT. It is destroying our planet and our ability to think. It is a robot programmed by idiot American tech bros and based entirely on the theft of millions of words they did not have permission to use. It is an awful, awful thing. Leave it alone.

MissDoubleU · 15/12/2025 20:07

ChatGPT is destroying the planet and was designed by billionaires to make you more stupid.

Why the fuck do you care what a non human entity thinks of your appearance ? Kindly, get a grip.

gamerchick · 15/12/2025 20:10

People really ask AI stuff like this?

MoominMai · 15/12/2025 20:11

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 15/12/2025 17:39

If you want to understand how flawed chatgpt is, ask it to show you the seahorse emoji.

I just did lol. It gave a very odd and protracted reply after first trying to palm off the pink unicorn head as a seahorse. Started saying things like the platforms were all trolling it - very peculiar!

Greggsit · 15/12/2025 20:13

You're an idiot. It's a (badly) designed computer program. How can it possibly really know how to answer a question like that? Use your brain and stop asking stupid questions like that.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 15/12/2025 20:14

You asked ChatGTP how desirable you are?

Stop the planet, I want to get off

BillieWiper · 15/12/2025 20:20

Well it doesn't matter if an AI says you are undesirable as it's not a human being.

I guess to get it to say you are in a photo you should wear lots of makeup, jewellery, pout or smile seductively, show cleavage, use 'sexy' filters, maybe wear your hair down if it's long.

But mainly desirable could be seen as confidence and openness and seeming like you're adventurous and sensual. Or tactile, flirty, lots of eye contact, talk about things in a sexual way. But then some people might see that as being pervy and not attractive at all.

Shedeboodinia · 15/12/2025 20:26

Seriously?
Do you even know how chat gpt works?
Please read up in how it actually works as this will enlighten you and hopefully you will feel empowered not to let an LLM dictate your mood and self esteem.
Google 'how do LLMs work, in specific chat gpt. Or if you can't be arsed then ask chat gpt but I wouldn't trust the answer to that question either.

KindnessIsKey123 · 15/12/2025 20:29

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 15/12/2025 17:38

It's the dating equivalent of an AI ebay description of all items ever being perfect for the style conscious woman!

I just got the exact same comment from chatGPT from my photo.

I asked for score out of 10 it said 8.5 🤣 buzzing

Faceonfireburning · 15/12/2025 20:33

KindnessIsKey123 · 15/12/2025 20:29

I just got the exact same comment from chatGPT from my photo.

I asked for score out of 10 it said 8.5 🤣 buzzing

You are officially as desirable as Michelle Keegan then. ⭐️

notvsure · 15/12/2025 20:35

I mean I’ve had to really ask it to be critical and more critical to get even a hint of negativity

PollyBell · 15/12/2025 20:39

So because Ai told you something it must be true, I would back away from the internet it might be safer

Isayitasitis · 15/12/2025 20:40

You're being unreasonable for asking A.I for that kind of advice.

Ask people on here, the beauty and style pages are full of advice.

Plus it doesn't have eyes. I'm sure you are perfectly fine.

JetFlight · 15/12/2025 20:45

I think this was a way to test some picture analysis prompts into ChatGPT…….

Newsenmum · 15/12/2025 20:45

Chatgtp wont tell me anything like that so I am a bit suspicious!

GeishaTrumpet · 15/12/2025 20:49

Well ChatGPT just said I am warm and desirable so I wouldn’t believe a word it says 😂

Sartre · 15/12/2025 20:49

I doubt this very much. All of my interactions with it have essentially involved it kissing my arse and telling me I’m right about everything. It’s such a people pleaser.

cucumberpeach · 15/12/2025 20:53

Self respect OP, self respect!

Newsenmum · 15/12/2025 20:54

Sartre · 15/12/2025 20:49

I doubt this very much. All of my interactions with it have essentially involved it kissing my arse and telling me I’m right about everything. It’s such a people pleaser.

exsctly! It wouldnt even guess
my age and went on about positive self talk.

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