"We're pregnant"

[IngridBurger]

I hate it so much. No he isn't pregnant. Not even a bit. Yes he's going to he a father. He's expecting a baby. His partner is pregnant. How lovely that he's excited about it. What an amazing dad he's sure to be, but he is absolutely not pregnant!

I'm as grumpy as a middle-aged woman can get but this one really pisses me off. Pregnancy is a uniquely female experience. Why the fuck do men need to lay claim to it?

Do they experience morning sickness? Worry about the effects of the pregnancy on their career and earning potential? Be judged by all and sundry if they decide to have a thimbleful of wine or a slice of smoked salmon? Go through the risks and pain of childbirth?

Is it just me? (I expect so!!)

See also the hench hipster- man bun , sculpted beard, spiritual/ Celtic tattoos, checked shirt /turn up jeans- alpha male lumberjack/ Jason Mimoa carry on ( but works in car phone warehouse)

alongside

Poundland/Temu Louis Theroux types in duffle coats, fresh off a luxury belief protest who you just know will also be saying ‘WE’ don’t want pain relief; WE want a natural birth; WE will be breastfeeding till 6
WE will be co- sleeping like they do in Denmark (well I say ‘We’- ‘SHE’ will be lumped in with the lit’lun while I’m nice n cosy downstairs in the snug watching ‘ethical porn’ on my phone !

I once heard ‘we had an episiotomy’. Oh did we now?!

Nah that I get
turn of phrase I think x

Yes indeed please fuck right off.

One of my cousins wears the ankle grazers and sockless loafers.

My lovely Irish uncle took one look at him and said, "If your ankle was a slice of ham, you couldn't make a sandwich" 🤣🤣

It takes two people to make one pregnancy. Exactly. You're getting it, well done!

Awful - and performative, in my opinion. "Look how close we are - we're effectively the same person, in one body." Barf.

Love it!!

I mean its a bit iffy if you are in your twenties but can be put down to be age related knobishness. Any older than that? Sort yourself out mate!

"Temu Louis Theroux" finished me off!

I think that's enough internet for me tonight 😂😂

You already responded to my comment and I replied. No facts don’t go out the window. But I don’t think it’s worth correcting every couple that might converse this way.

Which undoubtedly many of them will do down the line without the grit and values of the much maligned’ Darren’s , Dans,and Alfie’s’ mentioned upthread.

Makes me nauseous

I love how the mum is trying to include him but just fucking say we’re having a baby.

Its like if I stood next to my sister and said we’re pregnant - it would mean we’re both pregnant.

He is not pregnant so why say you’re both pregnant.

Yes it does you are correct.

But only 1 has the scan.
Only 1 goes into labour.
Only 1 gives birth.
Only 1 BFs.
And only 1 is pregnant.

You wouldn’t say our water broke, our cervix’s are dilated - so why would you say we’re pregnant referring to 2 people.

Just say we’re having a baby.

Absolutely. Bleurg. The sort of thing Miranda's cringey coupley friends say.

It's an appalling phrase. Really makes me see red.

Only the woman can be pregnant, unless her male partner is a seahorse.

When our children were on the way it was me who was the pregnant one and the one giving birth. DH wasn't, much to his everlasting relief. It would thankfully never have occurred to him to utter such idiotic nonsense.

My son has full custody of his child. ( I know custody isn’t thr right term before you come at me!?)
he doesn’t have a biological mother because of the abuse so you have no idea what you are talking about,
this makes me so angry that you assume all women are good and men are not

Vomit inducing

I had one of these in my prenatal class. But worse because ‘we’ didn’t even want G&A. Poor wife had cascading interventions and a CS eventually.

‘We’ also decided on all natural clothes and toys, elimination communication (FFS) and all manner of bollocks. She looked so utterly miserable. Poor lamb. I hope she left him and they eat McDonalds now.

Nothing to do with good and bad.

Everything to do with biology. Your son wasn’t pregnant.

I think you are misunderstanding.

The OP isnt suggesting that men cannot be good fathers [ETA] or indeed that women are automatically good mothers, its clear that your son is a good father and birth mother wasnt good at all.

But that, whatever some would like to imply, they simply cannot grow and birth another human. They just can't and it is somewhat insulting to suggest that they are sharing and helping to bear the physical and emotional pain and stress of being pregnant and giving birth. That they can understand how it feels to not just be aware of the pregnancy but of having it overtake every single moment of your waking (and sleeping) hours when they can't.

We have so little that is just ours, and now we cant even be pregnant without some men trying to muscle in.

That has nothing to do with your son being a single father to his child.

I hate it too, so smugly cringeworthy! I used to know a man through work whose wife was pregnant and he talked about the pregnancy as if it was him pregnant. The best was after the baby was born and he said they shared the pain. Yes, sure you did. She was probably screaming her head off while he was standing looking queasy.

I agree with you I have never liked this phrase ever...
"We are going to be parents" , sure
But "we are pregnant"?. No WE are not!

I suppose it sounds less possessive than "my wife is going to be pregnant" "My partner is going to be pregnant", "my girlfriend is going to be pregnant." because that makes her sound more like a possession than a shared responsibility or shared experience but no I agree with you.

I'm guessing that surely some producer out there has created some kind of man boob strap-on nipple bottle that can hold formula/breast milk that he can slip on like a bra, that looks like a pair of boobs, that can be refilled, that he can use to nurse the child. Dear Lord if this has not been created yet, nobody grab my idea and I'll make it myself!!