Would it bother you if one person wasn’t drinking at Christmas?

[wakinginthenight]

Dh and I do like to have a few drinks at Christmas and enjoy ourselves.
We are having Christmas at home just family and we all intend to have a good amount of drink, play a few silly party games, music and just let our hair down because it’s Christmas but there is one person who’ll be coming who has requested alcohol free beer as he’s not drinking.
He does drink, he’s just decided he won’t on this occasion.
I feel a bit miffed to be honest that we are all going to be drinking and one sober person will be sitting there watching.
I know IABU but I really wish they would not come if they are just going to sit there and remember everything, I don’t think it helps that they will be here all day and all night.

Because it relates to the person drinking finding it less comfortable when there are others not drinking??? Absolutely relevant to the thread.

YABU totally.

It wouldn't worry me in the slightest and you are really weird to be "miffed."

Of course adults can get drunk if they want to. Nobody cares if you choose to get absolutely plastered with your adult children on Christmas Day.

The primary-school aged children in the house are the main problem in OPs situation. Having a few drinks over the course of the day without getting drunk wouldn’t be an issue. Actively planning to get pissed to the point that DHs sober adult son being there will change the dynamic and stop them from ‘letting their hair down’, with OP worrying because he’s not drinking and will “remember everything”, definitely is.

Did she pick you sis?

Yes, I did wonder about that. The OP's quite moralistic attitude towards not drinking is typical of an incipent alcoholic, or at the least, someone with a problematic relationship with alcohol.

I don’t drink. I don’t like the taste of alcohol and I don’t like feeling tipsy. However I do like eating chocolate ice cream so the next time I host I will force everyone to eat ice cream for desert and snacks and will shoot daggers at anyone who doesn’t want ice cream for whatever reason. God forbid anyone who is dairy intolerant or diabetic thinks they are welcome in my house, it will make me really awkward with them sat watching me eat pudding.

I have never drunk, ever. Not for any reason other than I dont like the taste of wine, beer or lager. Since I was in my teens idiots that think that everyone needs to drink to have a good time have been trying to persuade me to 'have a proper drink'. I have a bloody good time when I go out and so what if I can remember it. I would be very offended if someone didn't invite me because I wont have a drink. I think its rude and pathetic to feel the way you do. If you feel uncomfortable about someone sitting in your house and not drinking then you really do have a problem.

What adult doesn’t eat party /picky bits

thi I get why he wants a roast as it’s kinda usual on 25/12

but inv

but you obv you eat what host is doing

Its not nice is it, when you feel attacked and nasty names are thrown at you.

ldnmusic87 · Today 15:42
Christ, you are the rudest person in this thread.
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I didn't know He was on this thread!

The only people who have a problem with non-drinkers, are those with drinking problems... Just sayin'.

Are you going to get so blind drunk and do awful stuff that you don't want anyone to remember? I take it people that don't drink are never welcome in your house?

No. But if you dish out bile, some if it is going to come back.

If he lives a two minute walk away he doesn't have to stay all night, can go home at 10pm and leave you two to get 'shitfaced'.

Or you could tell him you have made other plans.

She did say she only drinks on special occasions and when on holiday.

I don’t drink and I’m certainly not just a ‘spectator’ at family events.
You seem troubled.

There will only be three adults, the op, her husband and the lad. It's not a party.
You surely don't get drunk with young kids around anyway.

And how exactly did the OP dish out bile to deserve the response she’s received?

😂 amen

It’s not about how much or how often. It’s what happens when you do. In this case the OP wants to get so drunk she behaves in an embarrassing manner. Thats problematic. Ergo alcohol problem.

OP literally asked whether she's being unreasonable or not. Nobody called her a cunt, iirc. That particular bit of bile was all you. ☺️

It’s your whole mental framing of the situation that’s dysfunctional. If alcohol is so blatantly the purpose and focus of the event that anyone not drinking is a “spectator” who makes you feel uncomfortable, then your relationship with alcohol is terrible and needs addressing.

I would make my excuses if I were the non-drinker, personally. I can’t imagine a more dismal way to spend Christmas than as an unwanted “spectator” to a bunch of braying binge-drinkers.

I didn’t call her a cunt either

She’s trying to prevent her husband’s biological son from spending time with him at Christmas because he doesn’t drink heavily.

You called us cunts.