Shocked by my colleague’s reply to me

[Jenni89]

I’m a teacher and went out for a couple of drinks last night as a department Christmas get together. I was a bit late so they’d already been drinking. I drove there and someone was driving like an idiot really close behind me which I mentioned when I arrived. Another teacher said that’s probably not the first man who has tried to get close to my rear end. Lots of laughter. AIBU to find that quite shocking given the audience?

I'm neither a doormat nor a weak woman

If a man made an actually sexual comment to me, I'd call him out

If a man made this innuendo to me, I'd reply with something like "well you'd never get close" or "a bet a few have been near yours"

Ha no! Well I don’t know. It’s the body that can strike you off as a teacher.

I know that really. Just usually means something else on here and amused me.😊

Got it in one! Just because the op is offended she’s been called loads of names.

Your bar maybe be low. You may let people speak to you like a butt of a joke. I personally don’t. Not my colleagues. Not my boss. No one. Sorry you find that so difficult.

Don’t mention the word "body"!

Threads like this make me so greatful for my work colleagues and everyone i know for that matter. We always have a laugh and a joke and nobody gets offended its relaxing and fun. Its a great way to live life. Your way sounds stressful and miserable

It is crass, but I've known worse to come from teachers. (I taught in secondary for 40 yrs.)

I stopped going to the end of term Christmas do because the behaviour could become quite atrocious. The last time I went to the Christmas meal, I hurried home after the coffee because my late husband was poorly.

On the first day back at work, I found out that the staff middle-aged lech had hit on a young woman. Her boyfriend had taken exception and aimed a punch at him.

The lech moved out the way and it connected with a probationer teacher...

and who do you think you are calling people doormat, weak and stepford wives because they don't get offended for no reason? Being bitter doesn't give you the right to start insulting everyone else, go away. No one cares that you are offended 😂

Shocked, are you really shocked though?

I don’t think so, no. But I'm not in any of those professions so I can’t judge or say on that.

the teachers themselves that I know always do seem to be very stressed and talk about their stress a LOT. I know 2 who have attempted suicide due to MH issues exacerbated by their jobs and no help from their SLT’s. Obviously they are not in such immediate danger as emergency services attending incidents, but I know several who have been physically attacked by pupils.

I’d probably have winked and said thanks.
but then I’m not offended by everything that anybody says!

Because it's acceptable to call people names on MN if they don't follow the so called "sisterhood" idea that everything men do is trash

You are very easily shocked...

This! Honestly, I really don't know how some MNers deal with the world in general. It was just a joke, and very far from being "shocking"

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

I’d have smiled and winked. Drunken joke.
Move on, life’s short.

Why am I bitter? Why are you saying go away? I’m guessing it’s because I’ve said something which has offended you. How funny.

I didn’t ask you to care if I was offended. I told the op she wasn’t the only one who would have found a colleague making that comment offensive.

She didn't say it was a male who made the joke

If you’re 18 and he’s 58, that would he weird but otherwise just laugh it off

I'd be far more shocked that they were driving while apparently over the limit!

Oops, the tail-gating driver wasn't a colleague.