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"We're pregnant"

185 replies

IngridBurger · 11/12/2025 20:45

I hate it so much. No he isn't pregnant. Not even a bit. Yes he's going to he a father. He's expecting a baby. His partner is pregnant. How lovely that he's excited about it. What an amazing dad he's sure to be, but he is absolutely not pregnant!

I'm as grumpy as a middle-aged woman can get but this one really pisses me off. Pregnancy is a uniquely female experience. Why the fuck do men need to lay claim to it?

Do they experience morning sickness? Worry about the effects of the pregnancy on their career and earning potential? Be judged by all and sundry if they decide to have a thimbleful of wine or a slice of smoked salmon? Go through the risks and pain of childbirth?

Is it just me? (I expect so!!)

OP posts:
SammyScrounge · 12/12/2025 03:49

When my friend was taken up to the labour ward, her husband told the nurse , "We.don't want any pain relief" The.nurse put him in his place at once. "Wee weren't thinking of giving YOU any."

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 03:55

BeeHive909 · 11/12/2025 23:15

Actually talking about this. I don’t mind the saying as I said in my post but this reminded me of my brothers old school friend when his girlfriend was pregnant he went to his doctors to see if he could be prescribed something so he could breastfeed also . Never forgotten it and no one talks to him now .

😲 How did his gf ever fancy him again??? What a plank.

bizkittt · 12/12/2025 03:55

Drives me mad. Pregnancy is horrible and hard work for many. I don’t see why the man should be taking half the credit here just for the donation at the start.

BootMaker · 12/12/2025 03:55

SammyScrounge · 12/12/2025 03:49

When my friend was taken up to the labour ward, her husband told the nurse , "We.don't want any pain relief" The.nurse put him in his place at once. "Wee weren't thinking of giving YOU any."

What!!

I could not be married to a man that did that shizzle.

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 03:56

SammyScrounge · 12/12/2025 03:49

When my friend was taken up to the labour ward, her husband told the nurse , "We.don't want any pain relief" The.nurse put him in his place at once. "Wee weren't thinking of giving YOU any."

Absolutely brilliant.

I wonder how many labour and delivery nurses wish the male partners would just fuck off out of the way!

bizkittt · 12/12/2025 03:57

SammyScrounge · 12/12/2025 03:49

When my friend was taken up to the labour ward, her husband told the nurse , "We.don't want any pain relief" The.nurse put him in his place at once. "Wee weren't thinking of giving YOU any."

Ha glad he was put in his place. Controlling creep.

PollyBell · 12/12/2025 03:58

BootMaker · 12/12/2025 03:55

What!!

I could not be married to a man that did that shizzle.

Well she doesnt have great taste is men so not sure her judgement is that great

XWKD · 12/12/2025 03:58

It makes my skin crawl.

BootMaker · 12/12/2025 04:01

flaxensunshine · 12/12/2025 01:06

My son has full custody of his child. ( I know custody isn’t thr right term before you come at me!?)
he doesn’t have a biological mother because of the abuse so you have no idea what you are talking about,
this makes me so angry that you assume all women are good and men are not

I'm pleased your son is doing the right thing.

But of course his child has a biological mother.

You can't erase something because you find it distasteful.

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 04:01

Cautionsharpblade · 11/12/2025 23:47

I once heard ‘we had an episiotomy’. Oh did we now?!

You. Did. Not. Shut up! Really? I feel violent again! Ohhh, I could not have let that one pass. "So how long did it take you to heal?" 🤬

User565635 · 12/12/2025 04:03

Can't bear it along with "fell pregnant" makes no sense.

PollyBell · 12/12/2025 04:08

User565635 · 12/12/2025 04:03

Can't bear it along with "fell pregnant" makes no sense.

Or heavily pregnant

Mothership4two · 12/12/2025 04:12

firstofallimadelight · 11/12/2025 21:15

I hate it too. Also - is your husband babysitting? No he’s parenting his children!!

Have had MIL say this to me. DH piped up and put her straight

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 04:16

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/12/2025 01:21

I had one of these in my prenatal class. But worse because ‘we’ didn’t even want G&A. Poor wife had cascading interventions and a CS eventually.

