Would it bother you if one person wasn’t drinking at Christmas?

[wakinginthenight]

Dh and I do like to have a few drinks at Christmas and enjoy ourselves.
We are having Christmas at home just family and we all intend to have a good amount of drink, play a few silly party games, music and just let our hair down because it’s Christmas but there is one person who’ll be coming who has requested alcohol free beer as he’s not drinking.
He does drink, he’s just decided he won’t on this occasion.
I feel a bit miffed to be honest that we are all going to be drinking and one sober person will be sitting there watching.
I know IABU but I really wish they would not come if they are just going to sit there and remember everything, I don’t think it helps that they will be here all day and all night.

That made me laugh! But I agree!

Lol

Best thing to do is don't engage they are winding you up don't bite.

No.

We are having Christmas at home just family and we all intend to have a good amount of drink, play a few silly party games, music and just let our hair down because it’s Christmas but there is one person who’ll be coming who has requested alcohol free beer as he’s not drinking.

I think most people have imagined a group because you have said twice in your OP we will ALL be drinking when you actually mean you will BOTH be drinking (if it's just you and your DP). Hence the situation you have gone on to describe is not the impression people had from your OP.

Because you care about your step-son having a nice time, and not feeling bored and uncomfortable around you?

The OP claims only to have a drink on special occasions, yet she's preoccupied with the fact that her need to get trolleyed on Christmas Day takes precedence over her husband's relationship with his son. Something doesn't quite add up there.

Also the amount the OP drinks isn't really relevant. What's relevant is that she clearly dislikes and resents her husband's son and is scratching around looking for opportunities to uninvite him from celebrating Christmas with them.

may Sound harsh but grow up

how sad that you think someone who is not drinking won’t have fun

Your poor children. How incredibly selfish you are. Christmas Day is not the time to get drunk in front of your children.

I'd be a lot more confident that the OP is not a problem drinker, if she didn't keep changing the story.

IMO, OP - you are being unreasonable!

It’s perfectly normal for there to be drivers at any party! When we host Xmas, DS and DD2’s partner both have to drive home!

We don’t have enough beds to host an extra 6 people, especially as DGCs have to be in different bedrooms, otherwise they’d keep each other up all night!

I certainly wouldn’t want to get drunk in front of DGCs either.

There are children, which is what makes OP’s great desire to knock back enough booze as to not remember what she’s done, so unacceptable. It’s not pearl clutching, projecting or ‘nun’ behaviour to think this is dysfunctional.

I wouldn't want to go if I was him

Drunks are lousy company and you're not very good hosts

Weird.

Ridiculous.
I wouldn’t notice. I always buy a few AF drinks for a family meet-up for the adults who are driving or just don’t drink alcohol. You’re very rude not offering the option.

Yes, it’s all over the place 😏

So he should drink because you think you can't have fun without it? That's a you problem

And this is why people find it so hard to go out and not drink! Because they feel they will be judged.
He doesn't need to share his reasons with you. Maybe he's had a health scare. Maybe he's trying it out. Maybe he's cutting down. Maybe he's on a diet. It doesn't matter. What you're saying is you don't want him in your house if he's not drinking.

We're going to relatives for Christmas day. We haven't decided yet if one of us won't drink so we can take the car or if we'll both drink and walk home. About half hour. But we won't be judged either way

So you're annoyed because your step son doesn't want to come and get pissed with you and your husband around your young children?! So drunk in fact that you'd rather he was drinking so he wasn't remembering every offensive thing you will inevitably say to him? Unbelievable. Your poor children.

I would have HATED IT if my parents got drunk in front of me when I was a young child, plus imagine if something happened and you couldn't take them to A&E or something. Your step son has probably seen you and your DH get drunk before and is hoping to avoid a similar situation again. This is honestly just so grim.

Weird thread, and your OP is actually completely misleading.

You should be allowed to have a drink and a laugh at home on christmas if you so wish, but what stands out to me is why your step son feels so uncomfortable with this. I'm sure theres lots more to this story. I'd love to hear his side.

They're overthinking it. They should continue as planned. He'll probably surprise them. He already knows they are drinking and he still wants to come. He would have gone to his mother's for Christmas if they are that bad.

Just tell him your plan, if he feels uncomfortable he doesn’t have to come.
Have you ever discussed this with him before?

I got interrupted and couldn't complete this! every single person who doesn't drink is a boring dull idiot..is the mindset of those who cannot manage to enjoy life without medicating themselves. I stopped drinking twelve years ago and have been sneered at, told I must be boring, how do i enjoy anything EVER etc.
The dull stupid fuckers are the ones who can't do anything without alcoholic help. Pathetic

That non drinking person needs to have a think about the people they spend their time with. You
sound like a prize twat.

I thing for many of us the focus of Christmas day with children is probably things like, worrying about if all the presents are bought and wrapped, whether we have enough potatoes , who is collecting granny etc etc. Well down the list will be wanting to get so drunk that someone will disprove and how to uninvite them!