To be upset by this in a friends group chat?

[alittlechildish]

I’m well aware that this will sound silly, but here goes.

i’m in a group chat with some other women of a similar age as me. We all met because we are fans of a sport. Last weekend that sport concluded and the competitor that I’m not a huge fan of won. No big deal, I’m an adult and I can cope with it.

One member of the group chat was @ ing me through the entire day, basically asking if I was really annoyed, am I pissed off etc etc and just being a bit weird.

i said no not really and left it at that. I went onto the shared document we have of addresses in preparation to send my Christmas cards and I can see that this person has now added comments to my address. It’s my name then (stinks) and under my address they’ve put shithole. From the edit history I can see that this was done by the member who was acting strangely last weekend and was done on the day of the last race.

AIBU to think this is weird behaviour and also a little upsetting? We’re all adults and it just seems strange.

So you think by OP saying "not really" she deserved the relentless @ goading from another member of the group?

OPs response was fine and honestly however OP felt about her team losing it doesn't justify the other person's odd, unkind behaviour!

Policing what OP should have said to try and avoid another adult being goady and rude is a weird choice.

So what? Does that mean the OP should then be faced with more “banter” and unpleasant behaviour?

Some people really will go all out to try and find something wrong with an op...it's so odd.

Of course not

but I imagine this group has been fraught with drama from day 1!

The entire scenario is all so… well, alien to me re how adults behave to I’ll bow out!

It really hasn’t. It’s been a really nice place to be for the last few years.

Haha love it!

Is Floorclean your 8 yo friend? It's shitty behaviour and she's no friend.

Drunk or high?

Im struggling for any rational explanation. And that’s as a pretty diehard Maclaren / Lando fan.

If it’s just one person, then I’d probably quietly seethe and ignore it. Or individually message someone sensible in the group and just check that Youve not inadvertently done something to provoke it. Occasionally can make a wild typo or slipped finger on an emoji that sets a tone you never intended to.

What an odd and incredibly childish thing to do. I definitely wouldn't be upset as it's so stupid, but I would make sure that I screenshot the editing with proof of who it was, added it to the group chat and asked if they had too much to drink that night.

Screenshot it, with ???

Yes, the person sitting at home minding their own business just has to be at fault for trying not to rise to the bait of childish behaviour.

Unless it's a group of teenagers, yes it's very weird behaviour. I remember kids at school being silly like this over football. I've never seen adults act that way.

Edit your details on the document to read ‘get a life :)’

"No not really" is a perfectly normal and standard response to that kind of pointless question.

I would have to do something about that! Screenshot it as others have said, post in the main group and say something like, "WTF? How old are you?"

What bizarre behaviour from another adult!

I would def screenshot it and say something like ‘You’ve not covered your tracks here very well! 😉’ Which both makes it seem like you’re unfazed and mildly amused but also shows the rest of the group what’s happened and reveals what an idiot that person is.

i'd go with screenshots into the group, muting her and not sending her a card.

I totally agree, some posters work extremely hard to try and establish the OP is at fault in some way when they explain a situation. It’s like a sport to them 🤷🏻‍♀️

OP you did nothing wrong, I’d also screenshot it and ask the author to amend it back.

Can I just clarify when I say that it’s the same sort of annoyance that you get when you wake up and see you’ve not won the euromillions 😂

I'm here to read how she and the rest of them respond when you call it out.

Make sure you have evidence, so she can't just change it and turn it around on you.

Please put the editing notes in the group chat & @ her & ask her if she’s ok

That's pretty much how I feel when I see people like you trying to provoke a poster for zero reason. Not very adult really is it?!

I’d put the screenshots in the chat with a ??? As suggested by pp. And ‘at’ the person. I guess it was childish banter.