‘We’ also decided on all natural clothes and toys, elimination communication (FFS) and all manner of bollocks. She looked so utterly miserable. Poor lamb. I hope she left him and they eat McDonalds now.

Jesus fucking Christ.

I'd ask what elimination communication is, but I think my blood pressure's had enough for one thread!

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:17

PollyBell · 12/12/2025 04:08

Or heavily pregnant

I dont mind that one, I felt HEAVILY PG with all of mine the last 6 weeks of so. The 4 I went over due I was gargantually pregnant!

Mothership4two · 12/12/2025 04:17

"We're pregnant" seemed to start in the US like a lot of these things. I first saw it on US friends and family SM posts

First saw baby showers and gender reveal parties on there too. IRL I have heard of/been invited to 1 baby shower and zero gender reveals

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:22

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 04:16

Jesus fucking Christ.

I'd ask what elimination communication is, but I think my blood pressure's had enough for one thread!

I will give you the BP friendly version......its when you read the signs that the baby is about to poo or pee so they dont need to be nappied. Katherine Ryan, who seriously annoys me at the best of times, did it apparently. Its bollocks. Yes you can predict it because a baby going red and grunting is a fairly big giveaway and they develop a natural routine just as we all do, but its just something smug "more free time than sense" people do to pretend they are better and more "connected" with their baby than the rest of us.

bizkittt · 12/12/2025 04:24

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:22

I will give you the BP friendly version......its when you read the signs that the baby is about to poo or pee so they dont need to be nappied. Katherine Ryan, who seriously annoys me at the best of times, did it apparently. Its bollocks. Yes you can predict it because a baby going red and grunting is a fairly big giveaway and they develop a natural routine just as we all do, but its just something smug "more free time than sense" people do to pretend they are better and more "connected" with their baby than the rest of us.

Edited

My 1 year old still poos 4 times a day. No way am I sitting around waiting for the signs.

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:24

Mothership4two · 12/12/2025 04:17

"We're pregnant" seemed to start in the US like a lot of these things. I first saw it on US friends and family SM posts

First saw baby showers and gender reveal parties on there too. IRL I have heard of/been invited to 1 baby shower and zero gender reveals

Oh and Grandbaby!

Fuck off!!!!!!!!!!

That one REALLY grinds my gears!

bizkittt · 12/12/2025 04:25

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:24

Oh and Grandbaby!

Fuck off!!!!!!!!!!

That one REALLY grinds my gears!

Anything to steal the limelight from the mother.

PollyBell · 12/12/2025 04:27

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:17

I dont mind that one, I felt HEAVILY PG with all of mine the last 6 weeks of so. The 4 I went over due I was gargantually pregnant!

But same as being a 'little bit pregant' a person is either pregnant or not

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 04:27

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/12/2025 04:22

I will give you the BP friendly version......its when you read the signs that the baby is about to poo or pee so they dont need to be nappied. Katherine Ryan, who seriously annoys me at the best of times, did it apparently. Its bollocks. Yes you can predict it because a baby going red and grunting is a fairly big giveaway and they develop a natural routine just as we all do, but its just something smug "more free time than sense" people do to pretend they are better and more "connected" with their baby than the rest of us.

Edited

I have heard it all now. Good God.

PollyBell · 12/12/2025 04:29

bizkittt · 12/12/2025 04:25

Anything to steal the limelight from the mother.

Isnt it the baby that should be getting the attention?

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 04:31

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/12/2025 01:34

Mila Kunis has it right…

That is BRILLIANT!

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 12/12/2025 04:40

PollyBell · 12/12/2025 04:29

Isnt it the baby that should be getting the attention?

The mother deserves her gargantuan contribution to be RESPECTED and NO the baby shouldn't be getting ALL the attention! Expectant and postpartum mothers should be nurtured and given attention and have their gift of life acknowledged! Men are utterly useless in that regard - literally ALL they do for the process is get their end away! And I say all this as a post-menopausal woman who never had kids! It's utterly ironic that it's men who are the more respected ones in our society. They're the ones who start wars and commit violence and murder. They take life and we give life! WE should be at the top of the respect ladder, not THEM! Grrrrrrrrr! 😡😡😡😡

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