To be concerned about my dd being friends with this woman

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My dd is only 22 year old and she’s become friends with a middle aged 29 year old lady. Aibu to be concerned due to the huge age gap and the fact this woman must have completely different life goals to my young daughter

Is your daughter particularly immature? Or were you maybe very immature at her age?

At 22, I had friends in their 30s and older who are still close friends of mine years on. I can’t tell if your question is a joke but maybe you don’t think of your daughter as a fully grown adult?

I also don’t think many would agree with you that middle-age is reached in your 20s. The youngest I have ever known anyone to suggest middle-age starts is 35 but I think most would say 40s.

My best friend is 10 years younger than me. Another really good friend is 10 years older. Frankly OP, you’re nuts to worry about this.

When I was in my 30s I had a close friend in her sixties. We worked together and just got on really well so socialised outside work as well. It never seemed weird.

Many are still in their partying phase at 29. I had a friend from a sport who was 22 when I turned 30, I was married and she was a student but twice a week we did a sport and had a glass of wine after. Like normal people.

I'm 42 and one of my best mum friends is 33 so similar age difference

I just don't see the issue

Middle aged 29 year old 😂😂😂 Well I’m off to go lay down in a grave, being 38.

This must be a wind up 😂 I had friends older than 29 when I was 22 and younger than 22 at 29. 29 is definitely not middle aged. I live in an area where life expectancy and first time parents are younger than the national average but we still don't class 29 as middle age.

I would love to know some of your other views on life. This one is absolutely bonkers, so I bet there are more humdingers!

And next July is ‘very soon’? What kind of calendar have you got, obviously not a typical 12 month one!

They're both adults. I'm sure your DD is perfectly capable of making her own friends and having plenty of interests in common with a woman only 7 years older than her.

29 middle aged????
So a huge 7 year difference - quick call the inappropriate friend police!
I have friends 15 years younger than me and 15 years older too - what’s the big deal??

Middle aged at 29? Where do you live? The 1500s?

When I was in my early twenties my best work pal was a recent divorcee in her 40s. No dancefloor was safe, no man was safe. Great days.

There were no concerns when my 23 year old mum married my 30 year old dad and they were married for nearly 40 years until he passed away...

This is the most batshit aibu I've read in a while.

Good work op. But maybe get the meds changed ok...

I'm 43.

My best friends range from 28 to 55.

I don't think their parents are worried.

When I was 19 I met a woman at work in her 50s who had a daughter slightly younger than me, I’m still friends with her (the woman at work) now, she’s retired and I have kids of my own. How is 7 years a big deal 😂

I’m 44. One of my closest friends DS is 27.

someone should inform her mum so that she can intervene.

Are you the same poster who said they would describe a colleague in their 50s as “the old lady”?

Also, a 7 year age gap is nothing. I know lots of siblings who have larger age gaps.

Is 29 a typo?? 29 is NOT middle-aged...And even if she is middle-aged, why does it worry you? How did they meet? Do they have shared hobbies or interests, do they work together? I became involved in an am-dram group in my mid 20s and my favourite thing about it was meeting people of all ages; I became super close to a couple in their 40s, for instance, to the extent that they vouched for me and my boyfriend to get a rental apartment in their building, they came to my wedding, I went to theirs etc (they got married in their 50s!). I also have friends from that same group in their 80s, one of whom gives me all this gorgeous vintage clothing that belonged to her mother. Now I'm in my mid-30s, and still active in the group, I really enjoy making friends with the younger participants, even if it always makes me feel old when I find out some of them were born after 2000! Intergenerational friendships can be an amazing source of support and provide perspective on different life paths and choices that you wouldn't otherwise have access to.

This is utter nonsense, OP! How lovely for your daughter to have a friend who's a tiny bit older than her, to help her along the way.
In fact, if her friend was 40 or 50 I wouldn't see the problem. We need all different kinds of people in our lives.

Does she wash her eyeballs?

So they’re in a relationship, is that your concern?

What has Glasgow got to do with it??

I think your almost middle aged daughter will be fine.

🤔middle aged 29 year old

Think it has the lowest life expectancy in the UK

Wow, what a mental question! I would consider 22 and 29 to be be basically the same age. I'm 38, and have friends (male and female) ranging from their 20s to their 70s. What a boring world it would be if we only hung around with people with exactly the same life views and experiences as ourselves.