Snotty reply from ‘friend’

[TheOpalFox]

If you asked someone what there up to and they replied what do you think I’m uoto at this time.
Would you be annoyed ? That’s a snotty reply in my eyes ?

I think it's rude. 9pm isn't particularly late and I say that as someone with young children who frequently goes to bed at 8:30pm.

I also think they could have put their phone on do not disturb or something. If they can't (e.g. they have an elderly relative who they need to be on call for) I think they could just politely ask not to be messaged after whatever time as they can't put their phone on do not disturb but at the same time it wakes them up.

I think their only defense is they might have been very groggy when replying and couldn't filter their grumpiness. I'm pretty bad at filtering myself if I'm half asleep to be honest, because my brain is half switched off.

Playing devils advocate but was it a time that you both watch a certain programme so she was trying to be funny?

I am just surprised anyone would be this much of a rude twat.

I would think it rude. Wonder if it’s just a bad joke, misplaced humour though?

It's not snotty. It's probably referencing a TV programme she is watches at 9pm or something. Or she is saying that you should know what she is doing i.e. she works shifts so is sleeping.

Why even give it a thought? Just reply 'I don't know. Tell me.'

It could be a humorous reply, could be a snotty reply, could be the start of a conversation...

I'd reply 'I'm not psychic, that's why I texted you!'

But that's the conversation I'd only have with the very closest people, and we are regularly far ruder than we would be to, say, a friend I see every couple of weeks.

Context is everything.

Rude!

'What you up to...?' Is harmless and extremely inoffensive. I say it all the time to my family and friends, and I'm 59. It's just a wee icebreaker and a gentle ask to anyone to see how they're doing. Anybody who thinks this is strange is a weirdo in my opinion.

They're friends...

Were they a Race Across the World fan, and you texted them during the finale?

Why are you asking your friend questions about what they're doing at 9pm? They are going to bed, alone or with someone, watching a gripping film, or wrapping Xmas presents and you have disturbed them for no good reason!

why did you message someone with that query at 9pm at night?

If a friend messaged me

what are you up to?

Id wonder what was happening and reply with

are you ok? do you need help

Do you never send your friends a text to ask how they are?

Well what was she doing? Was it obvious??

you’re not going to get any meaningful replies without giving proper information and context

Why would you want to text a friend at 9pm to ask what they are up to?
I can't stand these pointless banal texts, just filling in time because you're bored. I'm never sure how I am supposed to respond to generic one line questions. It's not a proper conversation, is it? Someone says 'how are you?' I say 'I'm fine, how are you?' and then what? Or 'what are you up to?' 'Nothing much. Eating digestive biscuits and watching Emmerdale. You?'

I'm never sure how these text exchanges are supposed to finish, or how long I'm expected to go on with the dull question and answer thing either.

If you want a proper chat then message and ask when is a good time to ring or meet up. Otherwise leave her alone to enjoy her evening.

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If you text that on a regular basis it might get annoying. For example it could be interpreted as text me back and chat about what you're doing, without me having to put much effort in.

Or I'm looking to meet up without specifically saying are you free right now to meet/chat, so I can cancel if I change my mind.

Well I don’t think I’ve text anyone asking what they are up to since 2006 but

What response were you expecting?

I would find it odd if one of my friends texted “what are you up to?” at 9pm. Different if they text with context like “are you busy at the mo? Need a quick chat.” Or “why are you up to? I’ve got that thing to drop round if you’re not busy now” but on its own I’d find it odd!

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Living up to the MN stereotype.

I don't know, what's the context?
I would find that rude from some people, in some contexts, and not from others.

If I get a message saying ‘How are you?’ or ‘What are you up to?’ I usually assume the posters doing that irritating thing of sending a bunch of one or two line messages & check in 10 mins or so to see if they’ve finished.

Care to elaborate, OP? Was this an accidental post?

Also, what was your response to your friend's reply?

Yes I didn’t mean to put this .

I didn’t reply to her

she’s always sending me really weird messages so maybe I should just cut my losses as her friend :( I’m sad

Well I wouldn't text someone that if there was the remotest chance they're at work, asleep or child wrangling. So if that's what you did then YABU.

Unless it's my bestie I don't reply to that question anyway because it's just someone wanting to use me for entertainment to pass the time, usually, and I CBA with that. Either that or it's someone trying to trap me into a situation of replying "nothing much" and then asking me for a favour or to do something I just don't want to do and now I've lost my "I'm busy right now" polite get-out-clause, which pisses me off no end because I find it really manipulative.

If someone wants to give me information about their life, arrange to meet up or ask me something important then yeh, I'll respond at my earliest convenience.

Just no.

She should be thankful shes got a friend that cares enough to text her?