"We're pregnant"

[IngridBurger]

I hate it so much. No he isn't pregnant. Not even a bit. Yes he's going to he a father. He's expecting a baby. His partner is pregnant. How lovely that he's excited about it. What an amazing dad he's sure to be, but he is absolutely not pregnant!

I'm as grumpy as a middle-aged woman can get but this one really pisses me off. Pregnancy is a uniquely female experience. Why the fuck do men need to lay claim to it?

Do they experience morning sickness? Worry about the effects of the pregnancy on their career and earning potential? Be judged by all and sundry if they decide to have a thimbleful of wine or a slice of smoked salmon? Go through the risks and pain of childbirth?

Is it just me? (I expect so!!)

Mila Kunis has it right…

One of the Ben Stiller Meet the Parent films has something like that! His father in law feeds his grandson with it.

See, I don't like the "new" in that. If someone told you they were going to have a baby you wouldn't assume it was anything other than new, would you?

I even think it's silly when parents say "were having a little girl/boy". I should hope so, for the mother's sake!

I'd not have noticed it before having children. My first pregnancy was blighted by miscarriage fears as it was my first after 8 years of infertility.

My second the fatigue was so bad I couldn't leave the house for the first trimester. I could barely stand up.

As good as my husband was, only I experienced that. Only me feeling the real lows when I was completely housebound, and the wonderful, beautiful highs of falling in love with my babies, our first night together. It was all worth it.

But I was pregnant. Just me.

I'd lose respect for my husband if he announced, 'we're pregnant'.

How remarkably defensive.

It sounds like your son is doing a wonderful job being the solo parent after what was a very traumatic experience for your whole family.

He still wasn't pregnant.

Yup, agree! Makes me laugh, it’s so awful! I appreciate the sentiment behind it, but he’s not even a little bit pregnant!!

I suppose you could say the pregnancy is his baby too and that the pregnancy affects his life too, but saying “we” are pregnant takes it A STEP TOO FAR!!!! 🤣

It doesn’t irritate me as much as the baby world leaving out “the” before “baby”. As in, “Make sure baby is fed before sleep.” THAT one absolutely makes my teeth itch. It’s so fucking twee and so fucking grammatically incorrect, I want to make anyone who partakes write a hundred lines saying “It’s THE baby”.

Always been one of my biggest pet peeves. HATED hearing my feminist friends using those terms. Yes, we are expecting a baby. But I was pregnant, thankyouverymuch.

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LMAO! 🤣🤣🤣

Conception isn’t equal - the majority of women don’t climax during PIV! And yet apparently we’e supposed to be as up for it as men are all the time! 😡

Ooh, which type? I know a man who says it who’s a type, and I want to see if your vision matches! I’ll be vindicated if so, bc he’s been massively annoying on occasion!

Oh yeah, my late paternal grandparents did this. Always thought it was a bit weird even as a kid. And my other ones didn’t do it.

Noooooo! People say that? I feel violent. ACTUALLY fucking violent.

Well when women are TTC men have to do whatever they are told and have to perform on demand

I'm embarrassed for anyone who says this.

Eh?

I presume both people want the baby.

'Perform on demand'.

FFS. Behave yourself.

It annoys me too. But as I get older so much about men annoys me. The fact that men are entering women’s sport when they have a biological advantage really bothers me.

I can understand why women are the ones who most often instigate divorce.

It’s usually women of low intelligence who use the phrase of “we’re pregnant”. Such women also like to go on mumsnet to describe their “birth experience” including such fascinating details as when their labor commenced, what time their waters broke and specific times with dilation of their cervix for everyone to know. I usually avoid such people.

All newborns look like Winston Churchill to me.

That's a brilliant response!!

Yes, and they make it in HER body! Once he's had a shag, he can disappear and never see her again and the outcome will be the same! Once conception has happened, the entire process happens one thousand percent independently of him! The woman does ALLLLLLLL the work!!!!

Oh, I think I'd be OK with that! He is expecting a baby as much as she is. But I suppose there's some overlap since an old-fashioned way of saying you're pregnant is to say you're expecting. Another silly, twee phrase. I'm expecting, too. I'm expecting all the time! I'm expecting tomorrow to be sunny and to enjoy the late-night shopping in my town. I'm also expecting to have a relaxing weekend. You get the gist. 🤣

But he does! He does have to perform on demand to hit ovulation, and she tells him when that is, so effectively it's her telling him when to assume position!

Oh yes, I went on a date once with a man who was telling me his ex-wife had had cancer. The way he put it was "We fought cancer." I bet he wasn't the one sitting in the chemo chair with a needle in his arm. Cancer patients often say it's a lonely journey even when surrounded by loved ones. Which I can imagine, since it's only their body which has to endure all the surgery and chemo side-effects. Not that it doesn't affect relatives MASSIVELY, but their bodies are not going through it.

I believe it. When my cousin's son was born he was the absolute spit of his dad. By the time he was two, he looked much more like his mum and still does. He looked like a totally different child after about first six months.